mathdoll
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Post by mathdoll on Apr 8, 2016 4:23:32 GMT -5
After 15 years of refusal, many, many discussions that went nowhere; when I had left and met someone else my XH said 'I didn't know it mattered that much to you.'
Prior to that he had laughed at me, ignored me, got angry. The final time he told me that I could lose another few lbs - I was 14lbs underweight already and he was 40lbs overweight. Even my psychiatrist wanted to confront him by then!
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mathdoll
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Post by mathdoll on Apr 5, 2016 14:46:43 GMT -5
As others have said document everything including dates, times and details of conversations. You will need to use your credit card for the next couple of months but the courts should make sure that you finally receive the alimony that you have earned over the last couple of decades. You will survive this and your STBX is, as someone else said making things worse for himself in the long run.
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mathdoll
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Post by mathdoll on Apr 5, 2016 1:46:15 GMT -5
Thanks. Those are some really helpful ideas.
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mathdoll
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Post by mathdoll on Apr 4, 2016 15:33:58 GMT -5
Wow. That feeling of being 'damaged goods' is so familiar.
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mathdoll
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Post by mathdoll on Apr 4, 2016 15:18:21 GMT -5
I was in a sexless marriage for 20 years. Hit my 49th birthday and met someone who completely blew me away sexually. Within 3 months we were living together, within 6 months I was divorced. We talked about getting married, buying somewhere together. We both have 'baggage' and have both been very ill at various times with depression. He also has Aspergers and possibly schizoid personality disorder (according to his psychiatrist). We had break ups but always sorted them out. After 2 years my new partner broke down in a restaurant and told me he wanted to break up but stay together as friends. That was 3 months ago. I moved out but we still spend a lot of time together, we cuddle, hold hands whenever we are together and he is always touching, stroking and kissing me. He tells me he loves me often.......but has said that we're not in a romantic relationship, won't kiss me on the mouth and although we often sleep in the same bed (spooning, cuddling) he won't have sex. (He did have a lot of difficulty reaching orgasm and also needed a lot of foreplay to get fully aroused.) I sometimes wonder whether he actually has always found sex difficult and just doesn't want the pressure? He can't explain why he feels as he says, still wants a future with me and thinks it's silly that I have my own home. I know he struggles to cope with daily life and he often says that I saved him from oblivion.
Can anyone help me to understand better what might be going on?
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