Post by mypaintbrushes on Aug 7, 2017 15:39:15 GMT -5
We just spent an all-day, paid for day at a huge amusement park at my company's expense. I've been at this job almost 9 years and the perks are amazing! Here's how it went down;
1. Husbabd's road rage on the way down. We hit quite a bit of traffic and got there later than we'd wanted (though it's not a thing with a set start time). Halfway there, he says, "From here on, if we're gonna be this late, I don't wanna go!"
2. We arrive and I say hello to coworkers. He barely acknowledges them, despite having hung out with them socially, and takes off to get food. When he comes back, he sits away from everyone else and stares at us.
3. My son and I decide to hang out a bit and play some games and chat. So husband takes off for good because he's bored.
4. We catch up and he had an agenda of what things he wants to do/see. All I want is to go on a couple of thrill rides. Husband is like, "Yeah, I wanna do this and this and this, and then you can go on some rides".
5. Son calls me ugly as a "joke" and I get upset. I tell husband, who says "Now you know what I deal with all the time! I need to spend less time with him! You need to give him consequences! He either need to go to counseling with us, or we need to stop going!!" I'm pretty sure a coworker overheard part of this exchange.
6. We go into a butterfly exhibit. He turns left and son and I turn right. He makes a comment after about how we weren't all together. I respond that we lost track of him (which is true).
7. Then I say that the mirrors they had up for us to check for butterflies made me feel fat. No response. I say something else about the mirrors. No response. I say something about something else, he responds. When I ask why, he flips out: "I think you look great, but you need to pay attention to ME!"
8. I go to get on a thrill ride across the park and he Informs me the two of them are staying where they are.
9. My phone goes dead while I'm in line. I ride the ride, get off, and find them waking toward me, husband looking pissed.
10. He makes a couple of snide comments in the car about how he wanted to go on thrill rides (he gets sick on rides).
11. We decide to grab dinner on the way home. I let him know what I'd like to order and we get what the kiddo wants too. When I'm in the restroom, husband orders more food than I was expecting. He asks me to pay the bill tonight and he'll get drinks on Thursday (our usual date night; we keep our finances separate). The bill, with tip, comes to more than $80. Husband says oops.
12. He's downstairs now watching GoT.
Did he have s good time? Who knows! And no thanks or appreciation for me for my contribution to the day.
#1 - Sounds like he didn't want to go anyway.
#2 - See #1
#3 - See #1
#4 - Kinda selfish on his part.
#5 - I'm not sure "consequences" are appropriate, but explaining how that is inappropriate (and maybe a bit mean even if joking) is what you should do. You don't need your husband's permission to explain this to your son.
#6 - It's not your job to keep track of him. You hung onto the kid. Priorities right.
#7 - "makes me feel fat". I wouldn't have touched this with a 10 foot pole. No good outcome has ever come from any man responsponding to this question in any manner.
#8 - Fine...not sure I'd want to be with him either
#9 - Phones die. Shit happens. But he wasn't pissed about that. He was just being pissy.
#10 - Then he should have stopped whining like a bitch and gone on the rides. That's on him
#11 - Separate finances? Then why not separate checks?
#12 - GoT! I am behind....
My take is that you both probably "contributed to the day", and not in a good way. More than likely, he started off in a shitty mood, and, let's face it, you probably didn't like it all that much. I might be going on a limb, but I suspect you weren't cheer and sunshine either (understandable).
I'd just chalk it up to a shitty day. I just hope this is not a typical one. If so, that just sucks all the joy out of life.
More typical than you might think. I started out in a good mood, but ended up st the end of the night in not such a great one. The thrill ride was fun. When I told them about it, he didn't seem so thrilled (no pun intended). My work events go this way more often tys his for some reason.