Post by worksforme2 on Aug 13, 2019 17:20:33 GMT -5
Sorry to disappoint tooyoungtobeold, but I just couldn't stay. I needed intimacy. I felt in my heart of hearts that I would find ladies in my age demographic interested in sex. I'm not a prophet but that is exactly what has happened.
Post by workingonit on Aug 13, 2019 17:43:18 GMT -5
Fear of being alone forever. (Includes a fear of putting myself out there again. Dating sounds like hell. But I LIKE being married and having my person and I am a die hard romantic at heart. Ugh. Dating) Fear of failing at marriage.
Post by northstarmom on Aug 14, 2019 7:27:36 GMT -5
Lessingham said: “Fear of living in a bedsit, eating junk food. Like a student but without the future.”
What will happen if your wife predeceases you? If you become chronically ill, your wife has told you she’ll dump you in a facility.
If you leave your wife, it will be your choice about whether you hole up like a hermit. And, as someone pointed out, students may be impoverished but live active lives that typically include fun and sex.
Post by tooyoungtobeold on Aug 14, 2019 9:53:39 GMT -5
I have worked in higher education since 2005. There are many things I admire about the way College students live (minus the sloppiness). They have less junk in their lives, spend lots of time with friends or doing activities to make friends, explore new things, learn, etc. Being around them keeps me young and reminded that the best things are the simplest things.
Post by lessingham on Aug 14, 2019 10:47:32 GMT -5
When I went to university in the 70s I took one suitcase. When my son went in the 90s he filled my car and when he left he needed two trips. And he was not the worst kid on the campus! The question was what we fear. I have enough to make sure it won't happen. But the fear is the thing I walk away from. I have many post wife ambitions and dreams.
Reflecting back before I exited my deal the factor which kept me there for so long was the fear of potential harm I would cause to the people I love by splitting our little family. Mainly this was my children but H too, I worried about destroying him and us becoming enemies. In reality none of this has happened. Or anything close to it. I wish I had known that it wasn’t as bad as I had feared.
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worksforme2: some better and some worse,..virus seems to be slowing down, but people are beginning to refuse to stay inside,...worst thing I see is Biden leading in the election poles,...but that could be fake news
Apr 20, 2020 16:56:22 GMT -5
mirrororchid: Politics? Is that what we want to happen here?
Apr 21, 2020 6:21:24 GMT -5
petrushka: Certainly not American style politics. Toxic echo chambers.
Apr 23, 2020 16:21:52 GMT -5
petrushka: However, I feel that sexual politics, including political moves that impact the relationships between gender (misogynist, misandrist, etc) definitely deserve room in this context.
Apr 23, 2020 16:22:59 GMT -5
fred: just calculated that i've spent somewhere near 19,000 days (& nights) as a "rejectee".AND that allows for 2,000+ days (& nights) on business travel apart from her. i've chosen to "stay" .....would never do that again, and can't as you see doing the math
May 15, 2020 18:01:15 GMT -5
worksforme2: 19000 days and nights,....damn dude, that's 52 yrs.
Jun 17, 2020 9:19:10 GMT -5
fred: you're a little short works - was thinking this AM, there has NEVER been a day when she indicated desire for me physically (other than for heavy lifting or finance)........LOL...........earlier, i had enough libido for both of us, now i'm left with guilt
Jun 20, 2020 13:11:12 GMT -5
fred: over imposing myself on her rather than simply leaving .....DAMN LOVE ANYWAY !
Jun 20, 2020 13:12:12 GMT -5
mesulina: update everyone, still has not happened. I have now come to accept that I will live with out. It is just different now.
Jun 29, 2020 19:32:31 GMT -5
worksforme2: Sorry mesulina,... but on the positive side you did stock up on toys a short time back,..now might be the time to go for the gusto
Jun 30, 2020 17:42:54 GMT -5
grower: Embrace a change, you will wonder why you waited so long
Jul 9, 2020 11:22:56 GMT -5
grower: Your life clock is ticking away, don't waste all your time. Live some.
Jul 24, 2020 9:53:20 GMT -5
fred: blue guy, i was where you are 30 years ago. stayed.................nothing changed. if i didn't love this nice lady so much i'd be in deep regret. if she doesn't think of you in a hundred "other" ways (as does my wife) GET OUT ! Life is short
Aug 10, 2020 17:43:15 GMT -5
jerri: Yuk on the plucking chicken feathers. If a chicken doesn't get sex and intimacy she just finds a beautiful cock sooner or later. I'd say there's a much higher "philandering" rate than anyone would care to admit. The rooster who is tormented findsa chicken!
Sept 10, 2020 8:23:56 GMT -5
csl: And yet, there is an entire segment of ILIASM stayers.
Sept 10, 2020 22:04:05 GMT -5
jerri: Exactly I have read multiple threads. I was very impressed with all the different solutions everyone has found. Intellectual group and the camaraderie is nice
Sept 11, 2020 9:44:57 GMT -5
Handy: What happened to being light outside until 9:30 PM? It is 7:30 PM and dark now.
Sept 20, 2020 20:46:01 GMT -5
jerri: It's not hot there? I am getting a slight break from the heat! Cheer up buddy!
Sept 21, 2020 0:27:37 GMT -5
petrushka: Well WE are getting closer to summer. Just passed Equinox. I expect the solar panels will start paying for themselves again in the near future. (over the last few months they have merely mitigated the power bills).
Sept 21, 2020 21:00:36 GMT -5