Post by worksforme2 on Aug 13, 2019 17:20:33 GMT -5
Sorry to disappoint tooyoungtobeold, but I just couldn't stay. I needed intimacy. I felt in my heart of hearts that I would find ladies in my age demographic interested in sex. I'm not a prophet but that is exactly what has happened.
Post by workingonit on Aug 13, 2019 17:43:18 GMT -5
Fear of being alone forever. (Includes a fear of putting myself out there again. Dating sounds like hell. But I LIKE being married and having my person and I am a die hard romantic at heart. Ugh. Dating) Fear of failing at marriage.
Post by northstarmom on Aug 14, 2019 7:27:36 GMT -5
Lessingham said: “Fear of living in a bedsit, eating junk food. Like a student but without the future.”
What will happen if your wife predeceases you? If you become chronically ill, your wife has told you she’ll dump you in a facility.
If you leave your wife, it will be your choice about whether you hole up like a hermit. And, as someone pointed out, students may be impoverished but live active lives that typically include fun and sex.
I have worked in higher education since 2005. There are many things I admire about the way College students live (minus the sloppiness). They have less junk in their lives, spend lots of time with friends or doing activities to make friends, explore new things, learn, etc. Being around them keeps me young and reminded that the best things are the simplest things.
Post by lessingham on Aug 14, 2019 10:47:32 GMT -5
When I went to university in the 70s I took one suitcase. When my son went in the 90s he filled my car and when he left he needed two trips. And he was not the worst kid on the campus! The question was what we fear. I have enough to make sure it won't happen. But the fear is the thing I walk away from. I have many post wife ambitions and dreams.
Reflecting back before I exited my deal the factor which kept me there for so long was the fear of potential harm I would cause to the people I love by splitting our little family. Mainly this was my children but H too, I worried about destroying him and us becoming enemies. In reality none of this has happened. Or anything close to it. I wish I had known that it wasn’t as bad as I had feared.
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petrushka: Just attended a lecture on local history. Apparently the Presbyterian Scottish refugees who settled here called a 'frolic', what the Amish would call a 'barn raising'. First a working bee, then dancing and feasting.
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catlover: The resentment is running high today
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mirrororchid: Sorry, dude. I think resentment has been the fuel for action in some SMs. It can be part of a process, eventually helpful.
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Handy: I just read "The Babylon Bee" article "Blockage Cleared, Ships Moving At Record Speed As Chick-Fil-A Workers Put In Charge Of Suez Canal." Good humor.
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worksforme2: Freezing temps in the morning for the next 3 days= no peaches in the fall for me unless I buy them,... 2 yrs in a row...growing my own fruit has proven to be a losing proposition
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Handy: Meet the Feebles=weird!
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jerri: Lots of interesting comments. I am way behind. Sending hugs and a kiss on the cheek💋
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roy: Hi All, I just joined, at 77. I've been in a sexless marriage for too many years ...
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petrushka: G'day Roy, welcome to the place most of us don't want to be. I am sure you will find lots of interesting personal stories and comments and reactions on the forum. Don't be shy about jumping in to talks ...
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