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Post by dancingbear70 on Jan 30, 2017 11:13:03 GMT -5
As per every V day My H buys flowers couple of days before or after from the Grocery store with a dollar store card, no roses with ribbons or hart shaped candy boxes, no candle light dinners or stuffed bears. Years ago I told my H not to buy me flowers on Valentines day as the prices for roses are stupid and a waste of money. So he gets away with spending under ten bucks. .....What I would love is a romantic dinner with candle light ( Does not have to be anything gourmet) Then snuggle with a movie, then passionate love making at the end of the evening. Ya well that is not going to happen !!! What will happen is Dollar store card and grocery store flowers I guess I should be grateful to get any thing. Our 10th wedding anniversary I received a dollar store card and a post sent out on Facebook on what a lucky guy he was to all of our friends, Why could he have not written that on the card. He spent more time on that then he did writing and shopping for a card. Don't get me wrong it is not about the money on what he purchased and how much it was, But it would be nice every now and then to receive something special. As for now I just feel as though I am being taken for granted. No Sex or Romance at my house this Valentines day. K done with my rant I have become a big believer in breaking patterns. If you aren't going to get what you want, try something different in order to not receive the present that you don't want. Try asking for something else, maybe unrelated. Tell hubby something like, "I really have wanted a new picture frame (or whatever you come up with)." Suggest he get you that instead of the flowers and card. Break his pattern and make him think. Not that this will be the grand solution, but at least you wont get the reminder of the misery of years past. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2017 11:24:44 GMT -5
What the fuck does Valentine's Day got to do with sex . You spend the day showing your spouse they are special by spending more money and creatively, bullshit on them than there friends spouses because the next day is all about telling everyone they love me so much they......see every Facebook post Has everything to do with sex when you are not getting any ! My post wasn't about whether our spouses put out on valentines day, it's about how they like to show everyone the pretense that they have a normal marriage and so that involves putting a good show on for everyone on the day. |
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Post by Dan on Jan 30, 2017 11:46:27 GMT -5
Years ago I told my H not to buy me flowers on Valentines day as the prices for roses are stupid and a waste of money. My wife also doesn't like flashy or expensive gifts, and dislikes the cost (and possible environmental impact) of the gazillion-roses for Valentines day thing. So she informed me some recent Valentines day "don't buy me flowers". So I didn't. But I still gave her a dozen roses. When we met (28 years ago) she drank this tea called "Five Roses"; it is a very good, very distinctive black tea, but VERY hard to find in the US. But I managed to find a way to buy it from a custom importer. She also likes earrings, but not the gaudy, dangly ones. So I bought two boxes of Five Roses Tea and a pair of rose-shaped earrings. I then went to a florist, and asked for an EMPTY rose box -- with the tissue and ribbon and everything. I placed the tea and earrings in the box, and a handmade card saying "I didn't buy you flowers, but I did get you a dozen roses." I love doing stuff like that. The gift was very much appreciated... but I don't really need to tell you the rest of the story, do I? |
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Post by flowerdust on Jan 30, 2017 12:00:55 GMT -5
Years ago I told my H not to buy me flowers on Valentines day as the prices for roses are stupid and a waste of money. My wife also doesn't like flashy or expensive gifts, and dislikes the cost (and possible environmental impact) of the gazillion-roses for Valentines day thing. So she informed me some recent Valentines day "don't buy me flowers". So I didn't. But I still gave her a dozen roses. When we met (28 years ago) she drank this tea called "Five Roses"; it is a very good, very distinctive black tea, but VERY hard to find in the US. But I managed to find a way to buy it from a custom importer. She also likes earrings, but not the gaudy, dangly ones. So I bought two boxes of Five Roses Tea and a pair of rose-shaped earrings. I then went to a florist, and asked for an EMPTY rose box -- with the tissue and ribbon and everything. I placed the tea and earrings in the box, and a handmade card saying "I didn't buy you flowers, but I did get you a dozen roses." I love doing stuff like that. The gift was very much appreciated... but I don't really need to tell you the rest of the story, do I? That is so awesome, The thought was brilliant . I will also have to look for the tea as I really like bold teas and they are hard to find may just try that one. Don't know if they sell it here in Canada |
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Post by lyn on Jan 30, 2017 12:53:26 GMT -5
Years ago I told my H not to buy me flowers on Valentines day as the prices for roses are stupid and a waste of money. My wife also doesn't like flashy or expensive gifts, and dislikes the cost (and possible environmental impact) of the gazillion-roses for Valentines day thing. So she informed me some recent Valentines day "don't buy me flowers". So I didn't. But I still gave her a dozen roses. When we met (28 years ago) she drank this tea called "Five Roses"; it is a very good, very distinctive black tea, but VERY hard to find in the US. But I managed to find a way to buy it from a custom importer. She also likes earrings, but not the gaudy, dangly ones. So I bought two boxes of Five Roses Tea and a pair of rose-shaped earrings. I then went to a florist, and asked for an EMPTY rose box -- with the tissue and ribbon and everything. I placed the tea and earrings in the box, and a handmade card saying "I didn't buy you flowers, but I did get you a dozen roses." I love doing stuff like that. The gift was very much appreciated... but I don't really need to tell you the rest of the story, do I? Sigh. i need this. One day. If it's true that you 'reap what you sow', then it will eventually happen for me. @dan One day, a special someone will love you and cherish you completely, in every way, for the kind, loving man that you are. We know what we need to do....... it will happen. |
