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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2016 16:05:27 GMT -5
I feel like the "grand plan" swirling around us all, is putting us in the way of the things that will be good for us. Teaching us a couple of lessons along the way. We've just been patiently waiting for so long and feel it is our time. We want it NOW. NOW may not be the right time for the right person.  |
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2016 16:44:39 GMT -5
I feel like the "grand plan" swirling around us all, is putting us in the way of the things that will be good for us. Teaching us a couple of lessons along the way. We've just been patiently waiting for so long and feel it is our time. We want it NOW. NOW may not be the right time for the right person. Kat, have you lost weight? |
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Post by ggold on May 11, 2016 19:56:27 GMT -5
It's not mystical this line of horny men. It's real. I'm one of them. And also, if a woman doesn't have "laugh lines"she doesn't laugh. I want a woman who has lived and saw the best and worst in people. I want a woman who has thought and made hard decisions. Made mistakes and learned from them Experience counts in life. Show the scars of living. Who the hell wants a 20 or 30 yo ditzy scank tenny bopper flozzie stick figure no ass bitch who most likely says things like "yup" when you say "thank you". You give us women in the 45+ category hope wewbwb! I fear not being able to find another relationship (once out of my SM) due to my age. To hear that there are men like you out there, well, maybe it will happen for me one day! |
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Post by SweepyBear on May 11, 2016 20:12:20 GMT -5
I find it almost impossible to relate to women under 40, one of the greatest aphrodisiacs is a genuine conversation with a lot of shared frames of reference and a good vocabulary.
I find nothing more disheartening than lazy language and an inability to thread more than two cogent sentences together . Those of us in the 40-50-60 range have been around the block, many of us stuck in marriages/relationships that ebb our soul and spark away daily, but never let it stop you from being open to making that leap,
Men, generally have this issue with Women that already have kids, well, NewsFlash, it'll be highly unlikely that those in our age range don't have kids, be Men and see what happens, Women otoh are guarded in not wanting to expose their kids to random strangers .
In reality there is pressure on both sexes as you get older, its realising what the expectations are and ignoring them, confidence is the key, a confident older woman can slay men at will and have them queueing up.
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Post by Deleted on May 11, 2016 20:17:25 GMT -5
I find it almost impossible to relate to women under 40, one of the greatest aphrodisiacs is a genuine conversation with a lot of shared frames of reference and a good vocabulary. I find nothing more disheartening than lazy language and an inability to thread more than two cogent sentences together . Those of us in the 40-50-60 range have been around the block, many of us stuck in marriages/relationships that ebb our soul and spark away daily, but never let it stop you from being open to making that leap, Men, generally have this issue with Women that already have kids, well, NewsFlash, it'll be highly unlikely that those in our age range don't have kids, be Men and see what happens, Women otoh are guarded in not wanting to expose their kids to random strangers . In reality there is pressure on both sexes as you get older, its realising what the expectations are and ignoring them, confidence is the key, a confident older woman can slay men at will and have them queueing up. And where exactly is this sign-up sheet for being slayed? |
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Post by SweepyBear on May 11, 2016 20:20:52 GMT -5
You'd be surprised, through the extended network of having kids and being a musician, I know many such women and they do have an aura that is palpable, confident and a little unobtainable, so making us Fellas try all the harder
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Post by JMX on May 11, 2016 20:44:57 GMT -5
@islandtime - see Beyoncé. She slays.
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Post by SweepyBear on May 11, 2016 20:50:45 GMT -5
Its true though, Apparent confidence works every time
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Post by wewbwb on May 11, 2016 21:26:30 GMT -5
It's not mystical this line of horny men. It's real. I'm one of them. And also, if a woman doesn't have "laugh lines"she doesn't laugh. I want a woman who has lived and saw the best and worst in people. I want a woman who has thought and made hard decisions. Made mistakes and learned from them Experience counts in life. Show the scars of living. Who the hell wants a 20 or 30 yo ditzy scank tenny bopper flozzie stick figure no ass bitch who most likely says things like "yup" when you say "thank you". You give us women in the 45+ category hope wewbwb ! I fear not being able to find another relationship (once out of my SM) due to my age. To hear that there are men like you out there, well, maybe it will happen for me one day! I'm sorry if i sound like a broken record but i really am baffled by this. Honestly. You women are hot. |
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Post by ggold on May 11, 2016 22:18:19 GMT -5
You give us women in the 45+ category hope wewbwb ! I fear not being able to find another relationship (once out of my SM) due to my age. To hear that there are men like you out there, well, maybe it will happen for me one day! I'm sorry if i sound like a broken record but i really am baffled by this. Honestly. You women are hot. Awwww!!! So sweet!!! I would love to HEAR a man say that I am hot!! Sigh!!! |
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Post by SweepyBear on May 11, 2016 22:27:30 GMT -5
Its one thing to say you are hot, but a very different thing to mean it . We all crave the positive affirmation now and again because we need our ego's and self image polishing when life seems to take pleasure in covering you in rust and general detritus
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Post by Deleted on May 12, 2016 4:06:54 GMT -5
@islandtime - see Beyoncé. She slays. ... islandtime slinks off, sent to the back of the line by Chief of Security JMX |
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Post by worksforme2 on May 13, 2016 9:39:06 GMT -5
mountainrunner....I have a somewhat different response to the general lumping together(by the responders to this story)that most older men prefer nubile young vixens given the opportunity. Nothing could be more inaccurate. Disclaimer: to me a nubile young vixen would be a female age 50-55.
