Do you and your spouse sleep in the same bed?

Yep. In the days when anything was a bed. As compared to now, when not even a bed is a bed.

We both sleep in the same bed, but have different falling asleep preferences.  She prefers to lay on her right side near the edge.  I prefer going to sleep on my left side near the other edge.  It looks like a queen's sized bed, but feels like King size.  The other night I faced her side and put my left hand on her left arm. It felt weird. Like it wasn't the arm I used to know.  Does that make sense to you?  Stuff like that happens when there's very little physical contact and a lot of time has gone by.  I had forgotten what her arm felt like. I can't even imagine what the rest of her body would feel like. Not that I'm interested in finding out at this point.      

So I haven't responded to this thread, but Ibe been thinking about it.

A few months ago we moved to a new city, in a new state, bought a lot of new things...... EVERYTHING was supposed to be New - new epoch of our relationship - we talked about this...... for the millionth time

Among the "new" items, was a fabulous new bed, four poster, galvanized steel - upholstered headboard - very French Chateau..... anyhoo...... at the showroom picking out this bed my H said, "You know I'm going to tie you to the posts right (he whispered in my ear)", my immediate response was, "well, you better" (in my head it was more like, "yeah right"). Anyway, a few weeks later, said bed is delivered - along with a super plush cashmere covered mattress. We made up the bed in our fluffy white linens. That night my H climbed into this new bed - the "new "stage", if you will for all of this amazing sex we're about to start having. By the time I came back from brushing my teeth and lotioning up like we girls like to do, he was sawing logs like no tomorrow, rolled over on his side facing away from me. I went back into the closet changed out of the silk nightie and into an old college t-shirt, and ended up falling asleep on the deck.

The next night, H showed up again (I am IN bed wearing zilch) and I said, "This new bed is NOT a celibacy bed" . Let me just say, I'm the furthest thing from a nag...... my tone was not bitchy, It was quiet, peaceful - I thought MAYBE he would climb in with me and make this STUPID bed a "sex" bed not a "celibacy" bed. Nope. He walked off and now the guest room is HIS room and he seems almost giddy about it. We did end up having terrible, kind of drunken reset sex in the new bed about a week later. I woke up alone ....... wandered over to the guest rooms and there he was, sleeping like a baby. Whatever.

This is a long rambling post....... if you read this..... thanks <B

I think it is a possibility.

Of course, it's possible he's just not into me - for whatever the reason. Crushing to the self-esteem yes, but, I'm pretty sure I'm not hideous.

After my husbands 5 month trip after the children were diagnosed, my husband would wait until I was sleeping and then take my debit card.

Thus - my husband would rarely come to bed before I was asleep. I would cry myself to sleep all the time.

he wouldn't touch me. Gradually and gradually I couldn't sleep on his chest. or anything like that. He would be so careful not to touch me in any way, sometimes even shoving me over so we wouldn't touch.

When we moved to a place with stairs, i decided to sleep by myself.

It was too painful to sleep next to him, so I sleep in the living room. that way the kidz don't get out of control, and I'd rather sleep by myself. but with my kidz, I rarely do. I usually wake up surrounded by them lol.

lyn - I'm so sorry the galvanized steel frame has not been properly tested. He is a total schmuck. And, the most cynical part of my brain wonders if the move is a way to be sure you are isolated from a support network of friends - i.e., so you won't get any bright ideas about runnin' off.
The whole "new city, new bed, same shithole results" thing makes me very sad.

@geekgoddess I know! What a terrible waste of a perfectly good, sturdy bed! Maybe his intentions were/are different than his actions..... I dunno.... The good thing is...... I'm not really 'why chasing' too much anymore. One thing is for sure, I'm not staying in this city any longer than absolutely necessary!