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Post by darktippedrose on Jan 31, 2017 0:54:44 GMT -5
I wish I had a big teddy bear. At least it would keep my butt warm at night, lol I haven't really celebrated Valentines day since my mom died. She'd do stuff for me. As I got older, and it was on romance and I was never that type of a girl that guys looked at, I hated it. grrrrrrr. My husband didn't believe in anniversaries or valentines, so I'd hate it, but secretly yearn for it. Now, I'll probably do something for my kidz for valentines. I'll probably watch a scary movie about Valentines day and eat some dark chocolate. My birthday is also 2 days after Valentines so .... yeah I hear ya sister. Mothers day and my birthday same thing, Sort of a get ripped off feeling. Love the idea of a scary Valentines movie may do that with my daughter. thanks for the idea hehe yes, scary movies are my revenge on Valentine's Day. some cake and maybe some heart shaped balloons. For myself, I think I need to buy myself a fat heart pillow that looks cute as hell. hehe |
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Post by itsjustus on Feb 2, 2017 22:21:58 GMT -5
Years ago I told my H not to buy me flowers on Valentines day as the prices for roses are stupid and a waste of money. My wife also doesn't like flashy or expensive gifts, and dislikes the cost (and possible environmental impact) of the gazillion-roses for Valentines day thing. So she informed me some recent Valentines day "don't buy me flowers". So I didn't. But I still gave her a dozen roses. When we met (28 years ago) she drank this tea called "Five Roses"; it is a very good, very distinctive black tea, but VERY hard to find in the US. But I managed to find a way to buy it from a custom importer. She also likes earrings, but not the gaudy, dangly ones. So I bought two boxes of Five Roses Tea and a pair of rose-shaped earrings. I then went to a florist, and asked for an EMPTY rose box -- with the tissue and ribbon and everything. I placed the tea and earrings in the box, and a handmade card saying "I didn't buy you flowers, but I did get you a dozen roses." I love doing stuff like that. The gift was very much appreciated... but I don't really need to tell you the rest of the story, do I? This is the kind of stuff I did too Dan. It didn't help with "the rest of the story" but then again, it wasn't the point. Certainly not an attempt at a,quid pro que. I just love doing things like that. An incurable romantic, I guess. Well done Dan. |
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Post by ggold on Feb 2, 2017 22:34:00 GMT -5
I broke up with my ex boyfriend on Valentine's Day when we were out to dinner. I cheated on him with the man who became my husband. Apparently, he punched the wall in the restaurant. Hey, I was only 22 years old. That was horrible of me to do. I just couldn't go on pretending that I liked this guy.
Hmmmm.... maybe my SM has been Karma from the Valentine's Day breakup!!
I hate Valentine's Day!!!!
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Post by unmatched on Feb 2, 2017 22:35:48 GMT -5
I broke up with my ex boyfriend on Valentine's Day when we were out to dinner. I cheated on him with the man who became my husband. Apparently, he punched the wall in the restaurant. Hey, I was only 22 years old. That was horrible of me to do. I just couldn't go on pretending that I liked this guy. Hmmmm.... maybe my SM has been Karma from the Valentine's Day breakup!! I hate Valentine's Day!!!! Well I hope you get something nice this year  |
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Post by DryCreek on Feb 2, 2017 23:17:39 GMT -5
Cool idea, Dan . Kudos on the creativity. I miss doing stuff like that. |
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Post by ggold on Feb 2, 2017 23:28:15 GMT -5
I broke up with my ex boyfriend on Valentine's Day when we were out to dinner. I cheated on him with the man who became my husband. Apparently, he punched the wall in the restaurant. Hey, I was only 22 years old. That was horrible of me to do. I just couldn't go on pretending that I liked this guy. Hmmmm.... maybe my SM has been Karma from the Valentine's Day breakup!! I hate Valentine's Day!!!! Well I hope you get something nice this year You are funny!! |
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Post by deadzone75 on Feb 3, 2017 2:17:09 GMT -5
The W and I agreed to ignore V-Day. It's awkward, having to make eye contact on that day. Almost as awkward as when we are watching a movie and a sex scene comes on. I don't know what the hell happened to my life. Once upon a time I was having sex on a sidewalk in a park, now fast forward to 2016 and pushing half a year since sex with the W.
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Post by shamwow on Feb 3, 2017 7:49:57 GMT -5
The W and I agreed to ignore V-Day. It's awkward, having to make eye contact on that day. Almost as awkward as when we are watching a movie and a sex scene comes on. I don't know what the hell happened to my life. Once upon a time I was having sex on a sidewalk in a park, now fast forward to 2016 and pushing half a year since sex with the W. I feel ya man. I'm at 2 1/2 years and can recall sex in the middle of a hiking trail at the state park... So long ago. |
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Post by dinnaken on Feb 4, 2017 15:10:56 GMT -5
Come on folks, let's stay cheerful.
How about suggestions for an alternative Valentine's Day, one that sticks two fingers (or whatever's appropriate in your country) to the whole nonsense?
This is what I do on Valentine's Day and why.
Years ago a colleague at work asked me, all bright and cheerful, "What are you doing for Valentine's Day?" Irritated, I replied with the thing that seemed most anti-the sentiment of the day, "I'm going to sit in a room on my own and watch Brief Encounter" Later, I thought "Sod it, why not, it's a great film!" So that's what I do every February 14th, and I highly recommend it (glass of red wine, optional).
That's my anti-Valentine's Day, what's yours?
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Post by Rhapsodee on Feb 4, 2017 16:51:30 GMT -5
Our wedding anniversary is the week after Valentine's Day so we agreed to not do anything on that day. I do get a little kiss and a hug with a Happy Valentine's Day wish. Neither of us came from families that were into gifting, so we don't do anniversary gifts either, just cards, a dinner out. At one time i think we made an effort to have sex on our anniversary. I dont remember it, but im sure we did.
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