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Post by dancingbear70 on Jun 12, 2016 13:52:03 GMT -5
I used to be surprised when someone told me they hooked up on EP. (I used to think I was special! ;-/) Now I am surprised if they didn't. Let grab some empirical data. I hope I have captured the proper options.
I love a great story. If you have an EP hookup story to share, please do so below. If the other party is on here, please clear it before using their name!
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Post by smilin61 on Jun 12, 2016 14:36:52 GMT -5
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Post by dancingbear70 on Jun 12, 2016 15:05:06 GMT -5
smilin61 - Only one in the multiple choice. But extra credit for submitting an essay portion!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 12, 2016 15:45:03 GMT -5
Umm...technical question: Does being told to "Fuck Off" count as cybersex?  |
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Post by dancingbear70 on Jun 12, 2016 16:35:52 GMT -5
Umm...technical question: Does being told to "Fuck Off" count as cybersex? I believe that depends upon how much you enjoyed it! |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 12, 2016 16:58:46 GMT -5
Umm...technical question: Does being told to "Fuck Off" count as cybersex? I believe that depends upon how much you enjoyed it! Good point. It was OK, but there was an emptiness to it. I guess I prefer to be told to Fuck Off in person by someone who loves me. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 12, 2016 21:17:52 GMT -5
When I first joined EP and posted on ILIASM, I got into a minor flame war with a veteran contributor over his opinion that I was so stupid I should commit suicide for considering an affair with my next door neighbor. Well I guess it was a bit tongue in cheek because I got an out of the blue message from him which started out, direct quote, "you can get laid here." How right he was. I know I wasn't even close to being the only one. Some of you are smiling as you read this. There were quite a few dates, hookups, online affairs, offline affairs, long term relationships and even marriages that came out of ILIASM.
But I never felt like it was a meat market. The decorum of the group was genuine, there was a lot of respect between members. So it was much better than a dating site. The ratio of classy folks to losers was much higher. Best of all, people who went there just looking to get laid were told to fuck off. ILIASM hookups grew organically out of our shared experience.
That's at least how I recall it.
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Post by obobfla on Jun 12, 2016 21:43:44 GMT -5
I met my last partner in crime on EP. She was in Georgia. I had developed a few close relationships, including one with a lady in England. Had I had the airfare and a passport, I would have visited her. But I was able to correspond over a few months with the lady in Georgia, and we got a chance to get together a year ago. We still chat. Not sure where the relationship is going, though.
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Post by Rhapsodee on Jun 12, 2016 23:21:31 GMT -5
Cybered with a few women on ep both in and out of the iliasm club. Interestingly all bar one of the experience were instigated by them. Nothing happened IRL I seemed to only connect with people oceans away. I found it revealing of myself to get to know someone without necessarily knowing what they looked like, finding attraction that wasn't based on physical traits or looks, theirs or mine. A couple became emotional affairs to a degree (at least on my behalf) extending beyond several months. I still have contact with those few I spent the most time communicating with and consider them friends. What exactly is an emotional affair? |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 12, 2016 23:31:52 GMT -5
Rhapsodee, it used to be that if a married person developed an interest in someone else, but did not physically stray, it was called a crush, and nobody got too upset about it. After all, they *are* technically obeying the rules. Now, if you are married, but have a crush on someone else, if you are unlucky enough to be found out, it gets called an "emotional affair." And your refuser, and refuser apologists, will carry on about it as if you had actually been f-cking that person. IMHO, if a spouse is refusing, and all you do is develop a crush on someone (and nothing physical happens), they have no right to complain.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 13, 2016 5:04:34 GMT -5
Rhapsodee, it used to be that if a married person developed an interest in someone else, but did not physically stray, it was called a crush, and nobody got too upset about it. After all, they *are* technically obeying the rules. Now, if you are married, but have a crush on someone else, if you are unlucky enough to be found out, it gets called an "emotional affair." And your refuser, and refuser apologists, will carry on about it as if you had actually been f-cking that person. IMHO, if a spouse is refusing, and all you do is develop a crush on someone (and nothing physical happens), they have no right to complain. They have no reason to complain even if you do something physical. |
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Post by unmatched on Jun 13, 2016 6:56:05 GMT -5
Rhapsodee , it used to be that if a married person developed an interest in someone else, but did not physically stray, it was called a crush, and nobody got too upset about it. After all, they *are* technically obeying the rules. Now, if you are married, but have a crush on someone else, if you are unlucky enough to be found out, it gets called an "emotional affair." And your refuser, and refuser apologists, will carry on about it as if you had actually been f-cking that person. IMHO, if a spouse is refusing, and all you do is develop a crush on someone (and nothing physical happens), they have no right to complain. I always thought your honest opinion was if a spouse is refusing and you develop a crush on someone else and fuck their brains out then they still have no right to complain! |
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Post by baza on Jun 13, 2016 7:05:28 GMT -5
There were 50k+ people in that EP ILIASM group. Hardly surprising that there'd be a few hook ups.
Get 50k+ people at a Star Trek gathering and I'll bet there'd be some hook ups.
Get any sizeable group of people connected by a common subject, live or on the net, and there'll be some hook ups.
I'm not seeing anything even remotely unusual about EP ILIASM in this regard.
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But fwiw, I met Ms enna on the ILIASM group as we were getting out of our deals at the time (her in Apr 09, me in Oct 09) and we decided to give it a crack.
Been together since April 2010.
Not married, but near enough to (so that's where I put my vote)
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Post by dancingbear70 on Jun 13, 2016 7:31:49 GMT -5
Thanks Baz. The poll does leave a big gap between hookup and married. I'll see about an edit.
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Post by wewbwb on Jun 13, 2016 8:04:03 GMT -5
Rhapsodee , it used to be that if a married person developed an interest in someone else, but did not physically stray, it was called a crush, and nobody got too upset about it. After all, they *are* technically obeying the rules. Now, if you are married, but have a crush on someone else, if you are unlucky enough to be found out, it gets called an "emotional affair." And your refuser, and refuser apologists, will carry on about it as if you had actually been f-cking that person. IMHO, if a spouse is refusing, and all you do is develop a crush on someone (and nothing physical happens), they have no right to complain. It this is correct, I've been having an emotional affair with my new impact wrench. I have such strong feelings for her.... |
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