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Post by cc on Feb 17, 2017 22:51:04 GMT -5
So, am I the only one eating my feelings here?
I have toned up supremely for this man of mine three times in this marriage...like killed myself to be perfect so maybe he would want me. It didn't matter.
Now I am tired of eating my feelings and need to get the frick up and do fitness for me.
But being really fit increases my sexual needs, health does that. LOL That also makes life harder.
It can make you insane, this sexless life.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2017 22:57:34 GMT -5
So, am I the only one eating my feelings here? I have toned up supremely for this man of mine three times in this marriage...like killed myself to be perfect so maybe he would want me. It didn't matter. Now I am tired of eating my feelings and need to get the frick up and do fitness for me. But being really fit increases my sexual needs, health does that. LOL That also makes life harder. It can make you insane, this sexless life. I don't have anything substantial to say except that I know how much hard work and commitment it is to tone up. I myself use the gym as a distraction to make me feel better and also tire me out. Sorry you are in your situation. I hope you find reading some of the other posts supportive. |
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Post by cc on Feb 17, 2017 22:59:47 GMT -5
I need to do it for me. I do.
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Post by ggold on Feb 17, 2017 23:05:35 GMT -5
I need to do it for me. I do. Yes. I do as well. I have been slacking on exercise the past few weeks. I was doing really well too! Now I am back to munching and not exercising and it makes me feel crappy. Join me cc and let's get back to it!! |
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Post by cc on Feb 17, 2017 23:37:24 GMT -5
I would love an accountability partner!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 18, 2017 0:48:01 GMT -5
I would love an accountability partner! Yes! That works. Ideally you want that to be a friend who goes to the gym with you or someone in the family. |
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Post by cc on Feb 18, 2017 1:01:27 GMT -5
I wish someone would. I think I need the alone time to work and feel. But someone to ask, did you train today....
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Post by baza on Feb 18, 2017 1:15:46 GMT -5
You tend to find that changing your weight - or appearance - has very little - if any - effect on an avoidant spouse.
Achieving / maintaining a sensible weight etc is a worthwhile thing to do irrespective, for you.
But don't expect it to have any pay off as far as altering your avoidant spouses desire level for you.
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Post by Rhapsodee on Feb 18, 2017 1:21:02 GMT -5
Don't work out and get flabby and depressed.
Work out and be horny and angry.
Eenie meenie minee mo.
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Post by cc on Feb 18, 2017 1:33:25 GMT -5
I've learned it does not matter if I am fit or fat. It does not matter. I guess the first time I thought this would excite him because I'll look like I did. Nope. The second and third I tried training him in an effort to do something together. If I wasn't pushing him to do it, he didn't. Funny how that's exactly how sex is in our marriage. Sigh
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Post by cc on Feb 18, 2017 1:33:57 GMT -5
Deedle, exactly. Screwed or should I say unscrewed either way. Lol
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Post by Deleted on Feb 18, 2017 1:34:21 GMT -5
I wish someone would. I think I need the alone time to work and feel. But someone to ask, did you train today.... So, did you today?  |
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Post by cc on Feb 18, 2017 1:35:40 GMT -5
Nope. I thought seriously about it. 😂
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Post by Deleted on Feb 18, 2017 1:36:25 GMT -5
Nope. I thought seriously about it. 😂 Um....that isn't good enough. Go! |
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Post by cc on Feb 18, 2017 1:37:08 GMT -5
Tomorrow! It's midnight here and I'm wallowing in self pity. Lol
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