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Post by manman on Feb 3, 2018 2:23:03 GMT -5
Most people quite pathetic here So I’m confused manman , your solution worked, but you’re here calling us pathetic. I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you mean that in the nicest way possible. But really, I’m curious what brought you here. I’m guessing you weren’t googling sexless marriage because you don’t have that problem. Are you here just to give advice? If so, thank you! Please consider reading in depth some of the very painful stories people have shared. Believe me, for the vast majority of us, there’s been no lack of trying or applying pressure. No I meant pathetic in most blantant way possible to imagine people are whining here and refuse to do anything. I gave the method which will likely work if executed properly and what I here - no, I already asked my wife - she said no way, oh , i want intimacy right here and right now etc although if at least one person after reading this thread will try this I don't care about other losers who prefer to suffer
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Post by manman on Feb 3, 2018 2:24:54 GMT -5
My wife's response to demands like scheduled intimacy were comments along the line of, "yeah, that's not going to happen." I'd love to have manman get his wife on here to explain their sweaty multiple position can't get enough of you weekly sexcapades. you msut not demand anything - you msut give her choice- calendar or divorce let her be in control
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Post by manman on Feb 3, 2018 2:34:21 GMT -5
If this story has any credibility - and I'm none too sure that it does - it still requires the refused spouse to be prepared to put the marriage on the line. But, because they fear that the outcome might be to collapse their primary relationship, that is not a risk they are - at this time - prepared to run. So this "pressure theory" falls arse over head at the first hurdle. In fact *Any* theory that requires the refused spouse to put the marriage on the line is bound to fail to fly if the basic mindset - to put the marriage on the line - is absent. Probably, that's why people arrive here looking for a resolution of their ILIASM deal, but only on a basis wherein the marriage does not have to be put on the line. And resolutions that do not require the marriage to be put on the line are as rare as rocking horse shit. you assume other person doesn't care about marriage at all I guranty you 90% of rufusers don't want to divorce and want to be happier given chance there is a small risk but great reward for both spouses even if mariage collapses - it's not you who chose this outocme - why to worry?
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Post by manman on Feb 3, 2018 2:47:56 GMT -5
I may not post to the thread for sometime but I will monitor it. I believe I outlined how it works quite clear
now everyone can decide if he wants to continue suffering or do something for his family
maybe if somebody tries that and report after couple of months I will get back to discussion
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Post by tiredoftears on Feb 3, 2018 3:34:46 GMT -5
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Post by orangepeel on Feb 3, 2018 5:27:47 GMT -5
I may not post to the thread for sometime but I will monitor it. I believe I outlined how it works quite clear now everyone can decide if he wants to continue suffering or do something for his family maybe if somebody tries that and report after couple of months I will get back to discussion Why don’t you check in every Tuesday at 10.05 pm to give us our shake up?
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Post by ironhamster on Feb 3, 2018 7:06:31 GMT -5
My wife's response to demands like scheduled intimacy were comments along the line of, "yeah, that's not going to happen." I'd love to have manman get his wife on here to explain their sweaty multiple position can't get enough of you weekly sexcapades. you msut not demand anything - you msut give her choice- calendar or divorce let her be in control Will this method work for a lesbian gold digger?
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Post by bballgirl on Feb 3, 2018 7:19:24 GMT -5
That sounds like sex with a gun held to my head. Fuck me or else. Sounds like how every Thursday I wash my clothes and every Tuesday I scrub the toilets. It sounds like mediocre sex at best. There's no passion with that. Sounds like her bending over so you can get off. I can mastubate more passionately than that. Is she actively participating? Is she getting on top and kissing and making love to you at the same time? It may be a solution for you, but there is no cookie cutter solution for everyone. Furthermore the people here are not pathetic, they are empathetic, kind and compassionate people that have a thirst for something more in life than just mediocre. no gun at all, you partner chooses what she wants its her decision sort of like being fat and deciding to get in shape about mediocre sex - without regular exersing any sex is mediocre And what if your partner chooses starfish sex every Tuesday at 10:05? How's that going to work for you? There are some spouses that if you hold up divorce papers and say go down on me or sign, they will grab the pen. A person should not do something under coercion. Back to my original thought - I'm not interested in sex with a person I have to threaten divorce to get it. Not my type of sex. I want sex with a man that doesn't care if I'm sick and he could get sick but he still kisses me passionately. A person that is playful and fun in the sack. Fwb and I have a wager going on the Super Bowl- no matter what we both win! I may not get sex every Tuesday but I get it a couple of times a month and I'd prefer that to have sex with me or I'll divorce you. Quality vs Quantity.
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Post by ironhamster on Feb 3, 2018 7:39:25 GMT -5
no gun at all, you partner chooses what she wants its her decision sort of like being fat and deciding to get in shape about mediocre sex - without regular exersing any sex is mediocre And what if your partner chooses starfish sex every Tuesday at 10:05? How's that going to work for you? There are some spouses that if you hold up divorce papers and say go down on me or sign, they will grab the pen. A person should not do something under coercion. Back to my original thought - I'm not interested in sex with a person I have to threaten divorce to get it. Not my type of sex. I want sex with a man that doesn't care if I'm sick and he could get sick but he still kisses me passionately. A person that is playful and fun in the sack. Fwb and I have a wager going on the Super Bowl- no matter what we both win! I may not get sex every Tuesday but I get it a couple of times a month and I'd prefer that to have sex with me or I'll divorce you. Quality vs Quantity. I am right with you on that, Bballgirl. In my situation, once a month passionate get-togethers with a woman that WANTS to be with me beats the hell out of a weekly experience with a woman that sees me as a chore. The experience is nothing close to the same. Not. Even. Close. On a side note, papers are being drafted by the W's lawyer. 30% of my gross for perpetuity? Deal. Where do I sign?
