|
Post by solodriver on Sept 7, 2018 21:03:28 GMT -5
It is an awesome place to vent about SM issues. Last weekend my W and I went to a wedding. We were there with a number of old friends and I was the DD. At one point in the evening I reached over and unthinkingly, placed my hand on my W's thigh. She immediately backed away from me in her chair. She had a look on her face like I had just stabbed her with a steak knife. Our friend across the table said, "Oh, he is hoping for some tonight". Other friends started to giggle. I said, "All I have left is hope." The giggles shut down and the table fell silent as a tomb. I know for a fact that ours is not the only SM among those present that night. The elephant in the room... I'm not looking for advice or sympathy - just making the observation that ours is not a subject easily discussed. What I wouldn’t give for a man’s hand on my thigh! I don’t get it- What I wouldn't give to be able to put my hand on a women's thigh!
|
|
|
Post by solodriver on Sept 7, 2018 20:58:34 GMT -5
I bet tirefire knows about her gushing
|
|
|
Post by solodriver on Sept 6, 2018 23:44:07 GMT -5
I have been biting my tongue trying not to ask, waiting for a good moment!! I am such a sucker for romance!! I get almoat as much joy hearing about other peoples' happiness as I would from my own!! LOVE WINS!! SM LOSES!! Lol! It was never a secret and whenever someone asked I told him/her. But there just never seemed to be a time to bring it up in an organic way. I think we both sort of feel like shouting it from the rooftops so good on you for asking workingonit 😊 Haha! I am happy to gush and gross everyone out. It's not gross it's WONDERFUL and exciting!
|
|
|
Post by solodriver on Sept 4, 2018 21:53:10 GMT -5
At work, a younger female colleague responds to a completely innocuous email of mine (where I had confirmed some trivial information) with the following line: "You're my favorite" (my boss is copied) Upon seeing the email, my head gets all dizzy and my knees weak. How starved for female affection am I? I get that way when I'm touched by one. How starved it that?
|
|
|
Post by solodriver on Sept 4, 2018 2:30:07 GMT -5
Kinda like how southern women will say “Well, bless your heart” when they really mean “You f’ing asshole”. Oh is that what that meant? Wow. I wonder what "Well bless your little pea-pickin heart" meant?
|
|
|
Post by solodriver on Sept 3, 2018 22:31:19 GMT -5
When do we get to know who it is??? Curious minds are wondering... 😉 Haha workingonit my sweet, handsome, sexy man is tirefire . I'm very happy for you and him.
Like shamwow and ballofconfusion maybe you and/or he can share with us your experiences sometime. How long, how far away you live from each other and how often can you get together? Do you travel to him or does he travel to you or do you meet at a mutually agreed upon place.
Like with shamwow and ballofconfusion and others, to me, these stories are just fun and great to read about and gives hope for those of us who are exiting to see the possibilities that are out there waiting.
Hugs and cheers to you both!
|
|
|
Post by solodriver on Sept 3, 2018 21:28:31 GMT -5
I do think that outsourcing because you're in a SM, and you have tried your best to work out the issues with no success with your refuser, makes you human. We all need love and intimacy in our life. To me it's what makes life worth living, having that special someone that you connect with, to share those very important, special sexual connections with.
|
|
|
Post by solodriver on Sept 3, 2018 12:57:55 GMT -5
(((Hugs))) I enjoy reading your updates and seeing how happy you are. Gives me something to focus on and hope for my future. How are things with your special guy?
|
|
|
Post by solodriver on Sept 2, 2018 22:41:01 GMT -5
Yes bballgirl , Cold and I want it to stop before I need to get a shovel . Cold as a Frigidaire! ( I've always liked that clever comparison!) My Frigidaire is so cold when she spreads her legs a light comes on!
|
|
|
Post by solodriver on Sept 1, 2018 12:54:14 GMT -5
I never forget, especially if the relationship was intimate, but I don't think of it very often. But if something like a special song from that relationship comes up, I remember, often with a smile, for having had that experience and sadness for what might had been.
|
|
|
Post by solodriver on Sept 1, 2018 12:44:58 GMT -5
"Southern" to me at least, is so very sexy!
|
|
|
Post by solodriver on Aug 30, 2018 3:26:37 GMT -5
I wonder WHAT she's doing tonight?
|
|
|
Post by solodriver on Aug 28, 2018 23:15:39 GMT -5
northstarmom said: "Journal about this."
I will. And I know just where I'll journal it.
|
|
|
Post by solodriver on Aug 28, 2018 23:13:00 GMT -5
But I'm going to remind her about me "creeping her out" whenever she wants something from me.
Example:
Can you please put some medicine on my feet?
I creep you out, why do you want me to do that?
I like this tactic to a point. My advice from my own experience would be, use it a few times. Then drop it. My guess is you will not receive any kind of apology. She will deny it and avoid it. But be aware, her lip will snarl with anger at you. The more angry you make her by exposing her faults the more revengeful she will become. You will be putting gas on the fire. Standing up for yourself is good, dropping the rope in a tug of war that you will not win at, is better. Instead continue to gain ground by not playing along with her hurtful,childish, tactics, instead take the high road. Remind yourself " Thank you Lord that I am not like that, this woman has problems that I can not fix. I deserve better" I will be helping myself and her by avoiding conflict as much as possible as I gain the upper hand by learning as much about the divorce procedure and act upon it. Hopefully in your final year you will hear and see her selfish actions, and hear her demoralizing words towards you -and others -and you will react to it. You will stand there in silence, one arm crossed the other with your clenched fist up against your closed mouth, and your head will shake slightly, as you think to yourself" mmm... mmm. thank you for continually proving that I am making the right choice by giving myself a new beginning." Thank you greatcoastal. Your advice is wise and I will use it.
|
|
|
Post by solodriver on Aug 28, 2018 21:08:20 GMT -5
solodriver said: "Today I'm trying to create a new picture of a future Christmas day. All I want for Christmas now is to be with someone whom I can share love and romance with. I would spend the day with giving her beautiful flowers, going shopping with her to find a dress and/or nightwear she would like (before Christmas) and treating her to a candlelight Christmas dinner, followed by day and night of romantic, passionate, fun-filled lovemaking at a very nice hotel, enjoying each others bodies, looks, smiles, kisses, tastes and smells over and over again. I don't want anything for myself, just to be able to provide that experience would be present enough for me." Journal about this. Write it as vividly as you did here. Imagine that you're living that life. Masturbate to those fantasies. That's what I did, and now, for 5 years, I've been happily with the love of my life, a man who loves me, loves making love to me, and who thinks I'm so lovely that he posts pictures of me on FB and says, "Isn't she lovely!" A woman friend whom I used to journal with says I wrote my way to my dreams. What a nice though northstarmom. I need to keep it in the front of my face.
|
|