Life after death part 4.

Shamwow, not that what anyone reads on an Internet forum speaks for the general public, but one woman wanted to know how to get 2 hands in her vagina.

OTH some woman on anther forum, posted a tampon was too big for her.

I used to be interested in solving similar problems and hoped it would fix my SM, but now I just think, not my equipment, not my problem to solve and if I had a decent solution it probably would not be accepted or work.

The more common phrase is "Not my circus, not my monkeys."

OTH #2 if some woman wanted to try it with my assistance, I might give it a go.

lately there has been so much more than just sex and intimacy in my new relationship(s).

Today was a good day to do a bunch of tree trimming on my own property. My girlfriend's attitude was a complete 180 from what I was used to with my ex.

My girlfriend tells me " yes , let's do that. I will help you. I like being outside. I like doing those kind of things. I was raised that way. I like being around, outside together. I like doing things together with you."

" I will hold the ladder for you, I will take the branches to the street. You can jump across a fence like that! That fence is so tall! How do you do that? I can't do that!"

"There's your neighbor he's so old, I wonder If we could do any tree trimming for him?" ( which we did)

These things NEVER happened that way with my ex. I was left to take care of such things all on my own. Knowing she was home , not doing much of anything, and her excuse was " that's my responsibility". Also meaning - I don't want to be seen with you, spend any time with you, and continue to detach myself from you more and more.

I also know how we are going to ' relax' later on. something that would never even enter my ex's mind!

Just another example of how things can improve if you take action, be bold, take risks, and ask for it.

"Having someone to help and be positive sounds like such a great comfort".  It doesn't sound like too much to ask for, does it?  ( especially when you are used to giving it all the time)  And yet....it makes such a big difference in your life!


Today i noticed some weird redness on my legs?  I figured out it was sunburn, only on the back of my lower legs? Odd?  Then I realized....oh, yea, that must have happened while I spent 3 hrs on the ladder yesterday, wearing shorts, and trimming palm trees!

How does my girlfriend respond to that? " let me put some lotion on your legs for you!" Again... so different from what I had years of 'training" to expect, and ask for nothing!

This has been my most pleasant surprise. Having a partner who DOES stuff with me. I'd have to draw the line on doing roofing though - I'm terrified of heights. We did just repair the shed roof though by sending his son up there! He loves climbing so was happy to do it.

It certainly IS a new experience!!

It also opens your eyes to what levels of tolerance, indifference, pain, suffering, humiliation,and rejection, that you can endure, and have endured.  I see that as a good quality to fall back on for future endeavours.

I also find myself asking, " why should I go through any of that rejection, again?" . "if I do, who's to blame?"

Why.. even this morning I was  getting ready to take my girlfriend to work, we had a few extra minutes to hold each other, and 'fool around' in the kitchen.

She is touching me and asking " how about you give me a few minutes, and let me please you? Just a little bit? Just a taste, so I can think about it while I am at work!"

That is UNHEARD OF in my world!! I am still getting used to such a difference!  For anyone wondering, I responded with, " you'll just have to remember last night, and we will have our time later tonight".  ( at my age my body works better that way. So I am discovering)

The other half of this is what we plan on doing today.  She offered to help me clean up somethings on my back deck. I explained to her about the older metal patio furniture that needs sanding and painting.   She said, with much enthusiasm, " let's do that today. I will help you. it's a lovely day for it, nice and cool  day for it ( a high of 69 today) I love doing that kind of work. I love helping, and I get to be with you!!"

All things to be cherished, remembered, and not taken for granted when the time comes to decide to start a new beginning! ( and who I am going to do that with)

SO, so, different from my decades of ' nothing' from my now ex. I will say this though, In the beginning there where those few times of "doing things together". I have some pics of my ex up in the tree helping me string outdoor Christmas lights. However the reality is how short lived those times where.  ( more bait and switch)
Those things became 'my responsibility'. Here's where bills and finances, where her ' responsibility' all done on the computer.  ( a sneaky way of hiding our finances from me, and her having control over it)

A side note: I handled ALL of my own bills and finances very well for a decade before my marriage. Now I am doing it all again on my own computer, and getting a little assistance from friends when needed.

Here's to new beginnings.

Nevertheless : the word that changes your life!

My 16 yr old daughter was in car accident yesterday. SHE IS FINE! The others involved in the accident are fine. The car is totaled. This brought me and my ex together. We stood in the street with our daughter between us, both taking turns consoling our daughter, but not saying a word to each other.

It actually felt good to be in opposite land.Had we all returned home together I remember how things would have played out. Their would have been the triangulation. Grandpa ( my ex's father) and my ex would have been 2 against one in making all the decisions and hogging all the time and support that my daughter needed. Her brothers would have been very selfish about losing the car, and would have made fun of her.

Instead my daughter came home with me. I got to to be her sole caretaker. We had lots of one on one time. Her sister was there to console her, and the dog. My girlfriend was over at the house. She made dinner for all of us and had good conversations with my daughters. My daughter has her own room, so she spent her evening on her phone with friends.

My ex insisted on keeping that car in her name. She now gets to deal with the towing, the insurance, the repairs, etc... My ex also had nothing to say to the police. I did all the communicating. Not the way things used to be!

For me, the cherry on the top was later in the evening. After viewing my ex's 'let go of herself years ago size, clothes, demeanor, etc...' and then having my very intimate, caring, sexy, girlfriend laying on my bed there to comfort and console me!

Here's to new beginnings!