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Post by bballgirl on Feb 3, 2018 7:44:03 GMT -5
And what if your partner chooses starfish sex every Tuesday at 10:05? How's that going to work for you? There are some spouses that if you hold up divorce papers and say go down on me or sign, they will grab the pen. A person should not do something under coercion. Back to my original thought - I'm not interested in sex with a person I have to threaten divorce to get it. Not my type of sex. I want sex with a man that doesn't care if I'm sick and he could get sick but he still kisses me passionately. A person that is playful and fun in the sack. Fwb and I have a wager going on the Super Bowl- no matter what we both win! I may not get sex every Tuesday but I get it a couple of times a month and I'd prefer that to have sex with me or I'll divorce you. Quality vs Quantity. I am right with you on that, Bballgirl. In my situation, once a month passionate get-togethers with a woman that WANTS to be with me beats the hell out of a weekly experience with a woman that sees me as a chore. The experience is nothing close to the same. Not. Even. Close. On a side note, papers are being drafted by the W's lawyer. 30% of my gross for perpetuity? Deal. Where do I sign? Good for you! Starting a new chapter! Enjoy the rest of your life and I know you will!!
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Post by lwoetin on Feb 3, 2018 8:20:05 GMT -5
I may not post to the thread for sometime but I will monitor it. I believe I outlined how it works quite clear now everyone can decide if he wants to continue suffering or do something for his family maybe if somebody tries that and report after couple of months I will get back to discussion this forum is helpful because we all share and learn from each other although our situations differ. So we take some and leave some advice, like dishes in a Chinese restaurant lunch buffet. A metric to how successful your approach is would be how long it lasts. Definitely post and participate at times so we can see how effective it is long term in your marriage.
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Post by ihadalove on Feb 3, 2018 8:31:46 GMT -5
you meet - have sex and done with it till the next time I'm not sure how happy she is but she gets her orgasms Sounds romantic. I think you'll find most here aren't looking for that kind of sex, and honestly it sounds like sex you would pay for.
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Post by bballgirl on Feb 3, 2018 8:34:18 GMT -5
That sounds like sex with a gun held to my head. Fuck me or else. Sounds like how every Thursday I wash my clothes and every Tuesday I scrub the toilets. It sounds like mediocre sex at best. There's no passion with that. Sounds like her bending over so you can get off. I can mastubate more passionately than that. Is she actively participating? Is she getting on top and kissing and making love to you at the same time? It may be a solution for you, but there is no cookie cutter solution for everyone. Furthermore the people here are not pathetic, they are empathetic, kind and compassionate people that have a thirst for something more in life than just mediocre. If it is working for him, it can work for another. And he is happy. The arrangement can survive indefinitely if she is happy. manman, is your wife happy? Would you care if she isn't? I agree this could be perfectly fine for him, his wife and others. It's a valid approach we need to have sex or else divorce but I believe it's more effective in a younger marriage. By the time I found EP my marriage was a shithole. I was married 18 years and finally came out of the fog. My H was not capable of giving me the enthusiastic sex that I wanted, nor did I want to be celibate. Threatening him with divorce or sex would have done nobody good in our marriage. So we got a divorce. Not to mention couples that are married 15 to 20 years, financially divorce is not always a practical solution if you still want to provide for your family, two households are more expensive than one. However if the marriage is newer or the relationship hasn't reached shithole status a threat of divorce vs frequent sex could be effective. The problem is by the time someone starts googling sexless marriage it's usually reached shithole status. Everyone is dealt a different hand in life, one should play their cards smart to maximize their happiness for themselves whatever that looks like and it's different for everyone.
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Post by choosinghappy on Feb 3, 2018 9:13:35 GMT -5
Congratulations manman for strong-arming your wife into fucking you once a week. No you are not physically holding a gun to her head but you ARE threatening and coercing her into doing what you want her to do. You are kidding yourself when you say you “put her in control” by giving her this ultimatum. What you have done is put her between a rock and a hard place and then patted yourself on the back for figuring out such an easy “solution”. But your method is void of any empathy for your wife. And your responses here also demonstrate a lack of empathy for all us “pathetic losers” who are in similar situations. My guess is that divorcing a man like you would cause your wife much more strife than to just grit her teeth and deal with doing something that “disgusts her” and then faking an orgasm once a week. If this truly feels like a happy resolution for you then enjoy that forced duty sex. But don’t berate the rest of us for not being content with lying to ourselves and accepting the same.
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Post by csl on Feb 3, 2018 10:16:08 GMT -5
you msut not demand anything - you msut give her choice- calendar or divorce let her be in control Will this method work for a lesbian gold digger? Well, if she wants the gold.....
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