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Post by mescaline on Jan 20, 2018 13:15:27 GMT -5
Not much post game discussion that I recall either!
But the last two excuses that led me to stop initiating were:
"I'm perimenopausal" and "It's normal", I could've argued both of those, but I think I registered at that point that it wasn't worth it. We weren't in the same library, reading the same book let alone on the same page!
You live and learn eh?!
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Post by lostintime on Jan 20, 2018 14:15:41 GMT -5
some excuse followed by "Are you going to be angry if we do it tomorrow?"
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Post by DryCreek on Jan 20, 2018 16:36:36 GMT -5
"I really need to harness that sexual energy and put it into my business right now" Translation: "My business is more important to me than you are." What he fails to grasp is that he's saying "The half of the business that I'll get to keep after the divorce..."
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Post by novembercomingfire on Jan 20, 2018 17:30:14 GMT -5
Not much post game discussion that I recall either! But the last two excuses that led me to stop initiating were: "I'm perimenopausal" and "It's normal", I could've argued both of those, but I think I registered at that point that it wasn't worth it. We weren't in the same library, reading the same book let alone on the same page! You live and learn eh?! My ex started ising the “i’m perimenopausal” line when she was about 27. And she was still using it 20 years later when i gave up about a year ago.
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Post by solodriver on Jan 20, 2018 18:41:48 GMT -5
some excuse followed by "Are you going to be angry if we do it tomorrow?" Only tomorrow never comes.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jan 20, 2018 18:52:07 GMT -5
The list was long but my favorite one went something along the lines of "I really need to harness that sexual energy and put it into my business right now" That would make a great line if you where ever caught cheating. " Cheating??? I'm just harnessing my sexual energy and putting it into my business right now".
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Post by rejected101 on Jan 20, 2018 19:17:22 GMT -5
I think there are a lot. One's that I've heard: -I'm tired -I have a headache -I feel full -I'm hungry -My belly feels weird -you said/did x (holding a grudge) -Not what I'm looking for now -I don't feel sexy -It's rude/weird to (staying at someone's place in a separate bedroom) -It's rude, guest might hear (in our own home!) -I'm grumpy (when woken up for sex) -I'm want to get up and start the day (in the morning) -I feel sick (this one is legit sometimes , seems to be brought on by certain situations though) -The house is messy -It's too hot -It's too cold -we'll be too lazy afterwards -I'm too stressed -I'm texting with someone -We have a busy day tomorrow -I'm feeling sad -I can't decide if I want to or not -we'll see (means no) In contrast I think I'd only say no if I was sick, probably really sick. A bunch of the reasons above sound like good reasons TO have sex to me! I’m not clean I’ve only just had a shower YOU have to get up early (as if it’s doing me a favour) The list is endless. I wish honesty had been there from early on.... I DON’T WANT TO HAVE SEX AS I DONT DESIRE SEX. Or.....I DONT WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU BECAUSE I DONT DESIRE YOU. Either one would have led to either no marriage or immediate divorce papers. I was stupid enough to believe it was a phase. Idiot!
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Post by idgaf96 on Jan 20, 2018 20:32:35 GMT -5
I am tired is the biggest excuse I hear. He is not to creative. Or maybe he is always tired.
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Post by lostintime on Jan 20, 2018 22:36:40 GMT -5
I am tired is the biggest excuse I hear. He is not to creative. Or maybe he is always tired. That is what I hear 95% of the time followed by "Are you going to be angry if we have it tomorrow?" She is really tired if she does not get 9 hours of sleep. There is about 50% chance of it happening tomorrow. I just don't like asking for it. She also only gets enthusiastic a few minutes into the process and it seems like she enjoys sex a lot just does not like to initiate it.
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Post by idgaf96 on Jan 20, 2018 22:41:39 GMT -5
I am tired is the biggest excuse I hear. He is not to creative. Or maybe he is always tired. That is what I hear 95% of the time followed by "Are you going to be angry if we have it tomorrow?" She is really tired if she does not get 9 hours of sleep. There is about 50% chance of it happening tomorrow. I just don't like asking for it. She also only gets enthusiastic a few minutes into the process and it seems like she enjoys sex a lot just does not like to initiate it. Ya. He would follow up I'm tired with in the morning, or I will make it up to you. He'd never follow threw though.
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Post by lostintime on Jan 20, 2018 22:47:57 GMT -5
That is what I hear 95% of the time followed by "Are you going to be angry if we have it tomorrow?" She is really tired if she does not get 9 hours of sleep. There is about 50% chance of it happening tomorrow. I just don't like asking for it. She also only gets enthusiastic a few minutes into the process and it seems like she enjoys sex a lot just does not like to initiate it. Ya. He would follow up I'm tired with in the morning, or I will make it up to you. He'd never follow threw though. Do you ask for it the following day? My wife usually agrees to it the next day or the following day. I just do not like to ask for it and want her to initiate it.
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Post by idgaf96 on Jan 20, 2018 22:53:52 GMT -5
I used to. Not anymore. I am over it. I no longer initiate any type of physical contact with him. I however do not typically say no to him either. He will on occasion initiate sex but it is not enjoyable. He has no desire to please anyone but himself. He is usually only about 60% erect and only last about a minute. I am used for his needs and nothing else. We are not intimate. No snuggling, kissing or any other kind of foreplay.
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Post by solodriver on Jan 20, 2018 23:39:52 GMT -5
That is what I hear 95% of the time followed by "Are you going to be angry if we have it tomorrow?" She is really tired if she does not get 9 hours of sleep. There is about 50% chance of it happening tomorrow. I just don't like asking for it. She also only gets enthusiastic a few minutes into the process and it seems like she enjoys sex a lot just does not like to initiate it. Ya. He would follow up I'm tired with in the morning, or I will make it up to you. He'd never follow threw though. My problem was I was so horny I couldn't sleep and was waiting for the morning, then I was told she was too sleepy and I had to deal with it myself.
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Post by idgaf96 on Jan 20, 2018 23:42:10 GMT -5
Ya. He would follow up I'm tired with in the morning, or I will make it up to you. He'd never follow threw though. My problem was I was so horny I couldn't sleep and was waiting for the morning, then I was told she was too sleepy and I had to deal with it myself.
Ugh. Well on the bright side at least she didn't get mad when you took care of yourself.
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Post by ihadalove on Jan 20, 2018 23:49:17 GMT -5
I used to. Not anymore. I am over it. I no longer initiate any type of physical contact with him. I however do not typically say no to him either. He will on occasion initiate sex but it is not enjoyable. He has no desire to please anyone but himself. He is usually only about 60% erect and only last about a minute. I am used for his needs and nothing else. We are not intimate. No snuggling, kissing or any other kind of foreplay. Ugh that's just so selfish of him!
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