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Post by obobfla on May 24, 2016 19:23:50 GMT -5
I don't think there is anything to worry about. Sounds like you had a good time and will eventually have a better time. But you were there, and you know the guy. We weren't and we don't. It's too soon to expect anything more than a good time.Plus, he likes your competitive spirit!
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Post by obobfla on May 24, 2016 18:28:49 GMT -5
I love watching Flamenco! Many years ago, I pined for a dark-haired girl of Mexican descent, so some friends took me to the Columbia Restaurant in Tampa for my birthday. It was one of my favorite birthdays ever. The food was divine, and the restaurant had a Flamenco floor show. By the end of the night, I wanted to order flamenco dancer to go!
Years later I went back with my wife and a female friend. My friend took a shine to a male dancer and wanted him packaged up to go!
Here is a YouTube clip of the place
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Post by obobfla on May 23, 2016 20:35:01 GMT -5
Helen, so sorry you feel that way. I still deal with depression myself, and I used to medicate with lots of alcohol. Gave that up after I reached my lifetime quota in less than 35 years. HelenT, I've had depression so bad that I felt encased in concrete. I could not and would not do anything but lie in bed and sleep. I still fight that feeling. But I must remember - depression lies! It says do nothing, when the best thing for you is to do something. It says the whole world is against you, when really there are people who care. Others don't hate you; they just don't care. They are too wrapped up in their own problems and think you hate them too.
So what makes me feel better? First off, my son. He goes out of his way to make me laugh. Sometimes it's too much, but I need it. After 13 years, I am amazed at him. I am also amazed nobody stopped me at the hospital when we first took him home and said you are unfit to raise a child. I've gotten away with it this long!
Animals help. I have a cat, but the cat prefers my wife over me. Something about the fact that my wife gives her food. I should get a dog. They are less susceptible to bribery.
Music also helps. Lately, I've been into Americana and alt-country music. Yes, it's depressing, but I need something that understands how I feel. I don't want music that tells me to cheer up. F*ck that shit!
But when I feel really down, I reach out to others. I will chat or come here and post. If I need to, I will call friends or attend an AA meeting. When I am down, I need to get out of myself and not take myself so seriously. Talking to others gives me the truth to offset depression's lie.
Feel free to PM me if you want to talk.
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Post by obobfla on May 23, 2016 20:08:19 GMT -5
I have already posted a link about Ben Franklin saying that older women are better lovers. I agree with Ben. Yes, little girls are cute. But then they open their mouths and talk. It's not that they lack knowledge. They lack insight and experience.
I relate better to older women. They feel ashamed of their scars and stretch marks, but to me the marks are badges of honor. The biggest moment of my life was becoming a parent. I want a partner who understands how special that is. I have been corresponding with a lovely lady who is a grandmother. Love to hear her talk about her grandchildren.
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Post by obobfla on May 23, 2016 18:45:48 GMT -5
I have had one. Probably would like to have another, but it depends who I pair with first. I know it's possible to have a great marriage, and I think I have what it takes. But I do have to pick a better partner next time.
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Post by obobfla on May 23, 2016 18:41:50 GMT -5
I know I first suggested my home state of Florida, but I could see visiting the UK. Been on my bucket list for awhile. In fact, I might ask the Queen to take me back if our elections turn out poorly.
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Post by obobfla on May 23, 2016 11:49:35 GMT -5
Here is what I would hate to see happen - a new member wants to pose a question but does not feel comfortable yet posting in an open forum. Should that member have to post 20 times before they can ask a question privately?
I know it is more work, but I would rather see the PMs allowed first, say 5 or so. Maybe have something like EP where you have to friend someone before you can send them PMs.
But by all means if someone posts something thoughtless or disrespectful, kick his or her ass out of here! But we have to be clear what is thoughtless or disrespectful. I would include soliciting or including pictures of private body parts; messaging that insults somebody's race, religion, creed, sex, sexual orientation, or illness; messaging someone three times to another member after that member says he or she doesn't want contact; messaging personal threats; sending any message that would violate the confidentiality of this group.
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Post by obobfla on May 22, 2016 22:10:57 GMT -5
One of the best aspects of the site is how we can express ourselves sexually. I would hate to have misogyny silence the women here. Just because they say they want to have sex does not necessarily mean they want to have sex with any man.
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Post by obobfla on May 22, 2016 21:59:13 GMT -5
He'll absolutely fucking yes! There are quite a few people I would love to meet here
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Post by obobfla on May 22, 2016 21:56:06 GMT -5
Let me know when you emerge from a burning building naked
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Post by obobfla on May 22, 2016 21:24:35 GMT -5
So JMX, tell me about your pets!
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Post by obobfla on May 22, 2016 21:20:05 GMT -5
Now I really want to dance! In high school, I never went to the prom. Probably my biggest regret was not going. Nowadays, I wish I could dress up, take a beautiful woman out in a limo, and dance the night away.
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Post by obobfla on May 22, 2016 21:11:17 GMT -5
There has been some discussion in other threads about private messaging. I realize that I am not an admin. I just thought I would share my thoughts on the subject.
First of all, we talk about some sensitive subjects here. I have given details about my life here that I have not told anyone else. In order for this forum to work, I have to have that trust in my fellow forum members.
But there are times when I need more discretion than the forum provides. I might have an issue too personal for the open forum or a personal question which a member may not want to answer in an open forum. For such instances, I use personal messages. They may not be solicited, but I don't think they are intrusive.
Because of the trust factor, I try to PM carefully. No pestering, no overtly sexual messages, and no requests for pics. If you don't answer, I got your message. No need to send any more.
That is how I handle PMs.
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Post by obobfla on May 21, 2016 17:24:53 GMT -5
No experiences, but I would love to try. My favorite dancing is Cajun dancing. No lessons required, fun music, and good body contact. Plus, the food served there is awesome!
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Post by obobfla on May 21, 2016 8:47:35 GMT -5
YOU ARE THE PROBLEM!!! Think about it. It will be my fourth attorney - btw. Respectfully disagree. when you have been a cheerful giver,caring ,loving,considerate person all your life,and it has worked well for you in all, if not many of your daily relationships with other people,now, " I am the problem!" because I live with a manipulative controller, and any effort to set boundaries is run over like a tank," I am the problem?" Nothing wrong with standing up for yourself. Unless your efforts produce change, it will erode your confidence. Not that a therapist knows everything, but when others point out that ,you will have to endure a never ending battle, that you are not suited for, it is time to pull out. Retreating ,changing your surroundings, regrouping, waiting for re enforcements, are all strategies to gain new ground. Well, if you don't get out of the way of the tank, then, yes, you are the problem. It's called being an enabler. You put up with the bad behavior, and that allows her to misbehave. It's kind of like being married to an alcoholic. You may bitch about the drinking, but you make the money so she can buy the booze. There is also a child involved. A manipulative controller who ignores what her husband and child say does not deserve to be in a family. There are ways to confront someone without giving up your consideration.
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