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Post by obobfla on May 14, 2016 18:04:17 GMT -5
I am guess that he said he wanted to be closer to Morocco, he is Muslim. Mohammed listened to his wives and allowed for divorce.
Glad to see your children are in good programs. I am an ASD dad in Florida, and there are some good programs here. But if your children are doing well where you are, don't leave. Your husband sounds like an extremely selfish man who sets a bad example for his sons.
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Post by obobfla on May 14, 2016 9:23:50 GMT -5
Having had a brother-in-law live in Kuala Lampor, I can say that most Malaysians are tolerant people who would never stone anyone. However, they would not appreciate an ignorant American girl preaching Christianity.
But transcendence, that is so important! I call it getting out of yourself, which has been the key for my staying off alcohol for 21 years and maintaining my sanity with my wife. I love challenging myself to listen to new music or watch foreign films. Many of my tweets on my Twitter page are in languages I don't understand yet, but I still love getting them.
I was listening on Spotify to some "torch and twang" playlist when I heard this song.
Loved it so much, thought I would check the artist out. Found out that Baptiste W. Hamon is a Frenchman who sings American country. But most of his songs are in French. I spent the rest of the day listening to French country music. Mon Dieu!
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Post by obobfla on May 13, 2016 20:21:46 GMT -5
After all this time of ignoring my needs, you want yours met? Fuck you! Better yet, don't fuck you!
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Post by obobfla on May 13, 2016 19:06:34 GMT -5
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Post by obobfla on May 13, 2016 19:03:12 GMT -5
Perverted
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Post by obobfla on May 13, 2016 18:55:59 GMT -5
Just thinking of growing older with my wife scares me. This past year, I had two medical emergencies. Each time, my wife argued against taking me to the emergency room.
The first time was when a bug crawled into my ear while I sleeping. Yes, it sounds disgusting, but it is excruciatingly painful when a creature is digging on your eardrum. I was screaming in pain at 6 in the morning. My wife, ever worried about money, said "Can you wait until 8 when the walk-in clinic opens?" I demanded she take me to the emergency room immediately, or I would drive myself.
Three months later, I was sitting at home when I felt dizzy. I started shaking. I tried to talk, but I could barely get my mouth to form the words I wanted to say. I thought I was having a mini-stroke. My wife refused to take me, even though the hospital is only 5 minutes away. I had to dial 9-1-1 and say "TIA" with all the concentration I could muster. Fortunately, it was not a stroke after all - just the effects from stress. Wonder where I got that stressed out?
I can forgive the lack of sex. But I cannot forgive taking my health so carelessly. I am saving up for a divorce.
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Post by obobfla on May 13, 2016 18:35:31 GMT -5
My name in Inigo Montoya. You killed my father - prepare to die! I don't envy the headache you will have when you wake up. But in the meantime, dream of large women The Dreaded Pirate Roberts takes no prisoners!
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Post by obobfla on May 13, 2016 8:35:24 GMT -5
obobfla - I think we cannot be together. I only know 3 of those 9 people without Google. Here are answers to the non-sex questions: Yes I have watched a foreign language film. It's funny you ask that - my H will not read subtitles and it makes him seem lazy to me. So, it's not my "go to" but not opposed to it. No, hardly ever follow a recipe unless baking. Shelter mutts I cannot afford new clothes but look forward to going back to Banana Republic, White House-Black Market and Ann Taylor. I also want some vintage online stuff (I ❤️ the 70s - think Penny Lane in Almost Famous). I have also promised myself a pair of tight black leather pants (when I lose the rest of this weight) for fun nights out. Actually, you did pretty well. On the names, you batted .300, which is pretty good. If you did Google, that is a huge plus. I don't think my questions have 100% right answers. It's more of how you answered the questions that matters. But there are some definite wrong answers: "You mean those movies with subtitles? If I wanted to read, I would get a book! Can't they speak English?" "Yes, I always follow recipes. I make sure to poke holes in the plastic wrap and set the microwave correctly." "No dogs! Not a big fan of animals" "I only get my clothes from Abercrombie and Fitch. Don't you?" "Graham Parsons and Lucinda Williams? You mean you like that twangy country stuff?" "I don't know about Carl Hiasson. Have you read any of Bill O'Reilly's books?" "I don't know any of those people, although I think one of them might be in an Adam Sandler movie I saw. He is so funny!"
