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Post by carl on Aug 13, 2017 6:49:19 GMT -5
Didn't think there was such a thing until I got married. It's not like our vacations aren't exciting and fulfilling in every other way. Seems like I had more sex on holidays payed by the bank of mum and dad and that was a while ago.
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Post by brian on Aug 13, 2017 7:26:40 GMT -5
Sexless vacation??? Is there any other kind of vacation? After 21 years of marriage, I think I have had sex on "vacation" (including the honeymoon) a total of 3 times.
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Post by ironhamster on Aug 13, 2017 7:33:36 GMT -5
We took family vacations, and, with the kids in the same hotel room, it's just not going to happen.
The last five years, we've rented condos with separate bedrooms. We've had complete privacy. It still has never happened.
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Post by orangepeel on Aug 13, 2017 8:31:58 GMT -5
I last had sex on holiday in 2008.
It was the shittest (and, as it turns out, the last) of shags.
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Post by northstarmom on Aug 13, 2017 9:16:08 GMT -5
Sexless vacations, birthdays, anniversaries and holidays are normal and should be expected in a SM. Want something different? Get a new partner.
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Post by lwoetin on Aug 13, 2017 11:37:13 GMT -5
I've given up on vacations. Even with separate bedrooms she would pair up with one of the kids.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 13, 2017 12:01:48 GMT -5
Sexless vacations, birthdays, anniversaries and holidays are normal and should be expected in a SM. Want something different? Get a new partner. Amen, northstarmom. There is nothing BUT sexless vacation in my SM, kids or no kids. You speak truth here. Simple, raw, painful, unabashed truth. We have to want something different, with no guarantees, and muster the courage to go out and grab it. Mustering courage is hard though, where loss is the only guarantee. Future gain is the gamble - what if there is none? That's hard to wrap your head around and requires a huge leap of faith to grab. I'm working on it. One step at a time. |
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Post by northstarmom on Aug 13, 2017 12:08:45 GMT -5
If you ever get to the point in which you are really happy by yourself and are happier with virtually anyone -- even strangers -- than your spouse, you'll leave.
Last vacation I had with my ex was a month before I decided to divorce. We were at a beautiful beach. We slept in separate beds. Played on our individual laptops. When we went to dinner -- sunset, outside by the ocean, we had nothing to say. It was a draining experience. I realized that I'd rather be alone and single for the rest of my life than stay alone in my marriage.
I was 61, and didn't expect to ever find love again.
A year later, I was in a love relationship filled with love, romance and, yes great sex. Four years later, I'm still in it. We go every December to the beach town where I'd gone with my ex. My lover and I have a great time. It's hard for me to believe how little I used to settle for.
And I continue to know that even if I'd never found love again, I'd still be happier than I was during the last decade or so of life with my ex (whom I was with 36 years).
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Post by rejected101 on Aug 13, 2017 12:11:58 GMT -5
Sexless honeymoon for me. I was 28 years old and new wife was 25 years old. I would imagine most other couples that age, whilst on honeymoon with no children in 5 star kick back and relax luxury would have managed at least 3-4 times. Not me! My wife was so excited to be with her new husband she managed to avoid all naked encounters for 2 weeks. The rest of the year continued in much the same way. The following year she wanted to start trying for kids. As soon as we did, twice a week was a minimum.
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Post by brian on Aug 13, 2017 13:54:52 GMT -5
Sexless honeymoon for me. I was 28 years old and new wife was 25 years old. I would imagine most other couples that age, whilst on honeymoon with no children in 5 star kick back and relax luxury would have managed at least 3-4 times. Not me! My wife was so excited to be with her new husband she managed to avoid all naked encounters for 2 weeks. The rest of the year continued in much the same way. The following year she wanted to start trying for kids. As soon as we did, twice a week was a minimum. My wife managed one brief sexual encounter on our honeymoon. |
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Post by h on Aug 13, 2017 14:18:00 GMT -5
Sexless honeymoon for me. I was 28 years old and new wife was 25 years old. I would imagine most other couples that age, whilst on honeymoon with no children in 5 star kick back and relax luxury would have managed at least 3-4 times. Not me! My wife was so excited to be with her new husband she managed to avoid all naked encounters for 2 weeks. The rest of the year continued in much the same way. The following year she wanted to start trying for kids. As soon as we did, twice a week was a minimum. My wife managed one brief sexual encounter on our honeymoon. Same here. Nothing on the wedding night and only once on the honeymoon (which was 10 days long in the most romantic place either of us has ever been). And the only reason she went through with it then was because she felt guilty for depriving me. She cried before and during (not in pain but emotional due to hormones). It was not a good experience for me. |
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Post by northstarmom on Aug 13, 2017 14:23:25 GMT -5
"I was 28 years old and new wife was 25 years old. I would imagine most other couples that age, whilst on honeymoon with no children in 5 star kick back and relax luxury would have managed at least 3-4 times. "
On a 2-week honeymoon? Wayyyyy too low expectations. When post sm lover and I got together, I was 62 and he was 61. We had sex about 6-7 times a week. Four years later, its about three times a week, more on vacation.
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Post by hopingforachange on Aug 13, 2017 15:03:33 GMT -5
My wife managed one brief sexual encounter on our honeymoon. Same here. Nothing on the wedding night and only once on the honeymoon (which was 10 days long in the most romantic place either of us has ever been). And the only reason she went through with it then was because she felt guilty for depriving me. She cried before and during (not in pain but emotional due to hormones). It was not a good experience for me. Mine spent the day after our wedding crying as soon as we arrived at the hotel. Yea, that makes you feel great. |
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Post by h on Aug 13, 2017 15:53:34 GMT -5
Same here. Nothing on the wedding night and only once on the honeymoon (which was 10 days long in the most romantic place either of us has ever been). And the only reason she went through with it then was because she felt guilty for depriving me. She cried before and during (not in pain but emotional due to hormones). It was not a good experience for me. Mine spent the day after our wedding crying as soon as we arrived at the hotel. Yea, that makes you feel great. Certainly makes it difficult to maintain a romantic mood .... or an erection. |
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Post by northstarmom on Aug 13, 2017 16:33:10 GMT -5
"Mine spent the day after our wedding crying as soon as we arrived at the hotel. Yea, that makes you feel great."
Sounds like she believed the marriage was a mistake....
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