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Post by RumRunner on Apr 4, 2016 15:22:35 GMT -5
I am so sorry to hear this. I finally moved out after almost 6 years of celibacy. Married 28 years. Wife always said she could not wait to be married to have sex. It was all a bunch of bullshit. If you want to stay, I certainly understand, but the other side is a lot better. So you had been misled into thinking it would change after marriage too.... I have heard so many times that one wants to wait until after marriage to have sex, I think that is a mistake to wait until after marriage. How are you really to get to know that person if you practice abstinence? This is not to say that one should just give it away, but it should be a big part of deciding whether that person is right for each other. Sex is not the only thing that makes a marriage, but it is a big part of it! Congratulations on your moving on....
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 4, 2016 15:15:41 GMT -5
My partner sleeps as close to me as possible, gives me lots of kisses, lots of attention, follows me everywhere. May partner is also loyal, excited to see me and is dedicated to me always. My partner is not the one I am married to…. The partner I speak of is my little dog. For the last 15 years there has been no sex at all. None. Before we got to this point, there had been signs, many signs leading up to this. Sex has always been gross, a dirty little deed that is required to bare children and we only had one child. To kiss with an open mouth is gross. Oral sex is gross. The only position she would ever consider was missionary, and even then she would ask if I thought it was going to rain that day in middle of trying to do something. I always felt so bad after we did do something because I knew that she didn't want to. I felt so guilty, that I apologized repeatedly to her. I felt like I had raped her, though she was my wife. Sex has always been a horrible struggle from the very beginning. I finally had enough, and stopped asking for sex, that's when the sex stopped all together. Before marriage, she said she was saving it until after marriage. She is still saving it, I guess now until after the funeral. I have come to accept it and I know it will never change. I gave up trying to change it long ago. If I had any advice to give to the young people out there.... I would say beware of anyone who says that they want to wait until after marriage to have sex... It's a trap! I love my cats. The way they reach a paw up and tap me on the arm to get my attention always makes me smile. How can you resist such a request? Cats too are irresistible. Why can't our partners be the same?
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 4, 2016 15:13:29 GMT -5
I have come to accept it and I know it will never change. Have you come to accept your sexless marriage or that she will never again have sex with you? I have accepted yes, but that is not to say that I won't leave in the future. At least I am able to do my thing and she can do hers.
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 4, 2016 15:10:03 GMT -5
I also sleep with my little dog!! Couldn't ask for a better bed partner! Though my little dog likes to hog the bed.. lol
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 4, 2016 15:09:08 GMT -5
I like cats too. Had them for years but not any more. They are more independent but they love to show affection too.
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 3, 2016 22:18:21 GMT -5
I figured you were going to say it's your dog. God's gift to mankind. Thank goodness for dogs. Life would be just shades of grey without them, they give life color and meaning. I think they were my first secure attachment in life, the only beings with whom interaction was always pleasant and who didn't have an ulterior motive or a knife hidden ready to wound me at most opportunities. If it wasn't for my little dog, I would be a lot more lonelier than I am. I know how much I am appreciated and loved, if something was to ever happen to him I would be heartbroken for sure!
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 3, 2016 21:55:23 GMT -5
Is Trump in a sexless marriage too?
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 3, 2016 20:57:08 GMT -5
ifoundmethere....
RelateToThat is where all the other EPers have flocked to also. RelateToThat is just like EP, and will have all the problems that EP has had. I joined your group there because that is where I thought it was going.... I am happy that it ended up here instead, I believe it won't be plagued with all the trolls that EP has had.
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 3, 2016 20:45:17 GMT -5
My partner sleeps as close to me as possible, gives me lots of kisses, lots of attention, follows me everywhere. May partner is also loyal, excited to see me and is dedicated to me always. My partner is not the one I am married to…. The partner I speak of is my little dog.
For the last 15 years there has been no sex at all. None. Before we got to this point, there had been signs, many signs leading up to this. Sex has always been gross, a dirty little deed that is required to bare children and we only had one child. To kiss with an open mouth is gross. Oral sex is gross. The only position she would ever consider was missionary, and even then she would ask if I thought it was going to rain that day in middle of trying to do something. I always felt so bad after we did do something because I knew that she didn't want to. I felt so guilty, that I apologized repeatedly to her. I felt like I had raped her, though she was my wife. Sex has always been a horrible struggle from the very beginning. I finally had enough, and stopped asking for sex, that's when the sex stopped all together. Before marriage, she said she was saving it until after marriage. She is still saving it, I guess now until after the funeral.
I have come to accept it and I know it will never change. I gave up trying to change it long ago.
If I had any advice to give to the young people out there.... I would say beware of anyone who says that they want to wait until after marriage to have sex... It's a trap!
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 2, 2016 23:54:41 GMT -5
Hello everyone,
I am new here, but not to the group on EP. While on EP, I had joined and deleted my account a few times but always came back to the ILIASM group. I mostly just read the stories and place a few comments here and there, and that has been about it. All in all, I had been on and off the site for about 3 years. Still in a long-time sexless marriage and I know that won't change any but reading others stories helps me understand a little more about my own.
I am glad to see this group survive, and I am confident that this will be a much cleaner and better environment than EP. I can see already that this will be a better place.
From EP - DesolateSoul64 (also used to be known as Clandestine1, CaptainRum)
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Post by RumRunner on Apr 2, 2016 22:57:37 GMT -5
Most of this really hits home with me! I have buried myself in my hobby for years just trying to forget about everything else, but that only worked for so long. Getting out though, is easier said than done....
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