I've read that article before.
I don't like it and I don't agree with it.
A woman or a man should not change who
they authentically are. As well a person
can be more dominant on one issue with the
marriage but not another.
To be overall submissive is not healthy
if you are compromising your true self.
The key to any relationship is communication.
I was submissive in my marriage and look
how that worked out for me. I am passive
by nature and believe in picking your battles.
I believe if early on in my marriage if I would
have said "look I need sex at least once a week
or we are heading for a divorce" then maybe
things would have turned out differently.
However my ex was a liar and manipulator
and I believed his excuses not to have sex.
Also the rejection took it's toll and when you
throw yourself at your husband to have sex
and you get rejected - well you can kick the dog
in the head so many times, eventually the dog
won't come back even though she will continue
to cook, clean and love him because the bottom
line is SELFISHNESS on their part.
SEX is the one thing that makes a marriage
different from any other relationship.
I have a lot of platonic male friends.
One in particular knows me better than my ex.
We talk and communicate. I learned a big lesson
from my failed marriage about speaking
my mind to my wants and desires and not just
sexually in order to promote compatibility.
Communication and Compatibility-Key!
As far as the sexual submission - most women
are naturally submissive and most men are naturally
Dominant. Sex should also be fun and
we should challenge ourselves to every once
in a while step outside our comfort zone and keep
it fresh!