Post by worksforme2 on Aug 13, 2019 17:20:33 GMT -5
Sorry to disappoint tooyoungtobeold, but I just couldn't stay. I needed intimacy. I felt in my heart of hearts that I would find ladies in my age demographic interested in sex. I'm not a prophet but that is exactly what has happened.
Post by workingonit on Aug 13, 2019 17:43:18 GMT -5
Fear of being alone forever. (Includes a fear of putting myself out there again. Dating sounds like hell. But I LIKE being married and having my person and I am a die hard romantic at heart. Ugh. Dating) Fear of failing at marriage.
Post by northstarmom on Aug 14, 2019 7:27:36 GMT -5
Lessingham said: “Fear of living in a bedsit, eating junk food. Like a student but without the future.”
What will happen if your wife predeceases you? If you become chronically ill, your wife has told you she’ll dump you in a facility.
If you leave your wife, it will be your choice about whether you hole up like a hermit. And, as someone pointed out, students may be impoverished but live active lives that typically include fun and sex.
Post by tooyoungtobeold on Aug 14, 2019 9:53:39 GMT -5
I have worked in higher education since 2005. There are many things I admire about the way College students live (minus the sloppiness). They have less junk in their lives, spend lots of time with friends or doing activities to make friends, explore new things, learn, etc. Being around them keeps me young and reminded that the best things are the simplest things.
Post by lessingham on Aug 14, 2019 10:47:32 GMT -5
When I went to university in the 70s I took one suitcase. When my son went in the 90s he filled my car and when he left he needed two trips. And he was not the worst kid on the campus! The question was what we fear. I have enough to make sure it won't happen. But the fear is the thing I walk away from. I have many post wife ambitions and dreams.
Reflecting back before I exited my deal the factor which kept me there for so long was the fear of potential harm I would cause to the people I love by splitting our little family. Mainly this was my children but H too, I worried about destroying him and us becoming enemies. In reality none of this has happened. Or anything close to it. I wish I had known that it wasn’t as bad as I had feared.
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petrushka: Thank you! Had a great party with the boardgamers group (and BBQ, cakes and cards!)
Jan 18, 2020 20:14:00 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: You're welcome! Sounds like a wonderful way to celebrate
Jan 18, 2020 22:10:28 GMT -5
frednsa: yaaaaiiiiiieeeeoooooouuuuuuuuuueeeeeeeekkkkkkkkk ! OK, if feel better now.....
Feb 29, 2020 18:14:01 GMT -5
petrushka: Glad you got that off your chest ;-)
Mar 6, 2020 23:35:38 GMT -5
worksforme2: It is a sad day here in my small town, the only cinema has closed...it's probably close to 30 miles to get to one now...
Mar 7, 2020 19:48:28 GMT -5
worksforme2: Since our esteemed governor has declared a state of emergency here in NC (a total of 12 cases so far) the hording of toilet paper has begun. Is diarrhea a part of covid 19? I see Lowes and Home Depot have quick install toilet retro fit bidets.
Mar 13, 2020 10:34:57 GMT -5
petrushka: I've no idea what it is with the toilet paper hoarding. I walked out of a supermarket yesterday and saw a woman with the jumbo sized trolley and some 4x 18 roll packs of toilet paper. Nuts. Completely nuts. Incidentally, a bidet is definitely the way to go
Mar 14, 2020 6:18:43 GMT -5
petrushka: Even her little 5 or 6 year old was questioning her purchase!
Mar 14, 2020 6:25:44 GMT -5
petrushka: One of my favourite quotes for the last 30 years: "don't ever look a sheep in the eyes, the intellectual vacuum may suck your brains out". Well, let's all drink to the sheeple! (besides, alcohol is a good disinfectant).
Mar 14, 2020 6:31:26 GMT -5
frednsa: so...............i'd like to tell her when she "attempts to placate me": have you ever been invited to a party where you knew for certain that you WEREN'T wanted ?
Mar 19, 2020 15:57:05 GMT -5
worksforme2: Former Miss Hawaii tests positive. Being the gallant lad that I am I have offered her the use of my guest bedroom to "shelter in place"..
Mar 23, 2020 20:34:21 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey tamara68, there is a covid19 positive cat in Belgium, watch out for it.
Mar 30, 2020 14:05:56 GMT -5
tamara68: @worksforme I think I have to be more careful for all infected people. Most likely I already have Covid19
Apr 1, 2020 3:29:42 GMT -5
worksforme2: tamara68.....it's been a couple weeks since you posted you may have the covid19 virus. hopefully you are feeling better and are on your way to renewed health
Apr 11, 2020 5:31:38 GMT -5
tamara68: @worksforme thanks, yes I am feeling better. How is it in the USA?
Apr 14, 2020 1:57:26 GMT -5
worksforme2: some better and some worse,..virus seems to be slowing down, but people are beginning to refuse to stay inside,...worst thing I see is Biden leading in the election poles,...but that could be fake news
Apr 20, 2020 16:56:22 GMT -5
mirrororchid: Politics? Is that what we want to happen here?
Apr 21, 2020 6:21:24 GMT -5
petrushka: Certainly not American style politics. Toxic echo chambers.
Apr 23, 2020 16:21:52 GMT -5
petrushka: However, I feel that sexual politics, including political moves that impact the relationships between gender (misogynist, misandrist, etc) definitely deserve room in this context.
Apr 23, 2020 16:22:59 GMT -5
fred: just calculated that i've spent somewhere near 19,000 days (& nights) as a "rejectee".AND that allows for 2,000+ days (& nights) on business travel apart from her. i've chosen to "stay" .....would never do that again, and can't as you see doing the math
May 15, 2020 18:01:15 GMT -5