endthegame
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Post by endthegame on Jan 21, 2020 15:10:30 GMT -5
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Post by greeneyedlady72 on Jan 21, 2020 22:45:38 GMT -5
Not sure how long he stayed celibate, but five years later, he is living with a woman and they are “engaged”, she is 16 yrs younger. They’ve been living together almost a year. Seems he no longer has ED issues? Or he was willing to take some Viagra or Cialis for that? My kids and hers were in the bathroom and overheard her pleasuring herself while she was taking a bath in her bathroom (the bathrooms share the same wall) and he was in the living room watching TV. So wondering if she may already be dealing with some of what I did?
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grower
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Post by grower on Jan 22, 2020 8:43:20 GMT -5
Not sure how long he stayed celibate, but five years later, he is living with a woman and they are “engaged”, she is 16 yrs younger. They’ve been living together almost a year. Seems he no longer has ED issues? Or he was willing to take some Viagra or Cialis for that? My kids and hers were in the bathroom and overheard her pleasuring herself while she was taking a bath in her bathroom (the bathrooms share the same wall) and he was in the living room watching TV. So wondering if she may already be dealing with some of what I did? So besides what the kids have to deal with, Have you be able to get to a state where you really don't give a shit about him, her and there sex life. I my current fantasy future, I am feeling sorry for any future guy and hoping she has found the right drugs, therapist or both to escape her victim of life. angry, pessimistic outlook. I have never been one to wish anything but happiness for most folks, but my current marriage has taken me out of that benevolent mindset at least when it comes to the W, but I really don't want to harbor this resentment and hope to let them go after the divorce. Life is to short to waste on certain people. Peace |
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Post by greeneyedlady72 on Jan 22, 2020 9:33:25 GMT -5
Not sure how long he stayed celibate, but five years later, he is living with a woman and they are “engaged”, she is 16 yrs younger. They’ve been living together almost a year. Seems he no longer has ED issues? Or he was willing to take some Viagra or Cialis for that? My kids and hers were in the bathroom and overheard her pleasuring herself while she was taking a bath in her bathroom (the bathrooms share the same wall) and he was in the living room watching TV. So wondering if she may already be dealing with some of what I did? So besides what the kids have to deal with, Have you be able to get to a state where you really don't give a shit about him, her and there sex life. I my current fantasy future, I am feeling sorry for any future guy and hoping she has found the right drugs, therapist or both to escape her victim of life. angry, pessimistic outlook. I have never been one to wish anything but happiness for most folks, but my current marriage has taken me out of that benevolent mindset at least when it comes to the W, but I really don't want to harbor this resentment and hope to let them go after the divorce. Life is to short to waste on certain people. Peace Honestly, I am at a place I don’t really give a shit about them except how it affects my kids. I only answered the question asked. If you knew even half of the bs he and the new chick have put the children and myself through, you might understand where I’m coming from. I have one medically fragile kid and the other has some medical issues as well. He is one notch above a deadbeat dad. Only because he pays child support as required by state law. He wasn’t that great of a dad before she came along, but before she came along, he at least saw the kids one to two times a month and paid his child support. She reported me to cps to try to get my children removed and placed in their home so he would no longer have to pay child support. When that failed and both her and the ex revealed themselves for who they really are as parents and crappy human beings in general to my kids during visitation (just being mean and nasty in general and no reason for it) and the kids had enough and talked to their dad about particularly what she had been doing to them, she banned them from the home. Now she has forbidden him to allow his children to visit his home and he refuses to spend any time with them outside his home. He allows this to happen. He’s not allowed to attend their school events per her rules, etc. So yeah I’m a little angry and sad over how my children have been hurt in this whole deal, but not sorry I got out. My counselor has told me he is very limited emotionally and that would have spilled over to the kids even if we were still married. As far as getting out goes, I’ve been out five years. There are no guarantees. You have to assess your own situation. I’m fine being alone and have spent a lot of time working on myself emotionally. Online dating is ugh!! I’ve dated off and on up until the past year due to being caretaker for my dad due to an illness, I work full time, I have kids that have special needs, and keeping all that going keeps me busy. I’m okay with being single. So if you get out of your deal you have to be okay with being on your own emotionally, financially, physically because, as previously mentioned, there are no guarantees. |
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grower
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Post by grower on Jan 22, 2020 11:49:47 GMT -5
So besides what the kids have to deal with, Have you be able to get to a state where you really don't give a shit about him, her and there sex life. I my current fantasy future, I am feeling sorry for any future guy and hoping she has found the right drugs, therapist or both to escape her victim of life. angry, pessimistic outlook. I have never been one to wish anything but happiness for most folks, but my current marriage has taken me out of that benevolent mindset at least when it comes to the W, but I really don't want to harbor this resentment and hope to let them go after the divorce. Life is to short to waste on certain people. Peace Honestly, I am at a place I don’t really give a shit about them except how it affects my kids. I only answered the question asked. If you knew even half of the bs he and the new chick have put the children and myself through, you might understand where I’m coming from. I have one medically fragile kid and the other has some medical issues as well. He is one notch above a deadbeat dad. Only because he pays child support as required by state law. He wasn’t that great of a dad before she came along, but before she came along, he at least saw the kids one to two times a month and paid his child support. She reported me to cps to try to get my children removed and placed in their home so he would no longer have to pay child support. When that failed and both her and the ex revealed themselves for who they really are as parents and crappy human beings in general to my kids during visitation (just being mean and nasty in general and no reason for it) and the kids had enough and talked to their dad about particularly what she had been doing to them, she banned them from the home. Now she has forbidden him to allow his children to visit his home and he refuses to spend any time with them outside his home. He allows this to happen. He’s not allowed to attend their school events per her rules, etc. So yeah I’m a little angry and sad over how my children have been hurt in this whole deal, but not sorry I got out. My counselor has told me he is very limited emotionally and that would have spilled over to the kids even if we were still married. As far as getting out goes, I’ve been out five years. There are no guarantees. You have to assess your own situation. I’m fine being alone and have spent a lot of time working on myself emotionally. Online dating is ugh!! I’ve dated off and on up until the past year due to being caretaker for my dad due to an illness, I work full time, I have kids that have special needs, and keeping all that going keeps me busy. I’m okay with being single. So if you get out of your deal you have to be okay with being on your own emotionally, financially, physically because, as previously mentioned, there are no guarantees. Sorry for what sound like a super stressed situation. At least my son who is 16 is of the highest importance with both me and the W and is actually aware and supportive of ongoing separation and pending divorce. He I am pretty sure has lots of friend with broken families, and is not real fan of current stressful, non loving situation. Kids are a lot smarter than we think and with time and maturity know where the real love and caring is. It sucks that they are used as pawns in peoples games. You got your priorities right, your kid and I hope and pray that they will be healthy and strong, and that you will find some personal happiness too. I have always had the thought that we have a purpose, so I try to take the joy in the small moments and wonders in life. Keep your head up. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 26, 2020 19:55:08 GMT -5
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okiedude
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Post by okiedude on Feb 10, 2020 20:38:39 GMT -5
Not in this situation but I think the animal thing comes out where they are willing to have sex again and create a relationship. Maybe because they are older and wiser find out they really like the sex and don't need the control over the spouse with lack of sex. My wife loves to have sex and is very active during... It is just that is is only every 2 to 3 months.
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