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Post by obobfla on May 12, 2016 22:36:14 GMT -5
I am tempted to answer JMX's questionnaire, but I know the right answers already.
Here are my questions:
Have you ever watched a movie in another language? When you cook, do you always follow a recipe? What is your favorite sexual position? What is your favorite sexual fantasy? What is your favorite breed of dog? Where do you buy most of your clothes? Do you know who the following people are? Graham Parsons Jaco Pastorius Lucinda Williams Ella Fitzgerald Carl Hiasson Billy Collins Akira Kurasawa Dick LeBeau Isabel Allende
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Post by obobfla on May 12, 2016 21:30:18 GMT -5
... Oh and don't forget to let him know that you can please yourself so much better than he ever could!! bballgirl, I just posted a Lucinda Williams song for you in another forum - Come on!
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Post by obobfla on May 12, 2016 21:03:22 GMT -5
I'm seeing this term thrown around here and wondering what it is and whether it's not ideal to engage in it. I suspect my refuser might offer it up soon (after 8 months) but I am not inclined to take him up this time. Honestly, I'm just done. I don't even want his hands on me. Thoughts? There are times that I think my wife wants it. But frankly, I am no longer sexually attracted to her. I am so resentful that I would turn her down and tell her to find a toy or another man. When we had our son, she had a rough pregnancy and did not want to have any more children. I would have loved to have had another. She couldn't take the pill, so we used condoms. She would not even go to a gynecologist. Every month before her period, she would freak out that she was pregnant. To preserve our sex life, I went to a urologist to have a vasectomy. It was hard, because I really wanted another child. But for the sake of our sex life and marriage, I got snipped. But here is the thing - even after the vasectomy, she still panicked every month. I explained that if she were pregnant, it couldn't be mine. She no longer wanted any sex. She said it hurt. I begged her to see a gynecologist. She wouldn't go. Even when I took her away to a romantic B&B for our anniversary, she was not in the mood. So after all of that and ignoring my needs for irrational fears, I no longer want my wife. Sometimes I pray that she would find someone else, then he can be stuck with her.
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Post by obobfla on May 12, 2016 20:46:06 GMT -5
Let me add a song by my favorite songwriter, Lucinda Williams
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Post by obobfla on May 12, 2016 20:42:15 GMT -5
Here is mine. Since I am a big Lucinda Williams fan, here is the song that sums up my relationship:
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Post by obobfla on May 12, 2016 20:36:45 GMT -5
Right now, intimacy is my greatest need. To me, it is a recognition of who I am and what I desire. I miss it so much more than sex. One of the biggest problems with my wife's mental illness is that she seems incapable of perceiving any nonverbal communication. I remember when she would come up and kiss me on the mouth, and I would get mad at her. Why? I was chewing food at the time and not even looking at her. I tried to explain, and she said she understood. But then she forgets.
We have no small talk anymore. I try to talk about music or movies, but she could care less. I tried going out dancing with her, but she would not move with me. At times, I feel like she doesn't realize I am here or try to see how I am feeling or what I am thinking. It's not that she doesn't care. It's that she seems incapable of caring. I realize it's her illness, but I wish she would try harder to fight her illness. I suffer from depression, and I battle mine every day. Yes, she is sick, and it's not her fault. But she doesn't fight it. I look at this way - it's not your fault if you have a cold. But it is your responsibility to wipe the snot from your nose and not cough and sneeze on other people.
My wife is schizo-affective with lots of paranoia. With her, a small problem becomes a major crisis. She used to have delusions, but the medicine stopped those voices. Now she just sits and worries. She has no room in her life for anyone else's thoughts or needs.
I could write forever on the subject, but the bottom line is I miss connecting with an adult woman. The best thing about the affairs I had was not the sex. It was that these two women recognized me as an attractive man. I was never much of a dancer, but I would love to go out dancing just to feel a woman move in time with me. I need to talk, to flirt, and to laugh with someone. I need to be acknowledged.
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Post by obobfla on May 11, 2016 20:47:53 GMT -5
Paraglide
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