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Post by dallasgia on Jun 19, 2023 16:02:58 GMT -5
I filed
I haven’t told him yet
I’m terrified
Truly
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Post by jim44444 on Jun 20, 2023 14:03:56 GMT -5
I filed I haven’t told him yet I’m terrified Truly Make use of your support system. Hopefully he will surprise you and be accepting. Maybe he wanted you to file and be the "bad guy". |
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Post by dallasgia on Jun 29, 2023 10:34:26 GMT -5
Filed in the courts on June 15. I STILL have not told him. The attorney giving me time but it’s about to run out. Completely terrified & paralyzed by fear. And, this living in limbo state is taking years off my life.
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Post by northstarmom on Jun 29, 2023 11:57:20 GMT -5
For safety reasons, tell him in a public place. Based on his reactions, you can figure then whether to take more safety precautions.
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Post by angeleyes65 on Jun 29, 2023 15:10:31 GMT -5
Filed in the courts on June 15. I STILL have not told him. The attorney giving me time but it’s about to run out. Completely terrified & paralyzed by fear. And, this living in limbo state is taking years off my life. Please, please take care of yourself. Telling my ex was the hardest thing. Living with him after wasn't fun either. I stressed myself out so bad I had a stroke .. not even kidding. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 30, 2023 1:32:52 GMT -5
Filed in the courts on June 15. I STILL have not told him. The attorney giving me time but it’s about to run out. Completely terrified & paralyzed by fear. And, this living in limbo state is taking years off my life. Ask/pay your attorney for a counselling session on the proper way to go about informing your STBX. Your attorney should have years of experience helping others in such cases. Your attorney should also recommend other qualified counselling in regards to this emergency! People like judges, police officers, psychiatrists, financial consultants etc.... Have you considered a 'safe haven' to live in? In case things get violent? Even as a man I was advised to do so, and to have a bag packed and ready. |
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Post by dallasgia on Sept 9, 2023 13:24:46 GMT -5
**Update**
Filed June 15, 2023
Just now requested and received “Citation of Service”
This week should be interesting.
He hasn’t spoken a single word to me in months. He will text occasionally, even when we are both in the house.
I’m still terrified but also exhausted and to
The “whatever” point.
I found a “flat rate” attorney after interviewing or consulting with others that were in the range of $450-$650 per hour.
I liked her just as much, if not more than I liked them. Truly feel as though I’m flying blind.
I’m determined to summit this mountain and maybe hopefully freebase off the other side.
DG
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Post by diode on Sept 9, 2023 20:06:48 GMT -5
**Update** Filed June 15, 2023 Just now requested and received “Citation of Service” This week should be interesting. He hasn’t spoken a single word to me in months. He will text occasionally, even when we are both in the house. I’m still terrified but also exhausted and to The “whatever” point. I found a “flat rate” attorney after interviewing or consulting with others that were in the range of $450-$650 per hour. I liked her just as much, if not more than I liked them. Truly feel as though I’m flying blind. I’m determined to summit this mountain and maybe hopefully freebase off the other side. DG I hope you meant base jump, as freebase is a whole nother animal  |
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Post by dallasgia on Sept 10, 2023 12:18:34 GMT -5
DG[/quote]I hope you meant base jump, as freebase is a whole nother animal [/quote] Lol, yes, whichever it takes 😂 |
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Post by diode on Sept 10, 2023 21:22:00 GMT -5
I hope you meant base jump, as freebase is a whole nother animal [/quote] Lol, yes, whichever it takes 😂[/quote] That's my girl...just checking  |
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Post by mirrororchid on Sept 18, 2023 9:12:48 GMT -5
He hasn’t spoken a single word to me in months. He will text occasionally, even when we are both in the house. I’m still terrified but also exhausted and to The “whatever” point. I found a “flat rate” attorney after interviewing or consulting with others that were in the range of $450-$650 per hour. I liked her just as much, if not more than I liked them. Truly feel as though I’m flying blind. Hope the "whatever" point takes on teh form of serenity soon. It may be helpful to share the flat rate attorney's name if it goes well. A flat rate attorney has no incentive to prolong proceedings by calling needless witnesses and encouraging avaricious squabbling over heirlooms and trifles, squeezing out a few thousand, and paying most of it to the lawyers. What is the "flat rate" anyway? $1000? $2000? Less? More? This may be a good time to ask others what their divorce attorney fees ended up being to compare the carnage. |
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Post by dallasgia on Sept 20, 2023 18:15:05 GMT -5
He was served last night.
I wasn’t even sure if he had been served cause
Zero words spoken.
Im in the DFW area and the flat rate I found is $7,500 - if it goes to trial I owe $3,500 more
I interviewed 2 other attorneys - one $650 per hour and one $450 per hour - they were both kinda pompous and cold.
So far, I’ve found the flat rate attorney relatable.
Still feeling like a robot - my doctor prescribed a 10mg fluxo- something - I finally took one last night - the stress was just over the top. I think I might feel better - hard to tell cause maybe I would have felt better anyway after the dread of the process serving was over.
Even if I walk with nothing - I gotta walk
DallasG
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Post by greatcoastal on Sept 20, 2023 22:45:59 GMT -5
Congratulations on all the silent battles that you have overcome!!
You still have plenty of time to figure things out.
You still haven't met all the people who are going to love you!!
What if it works out better than you ever expected?
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Post by warmways on Sept 24, 2023 22:07:17 GMT -5
You are one courageous woman DG. You are well on your path through all your steps and it will get better and better. You’re going to need to do all you can to keep caring for and doing anything you can to protect and care for your own self through this
I understand how you can feel the stress is just over the top.
I felt similarly. You’re really making great strides though.
I’m sending you all the best. It’s hard as hell and you deserve and need to be able to break away safely and with determination. Just take a couple steps back when you get stressed to find ways to self soothe.
I know it’s so hard. 💗💗💗🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀
💛💛💛
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Post by flyingsolo on Sept 25, 2023 10:31:23 GMT -5
You'll get through it. I've been post divorce for about 21 months now. Still lingering issues to sort through because my ex took the "victim" approach, but all in all, I'm WAY HAPPIER and you will be too. It was am immense weight off my shoulders to finally file and be able to tell her I filed. It broke my heart to have to tell the kids (which she made me do alone of course and blamed it all on me) and I struggled with being the one to break up the family, but it was hell living in a sexless marriage with no honesty or communication. You'll meet someone amazing and life all works out the way it is supposed to. Just have faith in yourself and know that there are better days ahead.
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