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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Aug 8, 2017 1:14:12 GMT -5
I wear mine nearly all the time, save for when I'm working with raw meat. I broke the knuckle on that finger a few too many times so it ain't easy to take on and off anyway.
I like it, and I feel like it is an easy way for me to be my flirtatious self without anyone trying anything stupid. Not that anyone tries, but I'd like to think they may want to some day 😉
I also wear a mother's ring with my littles birth stone.
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Post by orangepeel on Aug 8, 2017 1:43:27 GMT -5
I wear mine, but my wife hasn't worn hers for about seven years: she broke it (and nearly her finger) in an accident. She simply hasn't got around to mending it yet, so it languishes in a drawer.
Kinda symbolic, eh?
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Post by h on Aug 8, 2017 5:01:43 GMT -5
I still wear it because I'm not sure if if I'm leaving yet. Deadline for that decision is approaching. I will likely take it off if I decide to go.
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Post by jim44444 on Aug 8, 2017 5:26:34 GMT -5
I took mine off in May of 2016. My finger was swollen and the tendon irritated making it difficult to bend the finger. After maybe 4 weeks I tried putting it on but did not wear it. I had gotten used to not wearing it.
The W has remarked about my not wearing it several times but only in a public setting where she knew I would not engage in an extended discussion about the symbolism. The last time I calmly and quietly told her I would wear it if she were my lover. There has been no mention of the ring since then.
At this point I cannot conceive a reason to wear it again. It hangs on my key ring, a symbol of its false symbolism. I do not know why she wears hers. Of what value is it? I do not care if she wears her wedding band. If wearing her ring is a warning to potential suitors that she is already 'taken' then it seems frivolous. Hell, I would warn them "She is taken but she ain't giving".
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Post by lifeinwoodinville on Aug 8, 2017 6:25:48 GMT -5
I wear mine nearly all the time, save for when I'm working with raw meat. I broke the knuckle on that finger a few too many times so it ain't easy to take on and off anyway. I like it, and I feel like it is an easy way for me to be my flirtatious self without anyone trying anything stupid. Not that anyone tries, but I'd like to think they may want to some day 😉 I also wear a mother's ring with my littles birth stone. You broke the knuckle "a few too many times"!? Was that during your time as a trained assassin or as a cage fighter? It's always the ones you least suspect that are the bad asses! Either way, I'm impressed! |
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Post by northstarmom on Aug 8, 2017 6:27:48 GMT -5
Pawned it a few months after filing for divorce.
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Post by worksforme2 on Aug 8, 2017 6:53:44 GMT -5
When I finally arrived at the conclusion that "I'm done" and as I started to put emotional and physical distance between us I took off my ring. That way both of us knew it was over. No more talks, no more twisting myself into a pretzel, no more pretending there was still a chance things could change.
The ring now resides in a fire proof box with my vehicle titles, my passport and other valuable documents I wouldn't want to lose, like the divorce decree.
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Post by twotimesone on Aug 8, 2017 8:36:49 GMT -5
Lost mine, didn't even bother to replace it.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2017 9:17:48 GMT -5
My ring belonged to my grandfather so i'm attached to it for that reason.
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Aug 8, 2017 9:58:27 GMT -5
Took mine off about a year ago. W asked about it once and I told her it was uncomfortable. She didn't ask more or why it was uncomfortable. A few months later she took hers off.
Im wondering if this has any effect on interactions with women. I am not hiding anything. If it comes up, I tell people Im married. But I do notice that interaction with women has been up. I know thats mostly been me. But I wonder if the absence of a ring has any impact. Thoughts?
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Post by WindSister on Aug 8, 2017 10:05:41 GMT -5
Replaced it!!! (couldn't resist)
My ring from my ex, though? I gave it back to his mom, she was the one who bought it, after all. She accepted it. I never did like that ring, it wasn't "me" at all.
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Post by WindSister on Aug 8, 2017 10:11:57 GMT -5
Took mine off about a year ago. W asked about it once and I told her it was uncomfortable. She didn't ask more or why it was uncomfortable. A few months later she took hers off. Im wondering if this has any effect on interactions with women. I am not hiding anything. If it comes up, I tell people Im married. But I do notice that interaction with women has been up. I know thats mostly been me. But I wonder if the absence of a ring has any impact. Thoughts? I hope it does. I want to get judge-y here, but I can't because the fact is I had sex with a married man, but I don't like that person I was who did that. Now, in a happy marriage, any woman who throws herself at my husband KNOWING full well he's married (wears the ring), she better watch her ass. lol Yes, I would go crazy on her. |
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Aug 8, 2017 10:23:55 GMT -5
And you should go crazy on her. I recently had an episode where there was flirting at my sons soccer game. I was the recipient in this case. Wife was only a couple of meters away, lol. She quickly and loudly asked if me if could go check on my youngest since she hadn't seen him around in the last few minutes. There was another dad present and after that comment from my wife he and I just gave each other that look. Took mine off about a year ago. W asked about it once and I told her it was uncomfortable. She didn't ask more or why it was uncomfortable. A few months later she took hers off. Im wondering if this has any effect on interactions with women. I am not hiding anything. If it comes up, I tell people Im married. But I do notice that interaction with women has been up. I know thats mostly been me. But I wonder if the absence of a ring has any impact. Thoughts? I hope it does. I want to get judge-y here, but I can't because the fact is I had sex with a married man, but I don't like that person I was who did that. Now, in a happy marriage, any woman who throws herself at my husband KNOWING full well he's married (wears the ring), she better watch her ass. lol Yes, I would go crazy on her. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Aug 8, 2017 11:03:52 GMT -5
I took my ring off shortly after the disastrous "re set " weekend. After wearing it for 23 yrs.
My daughter saw it sitting on the night stand and asked me "why aren't you wearing your ring?" I replied, "because it hurt's to much to wear it".
She went merrily on her way. It just so happens my W was sitting a few feet away in her recliner, constantly using her Ipad. She didn't look up ,and never said a thing.
It now sits in the drawer next to the bed.
Just a few days ago I looked to see if she is still wearing hers. It's gone. I'm glad. I would hope that it's a good thing for her. "there I go....giving again", yet she just seems to be going down a more self destructive path. She kept her ring on for at least another 8 or 9 months.
There's so much symbolism with a ring. Not all of it is positive.
I see a ring as a symbol for "that's what you are. Wrapped around her little finger. Or ,right wear she wants you, under her thumb. Or , nothing but a symbol, an object, a token. Something they can falsely show off."
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Post by WindSister on Aug 8, 2017 11:04:53 GMT -5
And you should go crazy on her. I recently had an episode where there was flirting at my sons soccer game. I was the recipient in this case. Wife was only a couple of meters away, lol. She quickly and loudly asked if me if could go check on my youngest since she hadn't seen him around in the last few minutes. There was another dad present and after that comment from my wife he and just gave each other that look. I hope it does. I want to get judge-y here, but I can't because the fact is I had sex with a married man, but I don't like that person I was who did that. Now, in a happy marriage, any woman who throws herself at my husband KNOWING full well he's married (wears the ring), she better watch her ass. lol Yes, I would go crazy on her. So she witnessed it and sent you away from the woman who was flirting with you? She wants to stake claim, but not have sex with you? That hurts, right? I can see in your case why one might participate in the flirting - let her see other women notice you!! |
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