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Post by iceman on Jul 5, 2016 9:03:38 GMT -5
We still sleep in the same bed, we don't have a spare bedroom and the couch is not big and comfortable enough. I go to bed early because I have to get up early. The size of our couch is another reason I still sleep with my wife. Our's is too small, or maybe I'm too big I guess. That would be the only option except the floor. She doesn't toss and turn or snore or do anything to keep me awake (unfortunately). Once were asleep I don't even know she's there. |
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Post by eternaloptimism on Jul 5, 2016 9:13:21 GMT -5
We broke 2 in the early days!! Sadly our current bed is totally sagged on his side with a distinct improvement down the middle to brand new mattress appearance! Lazy shite. Lazy shite indeed!! I realized a long while ago that my wife views my side of the bed as foreign territory. When we did have sex she would never make the effort to come over to my side of the bed. It was always me going over to her mainly because it was always me initiating and she wasn't going to be energetic enough to move. At one point she would be lying flat on her back on her side of the bed reaching over limply to stimulate me, I guess, in her version of foreplay. It felt like she was trying to find keys she dropped in the dark on the floor of the car. Isn't it just ridiculous. Where did we find these people!!! |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 5, 2016 9:44:42 GMT -5
This is sort of on topic. My wife announced this morning she knows why she wakes up with her hands numb. It's the mattress, we need a new one.
I just listen. So much will get exposed on how this gets handled. The mattress works fine for me,I have no problems. I can sleep on anything. Any mattress would do, the cheaper the better! Do I dare go out and buy a new one?
What should be a two hour task will be a wealth of problems. I plan on letting her do the buying, I'll go pick it up and set it up. If only she would show me the budget, ask for my approval , do the research, ( my research, and information gets criticized), and communicate from the beginning. Her empty comment about her hand and the mattress , leaves me with,thoughts of " okay how do you wan't me to respond?" Another double bind. Your damned if you go out and buy the wrong one, and your damned if you sit and say nothing.
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Post by cagedtiger on Jul 5, 2016 10:10:56 GMT -5
During the week I'm usually in bed by 1030, 11 at the latest with the intent of going straight to sleep- my wife will usually have been in bed for a good while by then, and will usually stay up watching TV for another hour or two while I'm trying to fall asleep. Then I'll be up first to take the puppy for a run and let our older dog out before work, and I'm often out the door before my wife even wakes up. The last few months though, we've been spending a lot of time it seems alternating who sleeps in the bed and who sleeps in the office. I get more space the twin in the office, since she sort of just sprawls out in the middle of our queen size, saving me just a sliver of space.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 5, 2016 10:23:30 GMT -5
During the week I'm usually in bed by 1030, 11 at the latest with the intent of going straight to sleep- my wife will usually have been in bed for a good while by then, and will usually stay up watching TV for another hour or two while I'm trying to fall asleep. Then I'll be up first to take the puppy for a run and let our older dog out before work, and I'm often out the door before my wife even wakes up. The last few months though, we've been spending a lot of time it seems alternating who sleeps in the bed and who sleeps in the office. I get more space the twin in the office, since she sort of just sprawls out in the middle of our queen size, saving me just a sliver of space. Well...if she is a bed hog, what gives her the right? Aren't you both entitled to a good nights rest. Aren't you both entitled to an equal amount of the bed? Wake her up every time. Demand that she move over. Keep waking her till she does. Tell her she can sleep in the office, and that every time she encroaches on your side of the bed you will wake her up. Take back some respect. It would help you in your daily struggle too, when she sees more of a " I won't put up with it attitude". |
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Post by RumRunner on Jul 5, 2016 15:14:00 GMT -5
I don't sleep in the same bed with my husband and haven't in years. It began because he snores terribly. Now, I have no desire to be near him at all. In fact, we had to sleep in the same bed last summer when we did an overnight stay in a hotel. It was so uncomfortable. If the room had a tub, I would have slept there! Wow... you sound like me! I haven't been in the same bed with my wife in over 20 years. Any time we have to stay in a hotel, I get a room with two beds. Like you, I would be uncomfortable in the same bed as her. It would strangely feel like an invasion of her privacy. |
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Post by ggold on Jul 5, 2016 15:22:22 GMT -5
RumRunner Yes!!! I totally feel that way too!! It's unnatural for us to sleep together now. So depressing but true!!
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