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Post by obobfla on Jun 21, 2016 12:09:10 GMT -5
@helentishappy, in fairness to her, she was worried about money. I had been to the hospital a couple times and found out it was nothing but stress. Doesn't excuse what she did, though.
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Post by obobfla on Jun 21, 2016 11:41:34 GMT -5
Well, of course, you stay because... um... well, because... Yeah, I dunno. Come on man... Tell me. I wanna know ha ha. It's coz I'm a shit out who has no balls. He phoned today to say he is on the verge of walking out of his job again. I kind of hope he does. That was my tipping point. If you don't walk out on him after that, I am coming across the Atlantic to spank you!
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Post by obobfla on Jun 21, 2016 11:34:12 GMT -5
I have been a lucky man in that I have had many close female platonic friends. So, let me compare the two:
I have had a child with my wife. We are the parents of one incredible son. I can't say that about my platonic friends.
I have had sex with my wife. I had sex with one of my friends many years ago when we were dating. As my friend is with a man who I think is the best thing that ever happened to her, I doubt I would have sex with her again. As for sex with my wife, it is very doubtful.
My wife and I are roommates. I have had female roommates (not girlfriends) who I got along with better. They were better at keeping the house.
I can tell many of my platonic female friends anything, including my sexual experiences. Can't talk about that with my wife, including our shared sexual experiences.
Is my wife my friend? Yes, in that I care for her and support her. I try to encourage her to better herself. But I expect more of her than I do my friends, and she can't even come close to my expectations.
But here is the biggest difference. If I had an emergency, my friends would make sure that I got help. When I needed to go to the hospital twice last year, I had to beg my wife to take me to the emergency room. That more than sex is my biggest gripe. I need someone to be there for me, and she can't be there.
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Post by obobfla on Jun 19, 2016 19:07:08 GMT -5
I remember both my parents passing. They both passed in their own beds with most of us around within three months of each other. We had hospice service, so they were as comfortable as possible. I miss them, but I know they went peacefully to a better place.
My mother-in-law is still going strong at 88. She and are are allies in dealing with my wife. I don't know if my wife can handle her passing.
Hope everything goes peacefully, and that you all celebrate her life.
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Post by obobfla on Jun 17, 2016 21:58:26 GMT -5
Never made it there. Spent some time around Morristown and Mendham when my cousins lived there. Unfortunately, almost all my cousins have moved away from Jersey.
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Post by obobfla on Jun 17, 2016 21:44:35 GMT -5
Even though I am now in Florida, the Jersey shore has some of my favorite beaches. My grandmother had a beach house on Long Beach Island where we could walk down to the ocean and hear the waves crash at night. Unlike Florida, the houses were wood frame and only two or three stories high. I remember the Good Humor man selling ice cream, hot soft pretzels, and the sun not setting until after 9. When Sandy came through, I worried how much of the island was damaged. I wish I could visit and see how it is.
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Post by obobfla on Jun 17, 2016 21:03:49 GMT -5
Roy!
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Post by obobfla on Jun 17, 2016 17:56:19 GMT -5
I love being the victim and have other people rescue me. I am a lazy ass!
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Post by obobfla on Jun 17, 2016 15:38:47 GMT -5
Father's Day is a wonderful holiday. It celebrates the fact that I had sex with a woman and helped make a baby. Now, she carried that kid around for nine months and went through a lot of pain, so I do not begrudge her Mother's Day. But Father's Day is the day I spend with my son doing what the hell we please. He is looking forward to it as I am. Even with our differences, my wife is looking forward to it.
One of my biggest pet peeves are people who use children as weapons in the wars with their current or ex spouses. No matter what differences I have with my wife, she gave me the most precious gift I have ever received - my son. I will be forever grateful for that, and I will do everything to help her relationship with her son. I will correct him when he is disrespectful to her. I believe she will do the same for me.
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Post by obobfla on Jun 17, 2016 7:42:36 GMT -5
Whoa!
This says a lot about your relationship with your wife. She won't even invite or try to drag you and the kids to see their grandpa?
It's Father's Day, so you should spend it with your children. Have a picnic. Go to the beach. Go to the zoo. Play games with them. My son and I each have our own puppets, and we play together that way. Whatever you do, leave the wife behind! Don't even think of her! Just enjoy the kids.
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Post by obobfla on Jun 16, 2016 21:58:02 GMT -5
Octopus' Garden - The Beatles
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Post by obobfla on Jun 16, 2016 18:56:34 GMT -5
I guess if you did go there, you would be audible!
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Post by obobfla on Jun 16, 2016 18:39:41 GMT -5
I don't know about audible, but I did find this list of books:
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Post by obobfla on Jun 16, 2016 15:17:32 GMT -5
Just found this one:
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Post by obobfla on Jun 16, 2016 14:49:02 GMT -5
I also think it's not a matter of which bridges to cross but when you can cross them again. Sometimes you have wait until emotions subside with time and distance. Or as an ex-girlfriend of mine summed up our relationship "Been there, done that, got the T-shirt." It was a very nice T-shirt.
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