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Post by carl on Jan 19, 2019 23:56:14 GMT -5
My W loves Valentine’s Day or any other annual celebrations and would be hurt if I didn’t do something nice. So I try to think of a little surprise each year. I sometimes get her a present, something tasteful, and a meal out but try not to make it too predictable. Its nice to see her smile and I can tell that it means a lot. For me I find scheduled romantic events ok but I can see the way it makes people feel bad sometimes and it’s just confusing when we’ve had a good day and then the thought of sex comes into my head ...... Well that’s one thing that won’t be on my mind at all this year.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 20, 2019 12:43:22 GMT -5
I am not a big Valentine's or Sweetest Day fan, so nothing huge or over the top is required. I love, however, small, unexpected gestures of love. To me they show I have been thought of and am loved and special. My husband has less romance in him than our 3 cats combined do, so I stopped expecting to come home to a candlelight dinner or baby making music playing a long time ago. Accepting that those types of things are never going to happen make it easier for me to appreciate the other, smaller gestures when they are received. Cuddling by the fire this weekend and sex 3 times already this month.... for us, those are good steps back toward each other. I will take that over flowers and candy any day.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 20, 2019 20:55:20 GMT -5
So I have to admit: I am a sucker for Valentine's Day. Love, love, LOVE it. I know it's a stupid Hallmark holiday, but I am all about it. My ex and I had basically stopped celebrating it. But I always do something for the kids. Maybe this year I will do something special for my girlfriends. Heck, maybe I'll do something special for myself?? With hair like mine, how could I not love a holiday that looks like pink threw up all over it??
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Post by lifeinwoodinville on Jan 21, 2019 11:24:16 GMT -5
My wife killed Valentines Day for me. I wasn't big on it but I used to love excuses to do something special for her. Right from the get go she told me that Valentines Day was a fake holiday created to sell crap. I usually get her a card or something. Interestingly enough, about three or four years ago I got her a Valentines Day card that had "NICE ASS" spelled out in elements on the front, like this: I didn't think much of it at the time but about a year ago I found that she had been carrying that card around in her purse all that time. My wife buys a new purse at least every six months so she had to have kept moving that card into each new purse she got. So apparently it has some kind of value to her.
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Post by northstarmom on Jan 21, 2019 12:42:12 GMT -5
elle said: "So I have to admit: I am a sucker for Valentine's Day. Love, love, LOVE it. I know it's a stupid Hallmark holiday, but I am all about it. "
It's only a stupid Hallmark holiday for people who are jaded or feel they have to go through a romantic ritual for a partner whom they aren't really intimate with.
I believe that for those who are in intimate, loving relationships, finding fun ways of celebrating V Day can be a lovely way of keeping the spark alive.
I stopped celebrating V Day with my ex when it turned into a go through the motions deal in a relationship that lacked intimacy and was long past its expiration date. I enjoy doing things to celebrate V Day and other special days with post SM lover. We aren't doing sham celebrations. We really are celebrating and nurturing our love.
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Post by choosinghappy on Jan 21, 2019 19:35:29 GMT -5
elle said: "So I have to admit: I am a sucker for Valentine's Day. Love, love, LOVE it. I know it's a stupid Hallmark holiday, but I am all about it. " It's only a stupid Hallmark holiday for people who are jaded or feel they have to go through a romantic ritual for a partner whom they aren't really intimate with. I believe that for those who are in intimate, loving relationships, finding fun ways of celebrating V Day can be a lovely way of keeping the spark alive. I stopped celebrating V Day with my ex when it turned into a go through the motions deal in a relationship that lacked intimacy and was long past its expiration date. I enjoy doing things to celebrate V Day and other special days with post SM lover. We aren't doing sham celebrations. We really are celebrating and nurturing our love. I agree with this. Now that I’m in a great new relationship I’m really looking forward to celebrating “us” this VDay and connecting. In the past it was a slightly awkward day that my ex and I would both get one another the obligatory card and it got harder and harder for me to keep up the facade.
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Post by Handy on Jan 21, 2019 19:42:59 GMT -5
lifeinwoodinville, I really like the table of elements NiCeAsS thing. I saw a periodic table that described the state of Minnesota about 10 years ago and haven't found it again even after many searches.
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Post by caballotierra on Jan 21, 2019 21:37:08 GMT -5
Valentines Day is just a chance for me to tell my kids how much they mean to me. And that’s it.
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Post by csl on Jan 21, 2019 21:43:26 GMT -5
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Post by choosinghappy on Jan 29, 2019 11:48:23 GMT -5
For the ladies...
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Post by javba on Jan 29, 2019 14:45:01 GMT -5
For the ladies... What's this called?
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Post by ironhamster on Jan 29, 2019 17:45:20 GMT -5
For the ladies... What's this called? I'll take "dildo vibrators" for five hundred, Alex.
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Post by choosinghappy on Jan 30, 2019 10:00:42 GMT -5
I'll take "dildo vibrators" for five hundred, Alex. It’s a Rabbit.
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Post by javba on Jan 30, 2019 10:27:03 GMT -5
Gosh Darn, the valentines' have been awkward for so long - it registers as normal.
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Post by Handy on Jan 30, 2019 12:59:21 GMT -5
My W was interested in trying a couple of toys. I bought a Rabbit, a head for the magic wand, and several lubes. The magic wand head was a bust, the lubes were iffy, she used the rabbit for a couple months but didn't want me around, then it sat for almost a year. She wouldn't try a small vibrator so I did the "Orgasmic Meditation / Stroking" also know as "oming" on her. That sort of worked but resulted in a UTI or something similar. Since then no sex but she still claims to get UTI's, Some UTI's disappear in a few days, some go away with an over the counter pills, and some are here and then there with no pattern.
I have a fair amount of knowledge regarding rabbits but no one on one experience. sigh
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