I went to the beach yesterday. Weather was sunnier in New Smyrna Beach than in Virginia, but the winds from the storms offshore kicked up the surf to dangerous levels. The lifeguards posted riptide warnings and kept everyone close to shore.
Both Daytona Beach and New Smyrna Beach allow driving and parking on the beach. The sand is packed hard, so cars can drive safely. The first Daytona 500 races were actually on the beach. But with high tide and rough surf, the lifeguards closed off beach parking.
One person parked his or her SUV on the beach at low tide before parking was closed. The SUV was left there outside of a beachside bar as the tide rose. Everyone in the bar was taking pictures and wondering whose car it was. One lady walked out to the car as if it was hers, bringing cheers from the entire bar. But it wasn't her car - she pranked the entire bar.
My son and I had burgers at the bar (actual cheeseburger in paradise!) then left before someone claimed the car.
Our beaches look great! A lot of sand was blown Westward up onto the dunes where the sea grapes grow. Other than that it formed a nice gentle slope back down to the ocean. Perhaps much of the sand that had been taken back into the ocean by previous storms was washed back in by all those winds blowing from the East to the West? That happens from season to season.
In the past the Atlantic has come in and washed away 8 to 10 feet of sand leaving a really, really BIG first step! Then the count/state pays millions of dollars to have sand dredged back to shore or brought in by the truckloads. All in the name of tourism and those valuable homes on the beach.
Thanks for the beach report! It's my birthday weekend coming up, so I am going to take my son over to New Smyrna Beach. It may be the shark bite capital of the world, but it has a nice pub on the beach where you can have one of the best burgers while watching the ocean and all the girls in bikinis stroll by. Talk about your "cheeseburger in paradise!"
Caris, to paraphrase Forrest Gump - "Sexy is as sexy does!"
Men may talk about breasts and bums, and they definitely get our attention. But the sexiest thing about a woman is the way she feels about herself. Funny, women tell me the same thing about men. Means more than hot buns, penis size, and six-pack abs to them.
I feel for you. I sometimes think that I've made a terrible mistake in choosing a wife. Even if I got out now, I wonder if anyone would want me again. Yes, I could probably get laid. Since there are more single women my age than single men, the odds are in my favor. But will I ever have that magical relationship where being around a certain woman gets me excited and reassures me at the same time. It's the kind where I am pinching myself to see if it's real and that she really likes me.
Right now, I am not actively looking for that. I still have my wife, even though we will most likely never have sex again. She is recovering, but I don't think she will ever realize how precious life really is - even though she almost lost hers. Right now, the major roadblock to her recovery is her unwillingness to push herself through the therapy and get off the ventilator. Plus, I have a 14-year-old boy to get through to adulthood on my own. I don't have the energy for a relationship right now.
But there will come a time where I will just say "Fuck it" and get somebody. My male ego is a precious thing, and I have to feed it every once in a while. I may be a bit weird or a jackass sometimes, but I do deserve a woman who likes both herself and me.
So, if I put into the dating service "50 something overweight bearded man seeks fairly attractive woman for sexual partner. Let's try one night together and see if we click," I will get lots of responses, right?
pixie, I can understand why you would not want a divorce. I've resisted divorce too, basically because my wife could not survive on her own and I can't afford two places.
However, I have encountered two problems that are very common to many in this group. The first is the lack self worth. I can't help but wonder why my wife isn't attracted to me, and my male ego takes a dive. Fortunately, I have had two affairs. Both were with attractive women who thought I was attractive too. It may be wrong, but the affairs are what I needed.
The second is the resentment I feel towards my wife. She is normally a sweet person. But I really resent how her fears have affected our sex life. When I am not angry, I am distant from her. Any desire I have had for her has left. It's just too frustrating to pursue a sexual relationship with her. I told her she would have to initiate sex, because I won't anymore.
There are other issues as well, especially her physical and mental health. But both the resentment and the damage to the ego have weighed on me and affected all parts of my life. I need friends, both sexual and otherwise, to maintain my own mental health.
