What have you done with your wedding ring?

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What have you done with your wedding ring? Aug 11, 2017 13:00:22 GMT -5 Isabellas39, lwoetin, and 2 more like this

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Post by shamwow on Aug 11, 2017 13:00:22 GMT -5

Aug 11, 2017 10:59:04 GMT -5 ironhamster said:

I could not have outsourced a year ago at this time, but, I've evolved, or, depending on the perspective, devolved. Oddly, even now, with my marriage no longer in the definition of sexless, I'm still thinking differently.

Don't get me wrong...if the thing had gone on for another year or two? I would have cheated like crazy. Probably pretty recklessly too. I could already feel myself not giving a fuck about consequences. That's why I decided to get out when I did. I didn't make it out of my marriage without cheating because of some noble reasons. I refrained because I had decided to get the fuck out and didn't want to roll a potential hand grenade into the mix.

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What have you done with your wedding ring? Aug 12, 2017 4:05:26 GMT -5 via mobile

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Post by lwoetin on Aug 12, 2017 4:05:26 GMT -5

Aug 11, 2017 8:09:32 GMT -5 @elle said:

Aug 11, 2017 0:56:16 GMT -5 lwoetin said:

what is the problem with getting hit on? Won't it add a little incentive for your spouse to step up his game? I have a lame excuse for not wearing mine. It does open up some possibilities though, although I have faith that my marriage will work out. I don't want my wife to get too complacent.

Nothing's wrong, per se, with getting hit on. But I can't do anything about it and I don't want to give the impression of being available if I'm not. There are also some men I'd rather not have hit on me and the ring offers protection from those men. (The ladies here will know what I'm talking about.)

Nothing makes my H step his game up. I truly believe I've tried everything. He's just not capable of or interested in a relationship.

I've watched Lord of the Rings. I know the protection it offers. (Not sure why he sees an image of a crotch when he puts ring on.)

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What have you done with your wedding ring? Aug 14, 2017 3:57:48 GMT -5 via mobile Isabellas39, h, and 2 more like this

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Post by lyn on Aug 14, 2017 3:57:48 GMT -5

I took mine off after the last, cringeworthy reset sex. My god it was so bad.

My stbx has not asked about it. My daughter, however, did ask during the holidays when we were all on an elevator full of people. I told her it hurts - almost burns - my finger to wear it. Without missing a beat, she said, "Then can I have it?". I just laughed - jokingly rolled my eyes.

The more I think about it, I could probably pay off her grad school if I sell it. Hmmm........

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What have you done with your wedding ring? Aug 14, 2017 13:34:01 GMT -5 via mobile TMD likes this

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Post by ironhamster on Aug 14, 2017 13:34:01 GMT -5

Aug 14, 2017 3:57:48 GMT -5 lyn said:

I have a friend that runs a pawn shop. Selling it will not get the appraised value. You might be able to sell it on ebay. Either way, the response from your denying H will be priceless.

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What have you done with your wedding ring? Aug 22, 2017 9:10:38 GMT -5 greatcoastal, TMD, and 3 more like this

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Post by Isabellas39 on Aug 22, 2017 9:10:38 GMT -5

I took my rings off years ago during a heated debate about the importance of sex in a marriage. I told him since I don't feel married, I don't need to wear my rings any longer. It now sits in a draw somewhere.

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