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Post by JMX on Jul 19, 2016 19:19:11 GMT -5
@creelunion, I learned early in life not to make any plans that were too firm and definite. So many things in my life were so easily disrupted by other people's wants and actions. Sure, I had things I *wanted*. I *wanted* to marry a man I loved who loved me, and have a couple of kids. Now, I will admit that I made some bad decisions along the way - lots of them. So, I can't blame all of this on other people, not by a long shot. But when I met my ex, it really seemed that for once in my life, I was doing things right and not screwing up. If you recall, our relationship started out very good and developed problems over time. I think that at least for some years, he really loved me AND really found me desirable. I even remember times in the early years when he wanted sex more than I did! (And me being the lazy/sexy/naughty woman that I am, I would go along with it, unless I was running a fever. Because I knew that even if I wasn't in the mood to begin with - he could get me in the mood!) That's why it was particularly heartbreaking and confusing when he started becoming a refuser - because I knew that at one time, he DID want me. It wasn't like these deals where a normal sexual man decides to marry someone prissy, hoping she'll become more loving and more fun as time goes on. I have a theory about the prissy ice queen part. I have one or two friends that fall in this category and are also refusers. The common thread in those relationships? The women were looking for an ATM and the men in those relationships were a little shallow and only looking surface (maybe a biological need to pass on their seed with a pretty woman). I hate even typing that because I don't want any of the men here thinking I think that they are silly (you all are obviously not this way) but I absolutely knew those men when we were all younger and I know they only "saw" what they wanted to see and never asked 5 questions deep about any topic of importance. One of those girlfriends of mine is now getting divorced. We went out recently and her meeting guys Schtick is exactly the same. She talks about herself, and about things you know they are just not interested in (like mind-numbingly mundane) and proceeds to drop hints about how they should pay her tab and overall acted like an ass. Did they flock to her in interest? Absolutely! But they're not in their 20s anymore and bored of it easily. They didn't stick around too long. She wanted to go out again and I told her - as long as she doesn't talk to random dudes about her divorce, money or her tab, I am game but otherwise, I will leave her ass at the bar if she embarrassed me like that again. So... Ice Princess works well in your 20s when some guy has a need to bed down beautiful women and aren't really thinking through things, but the older ones (I would guess many) have probably grown up from the guy that would tolerate that bull shit. |
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Post by pfviento on Jul 19, 2016 19:28:37 GMT -5
Not really offensive JMX. There is some truth to that.
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Post by baza on Jul 19, 2016 19:58:42 GMT -5
Back in the day, I tried the following strategy in trying to pick up women.
It used to work pretty well. Not always, but often enough.
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What you need.
(a) - a wingman to hopefully be skilled enough to keep a conversation rolling.
(b) - a group of at least 3 chicks, on their own.
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Method.
Surreptitiously check the 3 out, and if there is one there that looks appealing, mosey on over (with your wingman) and start up a general conversation but apart from the usual social niceties, do NOT engage flirtatiously with the one you fancy. Flirt with the other 2 as appropriate.
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Often, the one you fancy will be ahead of the game and will know what you are up to, and will take a step backward away from the dynamic. If that's the case, you may as well put that down to experience and go to the bar and start demolishing scotches.
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However, as often as not, the one you fancy will start to aggressively push themselves in to the conversation (that you and your wingman have been cultivating) on a "hey, look at me" basis, and be far more forward than they ever intended to be.
This is a good time to introduce plenty of alcohol in to the situation to squash any inhibitions that might still be present.
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Pounce, like a striking mongoose !!!!
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And bear in mind that what worked in the 1980's may not be valid in 2016
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Post by unmatched on Jul 19, 2016 20:03:58 GMT -5
Back in the day, I tried the following strategy in trying to pick up women. It used to work pretty well. Not always, but often enough. - What you need. (a) - a wingman to hopefully be skilled enough to keep a conversation rolling. (b) - a group of at least 3 chicks, on their own. - Method. Surreptitiously check the 3 out, and if there is one there that looks appealing, mosey on over (with your wingman) and start up a general conversation but apart from the usual social niceties, do NOT engage flirtatiously with the one you fancy. Flirt with the other 2 as appropriate. - Often, the one you fancy will be ahead of the game and will know what you are up to, and will take a step backward away from the dynamic. If that's the case, you may as well put that down to experience and go to the bar and start demolishing scotches. - However, as often as not, the one you fancy will start to aggressively push themselves in to the conversation (that you and your wingman have been cultivating) on a "hey, look at me" basis, and be far more forward than they ever intended to be. This is a good time to introduce plenty of alcohol in to the situation to squash any inhibitions that might still be present. - Pounce, like a striking mongoose !!!! - And bear in mind that what worked in the 1980's may not be valid in 2016 So you never started singing to her in the bar? I seem to remember that being popular back in the 80s... |
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Post by DryCreek on Jul 19, 2016 20:17:44 GMT -5
So you never started singing to her in the bar? I seem to remember that being popular back in the 80s... Hey, it worked for Maverick! |
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Post by baza on Jul 19, 2016 20:35:35 GMT -5
"So you never started singing to her in the bar? I seem to remember that being popular back in the 80s..."
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I do recall a musical incident from back then.
One night there was a cover band styled "The Angles" who did covers of the famous Australian band "The Angels" that Doc Neeson used to front.
Anyway, I have ended up on stage after a fair few brews and belting out "Am I Ever Gonna See Your Face Again" in passable fashion before falling arse over head as I vacated the stage.
Not exactly chick magnet stuff.
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Post by unmatched on Jul 19, 2016 21:07:25 GMT -5
"Am I ever gonna see your face again?" "No way, get fucked, fuck off." That one?
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Post by baza on Jul 19, 2016 21:10:39 GMT -5
That's the one Brother unmatched.
Excellent for audience participation.
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Post by unmatched on Jul 19, 2016 21:26:23 GMT -5
Maybe that should be our theme song?
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Post by JMX on Jul 19, 2016 21:37:26 GMT -5
We need a new thread: the best karaoke songs that will get you laid.
I sang this one acapella in a bar one night (they didn't have the song on their karaoke machine) and had scores of tables of men, drop their jaws, sing along and - I had 5 marriage proposals by the end of the night. Awe - the 20s were fun.
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Post by unmatched on Jul 19, 2016 22:43:40 GMT -5
We need a new thread: the best karaoke songs that will get you laid. I sang this one acapella in a bar one night (they didn't have the song on their karaoke machine) and had scores of tables of men, drop their jaws, sing along and - I had 5 marriage proposals by the end of the night. Awe - the 20s were fun. You really sang that song a capella in a bar? |
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Post by JMX on Jul 19, 2016 22:49:54 GMT -5
unmatched - yes, yes I did. 'Twas not lady-like, but I got some attention.
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Post by unmatched on Jul 19, 2016 22:55:26 GMT -5
unmatched - yes, yes I did. 'Twas not lady-like, but I got some attention. LOL I bet you did! And being lady-like never won anybody any prizes. |
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Post by JMX on Jul 19, 2016 22:57:42 GMT -5
unmatched - yes, yes I did. 'Twas not lady-like, but I got some attention. LOL I bet you did! And being lady-like never won anybody any prizes. My booger costume one Halloween won my table 3 free pitchers of beer. |
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Post by eternaloptimism on Jul 20, 2016 1:53:44 GMT -5
JMX that song is hilarious! I hope you sang it at a medium pace! About to post one of my absolute fave comedy songs from Flight of the Conchords in lighter side. You need to watch it! X
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