As for affair partners (APs for newcomers), I cannot see having one with anyone who is either a friend or fast becoming one. Not only is there too much risk involved with someone I can't trust, but the sex consistently gets better with a friend. One of my APs had an autistic child as I do, and we helped each other through that. In fact, we still do even though we are no longer in a sexual relationship.
I must point out that my APs have never lived in the same town as me. We met on weekends, where we told our spouses we were going to "conferences." Thankfully, these "conferences" were great learning experiences!
I'm new and lurking for a couple days now. I have been living in a sexless marriage for 7 years. It feels good to find a group of people going through the same thing only because here it can be discussed and hopefully no one will judge. It's difficult not being able to tell your friends and family. It can be draining to pretend all is fine. 😞
I have read quite a few posts, gave me hope, made sad, made me think. Eventually I will share my story.
Welcome to the club no one wants to join. Since we lack fun in the bedroom, we try to have fun here. I have found this site to be very therapeutic.
It is a bad storm - bigger than Charlie, Frances, and Matthew. Fortunately, I am inland and on high ground as Florida is concerned. The biggest dangers for me are tornados and loss of power.
There are already long lines at the grocery stores for water and canned goods. Gas has gone up 40 cents a gallon in the past week, and everyone is filling their gas tanks. I've got the canned goods but need to get water tomorrow before it's all gone.
I have a long history with hurricanes. When my family moved down to Florida from New Jersey 57 years ago, my mom had four kids and was pregnant with me. I was supposed to be born Sept. 8, the day Hurricane Donna hit my hometown. I eventually arrived on the 14th. Thankfully, I was born male, so my parents were never tempted to name me Donna after the hurricane.
We went through three hurricanes 13 years ago. I managed to keep my power and cable throughout, but many of my friends were not so lucky. I remember all the TV news people telling everyone to "hunker down" so often that it became a drinking game. Whenever you heard it, you took a drink. I had quit drinking, so I didn't play along.
I do appreciate the offer, andie. Don't think I can leave, but I might reciprocate when the blizzards and earthquakes come.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
misssunnybunny: Hooray! Glad to hear the pup is home safe and sound!
Sept 3, 2017 20:13:39 GMT -5
brian: My dog went to jail once... she got out, ran to a neighbors house, and they called the police. They came and picked her up and took her to the station instead of the pound. The cops found me plastering the neighborhood with Lost Dog signs.
Sept 4, 2017 6:42:33 GMT -5
brian: So she spent a cpl hours in a jail cell. Hardened criminal, she is!
Sept 4, 2017 6:42:56 GMT -5
solodriver: That's great news wfm2 I'm sure you're both happy! He probably had a scary adventure.
Sept 4, 2017 10:54:40 GMT -5
LITW: so glad you got your dog back ... we had a similar situation a few weeks ago, and its not fun
Sept 6, 2017 9:44:59 GMT -5
greatcoastal: I've got this windy, wet, rain making, idea that I'll be trying out sometime Sunday night. I'll send it to all my friends North of me when I'm done. It'll be a blast!
Sept 7, 2017 9:08:54 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: Anyone else having trouble uploading images? I've tried on Safari, Firefox, Chrome. The image thing keeps telling me that jpg is invalid/not supported file format, and I know I've uploaded plenty as jpg images in the past.
Sept 8, 2017 16:49:16 GMT -5
petrushka: I'll give it a shot and see ...
Sept 9, 2017 2:14:37 GMT -5
petrushka: no rejection experienced, misssunnybunny - I can only conclude that maybe your jpg is corrupt, or maybe your connection was a bit wonky
Sept 9, 2017 2:26:12 GMT -5
tamara68: I had that problem too @missunnybunny, my jpg surely was not currupt but maybe too big. I have just tried with a small image and that worked.
Sept 9, 2017 3:30:19 GMT -5
misssunnybunny: I was able to post pictures yesterday. I'm not sure what the problem was, it just started working again. Ah, technology!
Sept 9, 2017 7:04:41 GMT -5
obobfla: Staying inside with canned goods, bottled water, and flashlights. Still have power, internet, and cable.
Sept 10, 2017 19:05:59 GMT -5