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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 5, 2022 13:45:26 GMT -5
Also STI's. Did you know that some crazy amount of the population has HSV. Even worse, many people are not aware. Even worse it doesnt show up on a standard STI exam. You gotta ask for it. If that doesn't scare you off casual sex, have at it! I am slowly making my way back into the dating pool. It's pretty difficult living where I do as the pool of ladies in my age demographic is really tiny. But on the off chance I get lucky, I am going to get a panel STI test for the 1st time. If the opportunity presents itself, I don't want uncertainty about my sexual health to be a question mark. My research tells me the panel will cost a couple hundred dollars, (more or less) but if it helps get me laid it will be money well spent.
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 5, 2022 8:37:21 GMT -5
I have been on this forum since 2018 and was never a part of EP. I came to ILIASM knowing I needed to leave my M so it took very little convincing, although it did take a bit of tough talk to help me understand that hope was in fact dead and I wasn't being selfish. The guidance and support I received was invaluable. Although firm, the guidance was also respectful and compassionate. I will be honest, we lost a great deal of compassion on this site during the Covid years. We also lost our benevolent administrator who "reminded" us to keep things polite and made sure we stayed on topic. This forum should only focus on ILIASM issues. Topics like politics and the endless disection of Covid treatment strategies have no place here. I would be happy to come back (and contribute) on a routine basis as long as the membership sticks only to the reason we are here, an administrator actively ensures no-one strays, and we work together to welcome the newbies and make them feel comfortable contributing. We need an active administrator- any ideas? Honestly speaking, if the site only allowed postings specific to SM I probably wouldn't be around long. I log on most every day looking for something new. Postings by new members is somewhat infrequent now. I'm guessing a new SM post only appears every couple of weeks now as an average. That means there isn't a lot to respond to. My thoughts are that the current membership seeing even less traffic would gradually drift away since there would not be much to see. I'm thinking that would lead to the end of this forum pretty quickly.
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 3, 2022 10:29:47 GMT -5
I am still here after 6yrs or so. Before that I was on EP for a couple yrs. And then that site closed the doors. It was at the EP site that a couple members gave me the tough love I needed to realize there was little chance of fixing my SM. And they were right. I am now divorced for what will soon be 7 yrs. I think Drycreek hit aa lot of the right notes in the difference between the two sites. I would add that perhaps the people who mostly visit and sift for answers to their own SM are changed from the members that were on EP. When ILIASM get a new posting, it seems that OP doesn't hang around long. A couple 2-3-4 posts and then they are gone. It took me much longer to recognize the intimacy was over and would not be back, except for the quarterly reset. I doubt there is much that we can do other than perhaps post on other boards so people will know this site exists. I did that a couple times On Similar Worlds, but I don't think it has a SM section anymore. If this site is sinking, I will probably go down with the ship. Where else can I post my jabs at liberals and progressives and the occasional bit of Dark Humor?
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 2, 2022 10:57:55 GMT -5
I'm leaning toward escorts, but as we're basically never apart, it'll be next to impossible. I guess I feel the escort option is less likely to blow up the marriage. It's tough to be my age and in reasonably good health and able to achieve normal erections and here I sit jacking off like a teenager. Good luck I feel your pain. I recently did some investigation on escorts and costs in my neck of the woods. Turns out probably 95% of them are in their mid to later 20's. Didn't see a one over age 33. And they are really expensive. Anywhere from 200 to 500 an hour. So I am ruling out escorts unless I win the lottery or something. I agree it's quite frustrating not to have access to women our age. Reading the most recent surveys doesn't offer any encouragement. (Most recent I found are still between 8 and 15 yrs in print) Only about 20% of women over age 65 are still sexually active. Then consider maybe half of them are married and that cuts the potentially available to only 10% of our age demographic. Not very good odds.
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 1, 2022 19:42:22 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 1, 2022 19:34:02 GMT -5
Liberals and progressives no longer support strong, independent women following election of conservative mother Giorgia Meleni Attachments:
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Post by worksforme2 on Sept 30, 2022 9:32:23 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Sept 28, 2022 8:53:34 GMT -5
One last sniff....President Biden gets one last whiff of the royal aroma bidding the Queen good bye.... Attachments:
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Post by worksforme2 on Sept 21, 2022 18:13:31 GMT -5
A couple different times when I was younger a woman gave me "the clap". Trust me, you don't want that.....
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Post by worksforme2 on Sept 21, 2022 7:46:46 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Sept 20, 2022 18:02:22 GMT -5
And why should it feel weird? Is she like 22 or something? Don't read more into it than her simply wanting to say "Thanks" in person, and maybe buy you an adult beverage. Play it by ear just in case it is more.
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Post by worksforme2 on Sept 19, 2022 13:47:24 GMT -5
I can't remember how long you've been divorced but I think most people need some distance from their exes for a while so they can heal and reclaim their own lives. I'd think that would be even harder to do if you live in the same area and go to the same church. We have been divorced now roughly 7 yrs. During that time I have done a # of "honey do" type things for her that saved her hundreds of dollars. When she was in the hospital for kidney stones I looked to her needs there. We used to catch a movie or a meal together, going Dutch on the costs. But it seems that as she has accumulated wealth, she has less interest in maintaining any sort of friendship. Too bad. I will respect what seems to be her wishes and temper my efforts at friendship.
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Post by worksforme2 on Sept 19, 2022 7:09:00 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Sept 18, 2022 17:41:57 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Sept 17, 2022 16:21:41 GMT -5
My X has taken a big hit in my assessment of her worth as a person. I have been trying to remain a good and decent friend to her. but it is obvious to me at this point that she places little value on my friendship. She never calls me just to talk. She does not initiate a conversation at church. She really seems to be going to some length to avoid talking with me. In retrospect I don't think I have seen her talk to any male at church in years. In a effort to rekindle the friendship I ask her out for a meal. She agreed, but the meal was a bust. She immediately separated from me at the buffet and hurried to the table to eat. She wolfed down her food without waiting for me to join her and without speaking. After watching her demolish the food I did manage to get a conversation going. To my surprise she just wanted to talk about how much money she has accumulated now. Then she seemed in a hurry to leave. Turns out she wanted to get home for football. After a few minutes I just said goodnight and headed home. I think it's time for me to stop wasting my efforts on the friendship.
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