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Post by whuffo on Feb 12, 2018 14:52:19 GMT -5
I haven't read the article yet, but what does does anyone suppose it means when I offer these bids and I'd estimate that about 90% of them are interrupted by my W about halfway through to fill me in on something completely unrelated to my topic? To me, it feels that she's not paying a damn bit of attention to what I'm saying and can't actually listen to me without her mind being somewhere else. It's easy to see through it when someone is faking paying attention, but it's downright rude to feel the constant need to interrupt. But she'll get downright pissed at me if I'm not making idle chit chat...
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Post by whuffo on Jan 23, 2018 9:46:40 GMT -5
"To learn who rules over you, simply find out who you are not allowed to criticize." Voltaire
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Post by whuffo on Jan 19, 2018 16:09:25 GMT -5
mypaintbrushes Hey, I'm a girl, but for what it's worth I think you look great! Please don't beat yourself up about 3-4 pounds or anything else for that matter. Otherwise, I might have to beat myself up. Anyway, I think SM problems are rarely about looks, but other stuff. Agreed. It's never about looks. That's why I said, do the things to stay healthy for you and nobody else.
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Post by whuffo on Jan 16, 2018 14:43:32 GMT -5
Thank you. I did not sleep well last night and woke up thinking my whole problem is that I’m just not a good person (maybe a thread on that later). Over the years, I’ve tried nutrition, exercise, lingerie, more makeup, less makeup, dressing up, dressing down, being the initiator, letting him take the lead, and all sorts of other ways to get him interested in me again. About 6 years ago, I found out he had been mad af me this entire time and was withholding deliberately. Almost 3 years ago, I left him. He did everything he could to win me back. We now have sex a couple of times per year (like last night). I've seen that recurring theme here many times.... we all have to stop the why chasing. I did and it was pretty liberating. I know I'm not perfect, faaaaaaaaar from it... but I did not manipulate myself into a marriage on false pretenses. Now, the only question I'm asking myself is "how much longer can I continue". All signs are pointing to not much longer. And it's been giving me a bit of peace because her days of manipulation and control are coming to an end.
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Post by whuffo on Jan 16, 2018 5:57:41 GMT -5
I’ll probably delete this, but I am under the weather and not feeling great about my looks this weekend, so this is from September, at the height of when I was working out all the time (I’ve gained back like 3-4 lbs). I’m 5’8” and have curly hair and brown eyes... ibb.co/bUKuxRAnother example of why we can't let our refusers mess with our heads. You look great as well. All the exercise, clothes, lingerie in the world won't keep their interest up. So that's why I still work out... To keep myself happy and healthy. Plus I had a job my whole life that demanded high physical fitness. So I do it for me and me alone. She's no more interested in me when I'm in top shape or after I put on some weight after some big injuries put me out of commission for a year.
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Post by whuffo on Jan 15, 2018 4:33:43 GMT -5
whuffo Thank you. But let's have a proper discussion and talk about why I can't get laid if that's what I really look like. So far, the answers are dead on. It doesn't matter what you look like. Your personality matters not either. There is absolutely nothing broken on your end. Same on my side. I allowed someone that does not hold the same value of sex in marriage as I do. I was painted one picture, but as soon as "I do" happened, the ink peeled off the painting and the stained canvas is all that remains.
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Post by whuffo on Jan 14, 2018 12:41:49 GMT -5
Surfergirl, thanks for making my day. That's 100% more than I've seen my wife in lingerie in the last 10 years!
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Post by whuffo on Jan 13, 2018 13:20:52 GMT -5
Two words for you.... WOW!!!!
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Post by whuffo on Dec 10, 2017 15:23:45 GMT -5
Completely agree. I don't think I've heard an apology from mine, quite possibly ever. But demand one from me? Pretty much daily basis. And hell to pay if I don't. And usually hell to pay anyway because I don't and she will ask me "don't you think you need to apologize?" doesn't matter how small or trivial the alleged infraction is, she needs a sincere, deep, heartfelt apology each and every time or we are headed straight to argumentville. I dunno. I might enjoy a good fight. You might consider with an opening volley of, “Why did you marry someone who obviously does so wrong in your eyes on a daily basis that it requires an apology? Or do you simply need validation that you have all the right answers to everything?” Of course, she’ll demand an apology for that too! Oh yes. I'd have to confess to the err of my ways and apologize relentlessly or else run the risk of months with no sex.... oh, wait...
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Post by whuffo on Dec 10, 2017 15:13:06 GMT -5
Another question...My Darvo-master ex wife never once apologized to me for any matter of substance in our 20 years of marriage. It seems to me this might be a common denominator or perhaps I just had an exception. Thoughts? I'll let you know in the AM - upon returning home tonight without my wedding ring on, one would hope something should happen, good or ill... Completely agree. I don't think I've heard an apology from mine, quite possibly ever. But demand one from me? Pretty much daily basis. And hell to pay if I don't. And usually hell to pay anyway because I don't and she will ask me "don't you think you need to apologize?" doesn't matter how small or trivial the alleged infraction is, she needs a sincere, deep, heartfelt apology each and every time or we are headed straight to argumentville.
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Post by whuffo on Oct 25, 2017 9:42:42 GMT -5
Well I'm glad someone finally cleared that up! I'm in Poland right now and was searching for that gym. I'm so jealous! Trying to visit there for my 50th! You have to check it out. The history is amazing, the food is incredible (check out the other thread I just created!!!) and everything is pretty inexpensive. I love it here!
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Post by whuffo on Oct 25, 2017 9:39:49 GMT -5
So, I'm away on business with some guys this week, and we ate at a little restaurant last night. Why was I aroused and could not take my eyes off of my buddies soup in a bread bowl? What is wrong with me?!?!?
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Post by whuffo on Oct 25, 2017 9:26:43 GMT -5
💉Tattoos..................... 4 💎Piercings.................. 0 👰Marriages................. 1 ✌Divorces................... 0 but I still have time! 🚼Children.................... 2 😷Surgeries.................. 6 🔫Shot a gun............ yep ✌Quit a job..................yes ✈Flown on a plane......yes 🚙💨100+miles in a car.. of course! 😨Gone zip lining.............yes 😍Fell in love.................yes 🏃 Skipped school........yes 👀👶Watched someone give birth? Yes 😯Watched someone die........yes 🚑Ridden in an ambulance... yes 🎤Sang karaoke........ yes, rocked it! 🐶Had a pet(s)............Yes 🏂Been sledding on a big hill... a medium, no small hill. Yes, yes and yes 🎿Been downhill skiing..... yes 🚲💨Rode a motorbike....... yes. 🐴Rode a horse...........yes 🏥Stayed in a hospital........ yes 💉Donated blood.... yes 🚓Rode in the back of a police car...yes
Obviously, I'm a "try everything once, try the fun shit many times" kind of fellow!
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Post by whuffo on Oct 25, 2017 9:14:51 GMT -5
Thanks for the info. So it is not a gym for people of Polish descent. More like a stripper school. Seriously, I have watched pole dancing championship videos and those women are amazing. I just did not know there were gyms for training. I was so hoping it was a gym for us Polacks. Well I'm glad someone finally cleared that up! I'm in Poland right now and was searching for that gym.
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Post by whuffo on Sept 27, 2017 5:36:41 GMT -5
You all are no help whatsoever!!!! Just kidding, this got funnier than I thought it would.
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