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Post by lwoetin on Feb 22, 2021 2:59:49 GMT -5
It's not often we have a member here who is still sexually attracted to his spouse after 30+ years of marriage. I mean it in a good way. She must be very dear to you. I also take it that you don't have children to help take care of her through her terminal illness. It must be very tough on you to handle this alone.
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Post by lwoetin on Feb 17, 2021 3:13:22 GMT -5
sh,t happens
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Post by lwoetin on Feb 15, 2021 1:31:48 GMT -5
Good luck with kicking the porn addiction. IMHO, the women in there are not much more special than women all around. I'd rather spend time being with a woman than watching videos. Also, if you have depression, hang out here. There's plenty of nice people here to cheer you up.
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Post by lwoetin on Feb 13, 2021 3:19:17 GMT -5
What I've learned from members here who are/have been denied in their marriages/relationships is life is to be lived .. all of it. And if a spouse/partner can't or won't then that person deserves no less than to find that healthy someone to be close to. Share. Laugh. Love. And yes .. sex. And then there is the subgroup Choosing to Stay... "SO for me I now realize if I'm going to ever have a chance at really knowing what sexuality's is with a real person, I have to figure this out and try to undo as much damage "this" addiction has done to my mental and Phyical body." What was your catalyst for change? Did your spouse do something? My wife is quite happy with her current self. I've tried threatening to leave, making her feel guilt, or jealousy, being sensitive to her feelings... No luck yet. A tough nut to crack.
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Post by lwoetin on Feb 9, 2021 1:36:35 GMT -5
I think I like these women! Yes, it is snowing again where I live. Me too. I'd like some help from these ladies with putting chains on my tires. I only have rain though. Stay warm! Seems like a freeze is coming your way.
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Post by lwoetin on Feb 9, 2021 1:21:03 GMT -5
I'm not OK with this and am in the process of seeking therapy again but I don't know if I can get better. I deep down know this is hurting her and and feel like she has just accepted her lot with me but I can't understand why she is not able to help talk me through her feelings and really get this out ... maybe she's afraid she would then need to leave .. just don't know. Welcome to the forum. It's useful to have members who are on the other side of the SM. I hope you find something here useful for you as well. It's good to know that you are attempting to save your marriage by trying to understand your lack of sexual desire. I don't blame my wife for lacking sexual desire for me. I don't take it personally. I would like it to change though. Good luck with your efforts in improving your marriage.
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Post by lwoetin on Jan 27, 2021 0:30:10 GMT -5
Jerri, I give you a like and a hug. I hope you feel better soon.
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Post by lwoetin on Jan 15, 2021 3:10:44 GMT -5
I still have desire but we all have different situations. And I am still waiting for my wife to be fixed. My suggestion would be to focus on her good traits. I'm sure she has good traits too. Also you don't have to have sex to satisfy her sexual needs. Besides, even if you have sex, if you can't get it up because of having no desire for sex, then the sex will not satisfy her. Just spending time doing things together will make her feel better. Also, feel no guilt for not having desire. My wife has none and she feels pretty good about that. You should try to enjoy your time with your grandkids and just be pleasant to the poor wife who has (unreciprocated) desire for you and give her love (Christian).
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Post by lwoetin on Jan 14, 2021 1:25:53 GMT -5
I am sure the lady appreciates your company. It's amazing how you can find the magazine from 1936. After you get vaccinated, maybe you can ask ms 4yr old in 1936 if she is interested in being friends with benefits. You can gain a lot of knowledge from an avid book reader...and she rides a motorcycle. I am happy that you are cancer-free now. Have fun!
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Post by lwoetin on Jan 8, 2021 5:15:23 GMT -5
only in my dream. I woke up on the couch afterwards.
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Post by lwoetin on Jan 8, 2021 5:12:08 GMT -5
ITER is still a fascinating scientific toy! Yeah, solar and wind will expand but it probably won't have enough energy production. And nuclear power plants are scary, after Fukushima recently. I'll just bike to go to work and help save the planet. until we can live in Musk City on Mars. I was watching old videos of Olivia Newton-John on YouTube. I love her songs in the 70s and she was hot looking too. I found out her grandfather was Max Born, the German physicist and Nobel Prize winner. So I got motivated to buy his Atomic Physics book. Material to distract the mind away from the SM period. Happy New Year everyone!
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Post by lwoetin on Dec 23, 2020 2:12:09 GMT -5
I was in a Zoom call with 4 high school buddies last night. I suspect all 5 of us are in SM right now. Sad... but only one is divorced and he is in good terms with his ex. Cold fusion is possible. Perhaps with dilithium crystals. Weird. Why deuterium? You use deuterium for standard fusion to seed the initial; reaction. Antimatter shouldn't need a specific type of matter to annihilate. the nerds were way ahead of me. www.trekbbs.com/threads/why-deuterium-anti-deuterium.157963/They figure it's particle density to which I ask, why not Helium then to double it? I didn't go through it all, so maybe they answer my question. haha. I don't see an explanation in Star Trek how fusion reaction of H atoms produces matter/anti-matter annihilation to generate enormous power. I'm guessing that He atoms are harder to fuse.
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Post by lwoetin on Dec 19, 2020 3:26:54 GMT -5
I was in a Zoom call with 4 high school buddies last night. I suspect all 5 of us are in SM right now. Sad... but only one is divorced and he is in good terms with his ex. Cold fusion is possible. Perhaps with dilithium crystals.
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Post by lwoetin on Dec 5, 2020 4:00:33 GMT -5
“Happiness Only Real When Shared.” —A Note In A Book Found Near Chris McCandless's Remains Human intimacy is important in life (and marriage).
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Post by lwoetin on Dec 1, 2020 5:24:59 GMT -5
Yummy turkey. I eat lots of leftovers too. "But the problem of not being able to get SEX somewhere else without fear of hurting his feelings as well as being labeled a home wrecker, harlot, etc- (and possibly being labeled those things LEGALLY in the state of North Carolina, and perhaps a few other jurisdictions in the United States as well) remains." I feel the same about the former but I wonder if the opportunity actually presents itself, what would we really do? haha, it's not so bad in NC even if harlotry is forbidden...sunshine today.
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