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Post by Rhapsodee on Jul 14, 2017 12:00:18 GMT -5
A lot of dishonesty online. Ask a lot of questions, use dummy contacts - like Kik, meet in public and they do not need your full name the first time they meet you in public, as well that should be just a meet up not a hookup. You need dummy email addresses too! Make sure your real name is not in the account! |
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 14, 2017 12:17:05 GMT -5
A lot of dishonesty online. Ask a lot of questions, use dummy contacts - like Kik, meet in public and they do not need your full name the first time they meet you in public, as well that should be just a meet up not a hookup. You need dummy email addresses too! Make sure your real name is not in the account! I have a couple of dummy emails |
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Post by carl on Jul 17, 2017 18:43:25 GMT -5
What the actual fuck. I did not even know this was a thing... You met her online right?? I have heard about people being blackmailed or threatened with widespread exposure who tragically couldn't bear to face the consequences. So it is a real problem. And honestly it is probably true that most secrets come out in the end. Better to be careful but I would always try to be prepared to consider that the truth often comes out. Not trying to be an asshole just care about nice people. |
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Post by tori on Jul 17, 2017 19:54:52 GMT -5
What the actual fuck. I did not even know this was a thing... You met her online right?? I have heard about people being blackmailed or threatened with widespread exposure who tragically couldn't bear to face the consequences. So it is a real problem. And honestly it is probably true that most secrets come out in the end. Better to be careful but I would always try to be prepared to consider that the truth often comes out. Not trying to be an asshole just care about nice people. Yea it's gotta suck to be outed for seeking affection and attention outside an abusive marriage. I don't know about anyone else but I think the risk of being outed is worth it. |
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Jul 17, 2017 20:49:01 GMT -5
A couple of years ago, while chatting with a girl I almost married before I met my now wife, we got to talking about sex. Basically her asking me if I remember doing so and so on such and such date. The discussion was pretty racy.
She was then divorced and dating so after a few of these discussions, which she initiated, I propositioned her for a sexual encounter. She said no she didnt want to do that, hurt my wife and possibly my family. I told her that I didnt care if my wife found out because it would force the issue.
Afterwards I noticed two things.
1. I gave no fucks if I was outted for having an affair (I didnt have the affair)
2. I realized the ex-gf was also up to some mind fuckery by engaging in sex talk and then pulling the virtue card when push came to shove. It made me wonder if I am a magnet for manipulation
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Post by DryCreek on Jul 17, 2017 23:25:05 GMT -5
TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo, actually, there's a 3rd point... 3) Now you're self-aware enough to notice these behaviors and motivations. That's a potent skill. Hone it.
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Post by McRoomMate on Jul 18, 2017 8:04:58 GMT -5
I believe so. She started threatening to contact my wife. As you can see from my profile pic, I am intentionally wreckless online. This went on Monday and today, repeatedly threatening to contact her. When I called her out and said nothing she had was worth a dime to me, she made contact. GO TO THE POLICE. Ask her to put in an email how much money she wants to be quiet and to give you the bank details. Tell her you can only send it to her via bank transfer. Tell her you are going to the police. Or just actually go to the police. Maybe too gutsy or crazy of an idea but perhaps worth considering? Thanks for sharing - just go to google and type "Dating Scam" - totally rampant - I had no idea. |
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Post by McRoomMate on Jul 19, 2017 1:42:26 GMT -5
I believe so. She started threatening to contact my wife. As you can see from my profile pic, I am intentionally wreckless online. This went on Monday and today, repeatedly threatening to contact her. When I called her out and said nothing she had was worth a dime to me, she made contact. GO TO THE POLICE. Ask her to put in an email how much money she wants to be quiet and to give you the bank details. Tell her you can only send it to her via bank transfer. Tell her you are going to the police. Or just actually go to the police. Maybe too gutsy or crazy of an idea but perhaps worth considering? Thanks for sharing - just go to google and type "Dating Scam" - totally rampant - I had no idea. Another idea - Check the "Privacy Laws" in your State first (sometimes it is illegal to record without permission) but agree to meet and then record your conversation with her demanding cash and then play it back to her. Or just go to the police and have this scum bag charged with Black Male Extortion and let her go to jail and then sue her ass in Civil Court for damages and bankrupt the B---h !!! |
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Post by snowman12345 on Jul 19, 2017 9:14:13 GMT -5
You need dummy email addresses too! Make sure your real name is not in the account! I have a couple of dummy emails If you are using a burner phone make sure it is set up to not show your ID. |
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 19, 2017 9:38:15 GMT -5
I have a couple of dummy emails If you are using a burner phone make sure it is set up to not show your ID. I'm not its my regular phone and when I made the primary dummy email I didn't enter my true identity. However I did catch or my phone did a guy giving me a fake name with his burner phone because his email showed his real name. Good advice. Thanks |
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Post by TheGreatContender -aka Daddeeo on Jul 19, 2017 9:42:22 GMT -5
Burner phones...hmmmm. Thats why worldwide there are something like 1.5 mobile phones per person. Lol. If you are using a burner phone make sure it is set up to not show your ID. |
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Post by DryCreek on Jul 19, 2017 9:50:16 GMT -5
If you are using a burner phone make sure it is set up to not show your ID. I'm not its my regular phone and when I made the primary dummy email I didn't enter my true identity. However I did catch or my phone did a guy giving me a fake name with his burner phone because his email showed his real name. Good advice. Thanks Although I'm not in this game, I'm very curious what you're talking about. How does e-mail identity have any linkage to phone number? Is this a Facebook or Google/Android or caller ID thing? There is a lot of linking of identities across platforms out there, in the name of convenience, that will thwart a lot of attempts at anonymity. I recall a recent story about a guy who had families in two states, and the thing that eventually outed him was Facebook doing image recognition and matching one identity to photos linked to the other identity. |
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 19, 2017 10:00:14 GMT -5
I'm not its my regular phone and when I made the primary dummy email I didn't enter my true identity. However I did catch or my phone did a guy giving me a fake name with his burner phone because his email showed his real name. Good advice. Thanks Although I'm not in this game, I'm very curious what you're talking about. How does e-mail identity have any linkage to phone number? Is this a Facebook or Google/Android or caller ID thing? There is a lot of linking of identities across platforms out there, in the name of convenience, that will thwart a lot of attempts at anonymity. I recall a recent story about a guy who had families in two states, and the thing that eventually outed him was Facebook doing image recognition and matching one identity to photos linked to the other identity. This man that I met on a dating app he used a burner phone said one was for work and one personal. Anyway he had to give me his full name to enter my gated community. So he gives me his name. Then he wants me to send him an email, a pic, not a text because that's his work phone. So I email him and my phone is showing his email as his full name but a different last name then the one he gave me. So I google and FB search both the second one is real. He lied. Turns out he was married. So the phones can somehow change your email adress to your full name. |
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Post by hopingforachange on Jul 19, 2017 16:32:28 GMT -5
I suspect he created a burner email address from his primary email account. So all of his PII was linked on the back end and Google is great at putting the cookie crumbs together.
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Post by ironhamster on Jul 20, 2017 7:45:48 GMT -5
I believe it is still possible to be anonymous, but it is difficult. I'm sure the game is changing, all the time, case in point being that Facebook image recognition thing. I know Facebook and Google both know my rough location, probably based on where the servers and cell phone towers are, but going through a proxy server would obscure this.
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