The facts may or may not be "fair" in your opinion, but they are what they are, and you need to know them.
True. The facts will vary by jurisdiction and personal circumstance, and local guidance Is required.
My original point was that it truly can be a very burdensome situation in some cases, and not merely a lifestyle inconvenience. Or, it can also be very simple split of assets. Two couples in similar situations can have very different outcomes if just one or two details are different.
Do see a lawyer; all it usually costs is your time.
You are on the money there DryCreek . In my jurisdiction the spouses usually work something out under the guidance of their respective layers (80% of the time) About 20% of the time the spouses end up in court and a Judge sorts it out for them. Expensive and unpredictable.
Saarinista DryCreek That's why I can't understand why any man marries a non working woman.
Old school said the man worked and the woman took care of the home and children.
Later it became, if the woman worked her income was hers to do with as SHE saw fit. Her working meant the H didn't have to pay for all of her monetary needs/wants.
That's only true if men allow it. Don't put up with shit! I realize things change and we learn many lessons too late but....
Sadly I think maybe refuser women are more likely to be financial slackers too. I honestly think all the men on this forum should realize that plenty of women just stay married for money.
If your wife won't fuck you but she claims to be working on it.... Be suspicious. And don't automatically blame it in menopause, either. If there's no effort there, she's a slacker.
i worked, she stayed home and did wonderfully at caring for our 3 kids. always wanted to work and did so on part time basis when youngest went to school. was treasured by each of her casual employers. took more serious employment as our kids entered college - that helped and relieved some of my "pressure". money was ALWAYS pooled and spent carefully with major purchases always agreed upon. no regrets............EXCEPT.........she has been incapable of being aroused for 50+ years. (since day one). i think she always knew this but refused to face it as she does with most "negative" aspects of life. did she "conceal" who knows ? it STILL gives me great depressive episodes and anti dep's just lead to my reduction in libido which adds to depression..........getting it ? feel like i'm in a hole........
Post by snowman12345 on Aug 1, 2020 22:50:22 GMT -5
Hi all, for those that remember me I am still alive and still in this paradise called marriage. Covid-19, a near death experience, and retirement have all occurred since I last visited with you. I remain in my SM due to my own choosing - Afraid of loneliness? - no. Afraid of financial disaster? - no. At the core I stay because my kids and grandkids need me to. If I left my wife would turn even more bitter than she is and my family would suffer for it. Yes, I am still with my AP of 7 or 8 years. She keeps me sane. I am sure it will be a great relief to you all that my sense of humor is intact, even after a car accident jarred my noggin pretty good. I would say I was glad some of you are still hanging around, but no one wants to be in our club - so I can't be too happy about that. Cheers!
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petrushka: Even her little 5 or 6 year old was questioning her purchase!
Mar 14, 2020 6:25:44 GMT -5
petrushka: One of my favourite quotes for the last 30 years: "don't ever look a sheep in the eyes, the intellectual vacuum may suck your brains out". Well, let's all drink to the sheeple! (besides, alcohol is a good disinfectant).
Mar 14, 2020 6:31:26 GMT -5
frednsa: so...............i'd like to tell her when she "attempts to placate me": have you ever been invited to a party where you knew for certain that you WEREN'T wanted ?
Mar 19, 2020 15:57:05 GMT -5
worksforme2: Former Miss Hawaii tests positive. Being the gallant lad that I am I have offered her the use of my guest bedroom to "shelter in place"..
Mar 23, 2020 20:34:21 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey tamara68, there is a covid19 positive cat in Belgium, watch out for it.
Mar 30, 2020 14:05:56 GMT -5
tamara68: @worksforme I think I have to be more careful for all infected people. Most likely I already have Covid19
Apr 1, 2020 3:29:42 GMT -5
worksforme2: tamara68.....it's been a couple weeks since you posted you may have the covid19 virus. hopefully you are feeling better and are on your way to renewed health
Apr 11, 2020 5:31:38 GMT -5
tamara68: @worksforme thanks, yes I am feeling better. How is it in the USA?
Apr 14, 2020 1:57:26 GMT -5
worksforme2: some better and some worse,..virus seems to be slowing down, but people are beginning to refuse to stay inside,...worst thing I see is Biden leading in the election poles,...but that could be fake news
Apr 20, 2020 16:56:22 GMT -5
mirrororchid: Politics? Is that what we want to happen here?
Apr 21, 2020 6:21:24 GMT -5
petrushka: Certainly not American style politics. Toxic echo chambers.
Apr 23, 2020 16:21:52 GMT -5
petrushka: However, I feel that sexual politics, including political moves that impact the relationships between gender (misogynist, misandrist, etc) definitely deserve room in this context.
Apr 23, 2020 16:22:59 GMT -5
fred: just calculated that i've spent somewhere near 19,000 days (& nights) as a "rejectee".AND that allows for 2,000+ days (& nights) on business travel apart from her. i've chosen to "stay" .....would never do that again, and can't as you see doing the math
May 15, 2020 18:01:15 GMT -5
worksforme2: 19000 days and nights,....damn dude, that's 52 yrs.
Jun 17, 2020 9:19:10 GMT -5
fred: you're a little short works - was thinking this AM, there has NEVER been a day when she indicated desire for me physically (other than for heavy lifting or finance)........LOL...........earlier, i had enough libido for both of us, now i'm left with guilt
Jun 20, 2020 13:11:12 GMT -5
fred: over imposing myself on her rather than simply leaving .....DAMN LOVE ANYWAY !
Jun 20, 2020 13:12:12 GMT -5
mesulina: update everyone, still has not happened. I have now come to accept that I will live with out. It is just different now.
Jun 29, 2020 19:32:31 GMT -5
worksforme2: Sorry mesulina,... but on the positive side you did stock up on toys a short time back,..now might be the time to go for the gusto
Jun 30, 2020 17:42:54 GMT -5
grower: Embrace a change, you will wonder why you waited so long
Jul 9, 2020 11:22:56 GMT -5
grower: Your life clock is ticking away, don't waste all your time. Live some.
Jul 24, 2020 9:53:20 GMT -5