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Post by javba on Aug 18, 2018 11:28:16 GMT -5
Happy for you Best wishes
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Post by solodriver on Aug 18, 2018 11:29:22 GMT -5
choosinghappy,
Love the updates. This is wonderful to hear. I enjoy reading all your posts and am sending you best wishes and hugs as you continue your new adventure.
How is everything going with your lover?
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Post by choosinghappy on Aug 18, 2018 11:56:13 GMT -5
How is everything going with your lover? Things are wonderful there too. It continues to be hard on us that due to both distance and what each of us is going through with our divorces and homes, we cannot be together as much as we'd like to right now but that is temporary. Soon enough I will be in my new home and he will be in his and we'll have more freedom and opportunities without upsetting the proverbial apple carts. Until then, we are good support for one another and there's always cybersex!
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Post by greatcoastal on Aug 18, 2018 12:30:04 GMT -5
How is everything going with your lover? Things are wonderful there too. It continues to be hard on us that due to both distance and what each of us is going through with our divorces and homes, we cannot be together as much as we'd like to right now but that is temporary. Soon enough I will be in my new home and he will be in his and we'll have more freedom and opportunities without upsetting the proverbial apple carts. Until then, we are good support for one another and there's always cybersex! Absence makes the heart grow fonder! ( that doesn't apply in a SM!!)
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Post by greatcoastal on Aug 18, 2018 12:55:52 GMT -5
Somehow I think your support network will come through for you, if you make your needs known. Here's to new beginnings!!
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Post by solodriver on Aug 18, 2018 13:51:28 GMT -5
choosinghappy,
Are there any potential legal issues arising rom your selling of the house or did you and STBX agree on that sale?
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Post by choosinghappy on Aug 18, 2018 14:10:30 GMT -5
choosinghappy, Are there any potential legal issues arising rom your selling of the house or did you and STBX agree on that sale? Nope, it’s all good. Profits from the sale will be split 50/50.
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Post by solodriver on Aug 18, 2018 16:37:16 GMT -5
choosinghappy,
I'm cheering you on and this seems an appropriate song, looking back on where you were a year ago and now!
Hugs, fist bumps and high fives my friend!
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Post by sadkat on Aug 18, 2018 18:32:47 GMT -5
So glad things are going smoothly and everything is working out for you! 2 weeks of hard work will net a great reward! Continue keeping us posted. These success stories are so encouraging!
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Post by nyartgal on Aug 18, 2018 18:59:52 GMT -5
So much excellent news! I’m thrilled just reading about it!
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Post by baza on Aug 18, 2018 19:36:03 GMT -5
Respected Sister choosinghappy . Your old and intractable problems of being in an ILIASM shithole are receeding, and will slowly pass into your history. And now, you have a whole raft of brand new problems, relevant to 'almost' being single, being a co-parent, etc etc. Manageable and resolveable problems. You've "traded up" to "better" problems. Waaaaaaay better problems !! Those hard choices you were facing 1,145 posts ago (when you were "lonelywifey") in June 2017 have been made, and now the consequences of those choices are starting to kick in for you. It's an inspirational story in your run of posts.
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Post by choosinghappy on Aug 18, 2018 21:42:09 GMT -5
choosinghappy,
I'm cheering you on and this seems an appropriate song, looking back on where you were a year ago and now!
Hugs, fist bumps and high fives my friend!
Perfect solodriver. And I do like me some George Harrison! Thank you 😁
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Post by workingonit on Aug 21, 2018 13:14:02 GMT -5
choosinghappy Best of luck during these crazy weeks! But you don't and won't need it. You are amazing and I continue to learn from you and be inspired by you every time you post!
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Post by choosinghappy on Aug 22, 2018 6:46:25 GMT -5
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Post by choosinghappy on Sept 3, 2018 7:51:52 GMT -5
Another update about 2 weeks later as the dust is starting to settle: This was a CRAZY last 3-4 weeks. But I am now in my new place, still partially surrounded by boxes, but am settling in. My son and I love it here. It feels like ME. I am happy. I've been seeing my STBX occassionally as he's been helping out with "guy stuff" around the new house like hanging curtain rods, moving furniture, etc., and of course, he comes to see/pick up our son. It's been interesting when we're together: I realized I just don't really like him a whole lot quite honestly. Funny how my perspective changed and clarity came once I stopped lying to myself and started living a more authentic life. Now that we're separated both he and I seem to be moving into our "real selves" move fully and living the lives we each want instead of some hybrid between the two of us when we were together. I guess both of us were stifling parts of ourselves while married. As for him, he's now living the high life in an expensive place, buying new vehicles, joining a yacht club. Ugh. I honestly don't want any part of that and I just feel relief when I think about the differences in our lives now. As for me, I am content with what I have except for one thing: I bought a kayak! That was one of the things on my bucket list, as I love kayaking and have only gone ONCE in the 12 years we were together. So I decided to put an end to that. Honestly, it's sort of embarrassing to me that just because I was married and had a spouse who didn't care for that, I deprived myself of something I love. But no more. As greatcoastal would say: The FOG has lifted. I feel like I'm living life for ME again now and it feels really good. I have a looong bucket list and I plan to work my way through every item. (Hopefully quite a few of those with my new special guy ) Things feel fun and hopeful again instead of depressing and hopeless. I feel like ME again.
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