As a somewhat mature, divorced (and very recent escapee from ISIASM) male I am making an attempt to date ladies in my generally appropriate age range. This has not proven to be as easy as I would have thought. But I digress, back to you.
I have to wonder if you and in general the ladies responding here are(perhaps inadvertently) sending a message to men that you wouldn't be interested if you were approached. Intelligent older males have learned to read facial expressions, body language, the spoken word and a woman's general demeanor when considering her as a prospect. If she doesn't send out the right signals then a man is unlikely to initiate or pursue anything. Ask yourself honestly if you are presenting in a way that is likely to be attractive to a male.
And as long as we are generalizing, some of the rational for men seemingly pursuing a younger female is perhaps like me they have come to feel that most menopausal or post menopausal woman prefer a nonsexual relationship. The ladies here seem to be the exception to this rule, but in real life it is something I for 1 take into consideration when I think about initiating a conversation with a woman. Most post menopausal women seem to just want an amiable companion. So that could be part of what you are experiencing.
Finding the right SO is always a challenge under the best of circumstances.
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Post by Deleted on May 13, 2016 10:13:58 GMT -5
mountainrunner....I have a somewhat different response to the general lumping together(by the responders to this story)that most older men prefer nubile young vixens given the opportunity. Nothing could be more inaccurate. Disclaimer: to me a nubile young vixen would be a female age 50-55. As a somewhat mature, divorced (and very recent escapee from ISIASM) male I am making an attempt to date ladies in my generally appropriate age range. This has not proven to be as easy as I would have thought. But I digress, back to you. I have to wonder if you and in general the ladies responding here are(perhaps inadvertently) sending a message to men that you wouldn't be interested if you were approached. Intelligent older males have learned to read facial expressions, body language, the spoken word and a woman's general demeanor when considering her as a prospect. If she doesn't send out the right signals then a man is unlikely to initiate or pursue anything. Ask yourself honestly if you are presenting in a way that is likely to be attractive to a male. And as long as we are generalizing, some of the rational for men seemingly pursuing a younger female is perhaps like me they have come to feel that most menopausal or post menopausal woman prefer a nonsexual relationship. The ladies here seem to be the exception to this rule, but in real life it is something I for 1 take into consideration when I think about initiating a conversation with a woman. Most post menopausal women seem to just want an amiable companion. So that could be part of what you are experiencing. Finding the right SO is always a challenge under the best of circumstances. I hear what you are saying and of course, it's unfair to lump all men into one category. I really was just expressing frustration with one of the issues facing older women as they start dating again and pointing out that it isn't any easier for women than it is for men. But then again, it's not really fair to lump all menopausal and post menopausal into the "not interested in sex" group either! I don't have a single female friend in my age group who isn't either currently sexually active or wishing to be. Maybe I just orient to that type of friend. On the approachability factor, I truly believe that is not going on with me. I am extremely friendly and have no issue striking up a conversation with basically anyone at all. I teach very young children, so I pretty much have "non-threatening" down to an art form. I smile easily and enjoy meeting new people so I don't think I'm sending out any stand-offish type vibes. But yes, it's hard to find a person that's right for you, especially when you're gun shy from spending decades being rejected. |
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Post by eternaloptimism on May 13, 2016 10:51:55 GMT -5
I think it's as easy or hard for either sex.
It's all in the attitude.
Mine changes from 1 hour to the next, sometimes I can be bolshy and out there and others I'm a little mouse.
If I'm feeling good I'll put myself out there, if not I won't.
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