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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 16, 2024 10:28:25 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 14, 2024 16:23:36 GMT -5
kj252,....welcome to the forum. Your's is not a unique story. Many members have spoken of spouses who avoid touch like some sort of communicable disease. What is unusual is that she initiates sex on a weekly basis. Althought on the surface, it looks like she is selfish in that she rushes to her own orgasm. You don't say if she stays engeged until you finish. I hope so. Again other members have reported the same thing with their spouses. But often following their own orgasm they could care less about satisfying their spouse. The last yr. of my marriage my then W would initiate more or less quarterly by announcing she was " in the mood". Not very romantic . She also wanted an orgasm and then she would ask me if I was about done. I have always been a slow finisher, so she would encourage me to "hurry up and finish". So I get where you are coming from.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 13, 2024 14:54:40 GMT -5
welcome to the forum elsewhere,...as you have been lurking for a while, you know what we are about here.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 10, 2024 12:18:16 GMT -5
UPDATE: Since dropping my membership from Our Time I have been getting 3 times the attention from the site that I was receiving. But the quality of the attention is no better than it was as an active member. Virtually all the women are far away and few are actually in my age demographic. They ask if I would recommend their site and offered a rating scale. I gave them a zero and said no to the recommendation. Good on the zero recommendation! Now that I've turned 60 yrs. old I haven't tried "Our Time" . However I had the same experience with Match and Bumble. Some of the women have been off the site for years ( if they ever existed in the first place, and aren't just made up bots) It's all about the dating sites getting your $$$. Just before I left Our Time I Googled complaints about the site. Turns out one of the biggest complaints was exactly what I experienced. Not getting any responses from potential dates who lived close. And not seeing any potential dates being recommended who lived close. So apparently it didn't matter that I live in a rural setting. If others are experiancing the same thing it means the site isn't making any effort to actually facilitate 2 single people making a connection. Perhaps because if people met and formed a relationship they would leave the site. But my thinking is if one is not successful on a dating site you are probably going to leave that site anyway. UPDATE: I used to get an e-mail about once a week showing 9 member who supposedly match me. Unfortunately almost none of the matches met the criteria I listed as my preferences. Most were not in my age demographic and almost all lived far away, 50-150 miles from me. Now I get that same e-mail showing 9 picks for me just about every day, even though I left the site. And those picks are still not in my age demographic or living within the driving range I stated.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 10, 2024 12:08:07 GMT -5
I hope the HRT works out. My last year of marriage, I found a woman that was on HRT, and raved about the benefits. She was willing to talk with my wife about her experiences. I was so hopeful, but, my wife was adamant that there was nothing wrong with her, and how dare I suggest otherwise, so, that hopefully fruitful conversation never happened. Our wives took different paths on this but the destination was the same.
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Update
Apr 10, 2024 6:02:15 GMT -5
Post by worksforme2 on Apr 10, 2024 6:02:15 GMT -5
Her new HRT patch has made a huge difference . But despite me mentioning it previously it was only when she decides to give it a go that the treatment started . I really want this to work . My kids are 13 and 11. Don’t want to be taking risks I tried to talk my then W into trying HRT, but she refused. 2 reasons She said she took enough medication dealing with her high blood pressure and cholesterol. She also feared possible cancer from the therapy. Her mom and sister both died from ovarian cancer and she was born with only 1 ovary, so no go on the HRT.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 8, 2024 6:58:31 GMT -5
Today I learned that Ravens have 17 primary feathers per wing, the large feather at the end or back of the wing. This feather is called a pinon. Turns out Crows have 16 primary feathers. So it seems the difference between a Raven and a Crow is a matter of a pinon.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 8, 2024 6:39:55 GMT -5
Plow that furrow straight and true....
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 7, 2024 18:29:21 GMT -5
Gotta love the outright denial tactic. "We don't have sex." "Yes, we do." "No, we haven't had sex in over a year." "Yes, we have." "I remember where I put my penis, and it hasn't been inside you since the Clinton Administration." "You're wrong. Why are you lying about this and attacking me?" Gaslighting When I tried to initiate my X would say "we just had sex". So I finally showed her a calandar listing date and type of sex for the last year. Seeing the calandar she got very quiet and soon found someplace else ro be.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 7, 2024 13:17:34 GMT -5
I have started telling everyone about the benefit of eating dried grapes. It's all about raisin awareness,
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 6, 2024 7:23:23 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 5, 2024 10:48:19 GMT -5
We hashed it out again - hopefully she is going to positively respond to the direction for HRT, and to treat vaginal atrophy and work on responsive desire. It was a long night If I understand you, the therapist has recommended HRT. And I suppose some medication for vaginal atrophy. The responsive desire part was also present in my SM. My then W had no desire but once we were actively engaged in intercoarse she responded well and then exhibited desire. But as time pased she refused more often until she refused every time. Once intercoarse stopped so did responsive desire.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 5, 2024 8:58:54 GMT -5
You are correct, this is wholly normal in a healthy marriage and an important part of emotional intimacy. Subtle references to knowledge of plans for later and just what floats their boat. Knowledge just for you and not for the world to know because you are their spouse. When trapped in my barren marriage I remember longing for him to make even the most subtle reference to such intimate knowledge between us. It’s a small thing when you have it in life, but a massive hole when you don’t. This is bringing into focus how critical it is to recognize the putrefying nature of loss of desire by the refuser (or loss of sympathy for adult appetites of romantic partners when desire does not exist, or never did). It may behoove refused spouses to recognize it early and take measures much sooner rather than later. Actions need to be taken towards restoring relations when erotic bids are getting consistently rejected and alternative plans constructed lest a death spiral ensue. Such alteration of strategy may more quickly uncover empathic ruptures or other causes of distancing before they are forgotten and only emotional memory places inexplicable gaps between spouses. mirrororchid,...this sounds good in theory, but practical application , at least on this forum, is often as not nearly impossible to put in place. Almost all of us have "why chased" ourselves until we are blue in the face. And many of us, myself included, have attempted and offered all manor of solutions and to our spouses. More often than not those attempts at fixes or compromises are rejected by the refusing spouse. And often, if a compromise is reached and agreed to it does not result in a permanent fix, but is of short duration with the previous state of celebacy once again becoming the norm. Only a hand full of members here have achieved success. So it can be done it seems, but the odds are relatively high on it not happening.
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 5, 2024 4:58:57 GMT -5
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 4, 2024 8:04:39 GMT -5
Yes, sorry...biscuits. They had chocolate on them, and they were thin and crispy. Little bastards were delicious. Another co-worker from Scotland brought in homemade Scottish shortbread. That was even better! There you go, I rest my case. And coincidentally, I popped to Scotland over the Easter weekend as it’s not far from where I live. I had shortbread too, which was delicious. Is that messed with over there as well? OK isthisit,...i have had enough of the insults to American cuisine. Scroll down the page to the post by csl and view the response of young british males who are now open to new American foods and flavors. These are foods found in the south( my world) in particular. And this is only the beginning. There is mashed potatoes and gravy, county styled steak, the list goes on. We have even created a piece of table ware specifically for gravy...the gravy boat.
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