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Post by obobfla on May 20, 2016 23:02:47 GMT -5
So sorry! You are in the right place. So many of us still love our spouses but want so much more.
My question is does he understand how his "sickness" affects you. I've said in another post that it is not your fault if you have a cold. But it is your responsibility wipe the snot from your nose and not cough or sneeze on anyone. Does he see a urologist for his condition? What about Viagra, Cialis, and other drugs?
Tell him that you are sorry that his libido is gone. Tell him that while you are not male, you would be mortified if your sex drive left. But then tell him that you would do what you could to get it back for his sake. Tell him that just because he is celibate doesn't mean you have to be.
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Post by obobfla on May 20, 2016 20:37:13 GMT -5
You mean two heterosexual men? Yes, but not sexual intimacy. I guess that two teammates in sports who have played together for a long time and work together almost instintively are intimate. But I doubt they would admit it.
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Post by obobfla on May 20, 2016 20:19:24 GMT -5
I do believe it is possible. But I wonder how gun shy I will be on my next relationship. While I hope for love, I don't know if I will be this patient with my next love.
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Post by obobfla on May 20, 2016 20:05:29 GMT -5
Ok, I read the topic, and Heart plays through my head. Anyway....
I am a romantic - both hopeful and hopeless. I want that best friend to play with, to explore, and to care for.
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Post by obobfla on May 20, 2016 19:17:23 GMT -5
Anger, no. In spite of all I have gone through with her, my wife is basically a sweet person. But I do get resentful - very resentful. And I also feel pity. She can't get out of herself and enjoy life. She can't enjoy me!
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Post by obobfla on May 20, 2016 19:10:47 GMT -5
Intimacy is two words: sharing and caring.
Sharing is telling your partner what you want, and he or she being receptive to it. Caring is asking what he or she wants and be willing to do it.
I also have a third word: trust. I am trusting my body and my feelings with this person, and she is with me.
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Post by obobfla on May 19, 2016 16:25:34 GMT -5
As my Instagram account will attest, physical appearance is important to me. I follow plenty of pretty girls with shapely rear ends. But they are pictures, and I will probably never have sex with any of them.
But more importantly is what the physical appearance tells me about the person. Is she neat? Does she take care of herself? A 20-year-old woman with a nice figure is probably blessed. A 45-year-old woman with a nice figure is someone who has worked for it. That is one reason I really like attractive older women.
A woman who keeps up her appearance has confidence in herself, which is a lot sexier than any derrière. And if she is smart and funny, I am in love!
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Post by obobfla on May 18, 2016 19:54:08 GMT -5
IDK, if a woman sends me any pic of herself, I don't complain. Especially if she sends one of her in a swimsuit!
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Post by obobfla on May 18, 2016 18:01:02 GMT -5
Having owed the IRS in the past, I can assure you that they can be easy to work with as long as you keep the lines of communication open. As far as sales go, my credit is shot, so there is no way I can help. Besides, what market do you sell homes in? But my desire for you to show me a house is still there! ?
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Post by obobfla on May 18, 2016 16:02:09 GMT -5
I have a platonic drop dead gorgeous female friend I tell everything to also. That's really nice to have. Yes, we know each too well to get involved with each other. If we did, it would ruin our entire relationship. Plus, she knows my wife and is aware of her problems. Most of my best friends have been attractive women. It helps a lot to have a good platonic friend of the opposite sex, and it is worth all the sexual frustration you may experience.
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Post by obobfla on May 18, 2016 1:09:46 GMT -5
Bballgirl, I think if you want some, you'll get some. Hard to read this one. Is he acting this way so you will make the first move? That sex is what you want? Or does he have some personal issues? One of my best friends is a female who I have a strictly platonic relationship with, but we tell each other everything. She is drop-dead gorgeous, but has has dated two men who never made the move on her. Turns out, both men had some serious issues. Good news is, that you will probably find out enough to know if you want a third date.
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Post by obobfla on May 18, 2016 1:09:36 GMT -5
Bballgirl, I think if you want some, you'll get some. Hard to read this one. Is he acting this way so you will make the first move? That sex is what you want? Or does he have some personal issues? One of my best friends is a female who I have a strictly platonic relationship with, but we tell each other everything. She is drop-dead gorgeous, but has has dated two men who never made the move on her. Turns out, both men had some serious issues. Good news is, that you will probably find out enough to know if you want a third date.
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Post by obobfla on May 16, 2016 16:50:14 GMT -5
How about "only driven by a little old lady to church on Sundays"
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Post by obobfla on May 15, 2016 17:49:29 GMT -5
Sanctuary
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Post by obobfla on May 15, 2016 11:59:29 GMT -5
Humongous
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