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Post by Frustrated1978 on Sept 21, 2017 22:30:15 GMT -5
Not being one to judge on affairs as i have particpated in a couple during my enforced sexless marriage stints i would encourage you to take Brother Baz's advice and see how you would fair should a divorce suddenly arise on the cards. I remember when i got caught out the shit hit the fan and suddenly her years of sexless marriage were washed away with my infedelity. Cover your own arse.
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Sept 21, 2017 22:16:23 GMT -5
Frankly speaking there should be boundaries to one's foul behaviour. If no boundaries are put in place and enforced the situation will get worse. That said your room mate is going through your phone cause a) She knows she aint giving it up and is deathly afraid you will seek it elsewhere or b) She is having an affair and is suspicious you are doing the same.
Me personally i let my wife go through my phone. Couldn't give a rats arse. Nothing to hide though these behaviours are annoying.
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Sept 20, 2017 0:30:23 GMT -5
The problem is the very things you have listed go against the Refusers DNA.
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Sept 20, 2017 0:26:08 GMT -5
Vacation sex is overated as it is usually reserved for new couples with no kids. Once married a vacation is just that a vacation from sex.
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Sept 20, 2017 0:09:52 GMT -5
In my experience barring the exception of an affair taking place a sexless marriage is mostly an accumulation of many issues which have not surfaced and been properly addressed. Always certainly there is some sort of deep resentment present in the Refuser. In turn the Refuser probably would want a divorce but stays with the Refused a a security blanket, Finances, Kids, etc.
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Sept 20, 2017 0:03:54 GMT -5
He obviously needs to put on his big boy pants and stop pissing in the potty. Seems like you have more of an adolescent passive aggresive child rather than a husband. Your call entirely but for what its worth there should be consequences for his foul behavour.
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Sept 19, 2017 23:57:18 GMT -5
Crap article written by someone who clearly has no idea. I'm sure poor Bill has cooked, cleaned, moped, looked after kids, hung washing, mowed lawns, and waited on Sarah hand and foot in an attempt to understand her needs. And im sure none of it has worked as the goal posts probably keep getting moved by Sarah at every attempt.
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Sept 19, 2017 23:48:48 GMT -5
Gave me a good laugh sister JMX. Hope you are well
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Apr 27, 2016 22:47:56 GMT -5
At one point i left my marriage for 3 months and moved in with another woman. She worshipped the ground i walked on. I foolishly returned home after promises of change and it would be great for the kids. The change was short lived
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Apr 27, 2016 19:00:04 GMT -5
You are turned off by the Granny Panties. Then your wife has succeded
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Apr 27, 2016 18:58:00 GMT -5
I hear you sister lex. I feel like a tool for saying this but altough my wife is physically attractive i am not turned on by her given her attitude to sex in the past.
About a week ago she wanted a marathon session for whatever reason and i was just going through the motions. My lack of desire was purely because her past attitude has turned me off her
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Apr 25, 2016 23:15:03 GMT -5
Im in a similiar situation. I miss the old EP but happy to see many familiar faces here.
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Apr 25, 2016 23:12:31 GMT -5
Fred welcome to the group no one here ever thought they would belong too.
The people are friendly, the advice is good use it to vent, learn, and grow.
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Apr 25, 2016 23:07:57 GMT -5
Sister Point break at the very least it shows that there is someone out there for everyone.
I agree with investing in some ear plugs.
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Apr 25, 2016 23:04:53 GMT -5
Today is my birthday. Yipee! I have lived another year. So yesterday being my wife and my only day off together, we decided to go to the local watering hole and visit with some friends. I suggested that I might have a better time if I got laid first. (I was feeling very frustrated at the time). Lo and behold, she agreed! Yay! pre-birthday nookie! It had been months since our last encounter and years since actual intercourse. I know, I know - reset sex. But as we were getting dressed she makes the comment, "You know, I don't hate it quite so much anymore. You could ask for it more often." Wait. What? So, I get a backhanded compliment and a request for more sex? I know, I know reset sex. I am not breaking up with my FWB just yet. "I don't hate it quite so much anymore." Woo. F*ckin'. Hoo. There's an ego booster! Does the ego wonders doesnt it.
I remember once the wife and i went away and had an awesome first day away. Nice dinner followed by an awesome meal with some wine.
We get back to the hotel and she blurts out i suppose you want sex. Hurry up lets get it over with.
I feel your pain.
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