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Post by Deleted on Jun 19, 2016 10:41:55 GMT -5
I started a topic on EP, maybe in ILIASM or a group for people who were having affairs, about how easy it is to get caught by technology. It's not just browser windows and leaving your phone unlocked anymore. I started that topic because I had seen something just pop up on my iPad and thought wow that would an uncomfortable moment if it was from the wrong person. Well I just did something again that would have been Armageddon if I was having an affair. I was calling my Dad for Fathers Day, but I didn't hear any ringing in the other end. Ok I thought maybe that phone is out of order, so I tried his other number. Same thing. Not a sound. Then I remembered my Bluetooth was on and my phone was paired with a Bose speaker in our bedroom. Where my gf is sleeping. And she's a very light sleeper. If that had been an unauthorized call to a lover, I'd have been totally busted.
I think I actually did wake her up. Oops.
Outsource with caution!
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Post by tinymouse on Jun 19, 2016 10:57:56 GMT -5
That's definitely true. And apparently on iPhone there is a way to retrieve even deleted text messages. Talk about getting caught
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Post by Deleted on Jun 19, 2016 11:42:24 GMT -5
Other dangers:
on iphone: leaving "location services" on and letting Facebook have access (it will add location to your posts)
accidentally sending a text to the wrong person (this has only happened to me once when I sent a message meant for my sister to my Stbx after we separated.)
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Post by Deleted on Jun 19, 2016 11:43:12 GMT -5
That's definitely true. And apparently on iPhone there is a way to retrieve even deleted text messages. Talk about getting caught Nothing is ever deleted LOL |
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Post by DryCreek on Jun 19, 2016 13:31:59 GMT -5
Oh, there is plenty to trip one up.
Refueling your car (or getting a ticket) in an implausible locale. "Find my phone" if spouse has your iTunes password.
Ooooh, especially when they mail one of those photo radar tickets to your house, and the person in the car with you isn't your spouse.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 19, 2016 13:54:42 GMT -5
Oooh, and possibly the worst possibilty of all for those of us with iPhones: if you share an Apple Id with your spouse/kids and your photos (possibly including naughty photos you've taken for your outsourcing partner or that they have sent to you) get automatically uploaded to icloud (and then automatically downloaded to your spouse's device) and/or you have separate Apple Ids but your device is set to use iCloud Photo Sharing and/or Family Sharing (and the same inadvertent photo sharing can happen).
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 19, 2016 14:03:13 GMT -5
Toll road history and if you are out of funds and receive a notice in the mail with a picture of your vehicle on a highway you rarely travel at a time you are supposed to be at work. One time ex opened up a letter and my heart skipped a few beats. Lucky for me all he did was open the mail barely look at it and tell me to handle it. I immediately knew the evidence in his hand. I played it cool and took care of it.
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Post by baza on Jun 19, 2016 18:26:40 GMT -5
I think the spread of technology generally (phones as mentioned) data bases, dashboard cameras, cctv, drones, computers, voice activated recorders et al mean that individual privacy generally is being eroded.
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And consequently, if one is engaging in actions that one would like to keep "secret", say having an affair, or committing some illegal act, then you are far more likely these days to get caught than say 20 years ago.
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Post by tamara68 on Jun 20, 2016 8:06:33 GMT -5
My husband installed spyware at the pc at home. So found passwords to e-mail etc. So all efforts to use only a browser at home without saving cookies and history, were useless.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 20, 2016 11:23:13 GMT -5
My husband installed spyware at the pc at home. So found passwords to e-mail etc. So all efforts to use only a browser at home without saving cookies and history, were useless. Wow. I wouldn't think such a guy would be all that concerned. Control! |
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Post by wewbwb on Jun 20, 2016 11:44:58 GMT -5
Just because he doesn't want her doesn't mean that doesn't want to "control" her.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 20, 2016 11:45:21 GMT -5
Oh, there is plenty to trip one up. Refueling your car (or getting a ticket) in an implausible locale. "Find my phone" if spouse has your iTunes password. Ooooh, especially when they mail one of those photo radar tickets to your house, and the person in the car with you isn't your spouse. When I was outsourcing I created a secret bank account. So when I flew out to meet her, every time I bought something I had to remind myself, "Use the orange card, not the green one...use the orange card, not the green one!" Check your pockets too. I almost went home with a receipt from a Memphis taxi service in my pants pocket. Have a better alibi than I did up your sleeve. I decided not to tell my ex where I was going, just that I was going away for five days. But if she had found out I was in Memphis, I'd have told her I was on a blues pilgrimage. Please do better than that. |
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Post by sufferinhubby on Jun 20, 2016 12:48:34 GMT -5
Let's not forget what happened to AshleyMadison.com!
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 20, 2016 13:09:08 GMT -5
You can turn this around and find things to look for if you are suspecting your spouse. All these new tracking devices for " teenagers" to put in your cars.
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 20, 2016 13:14:38 GMT -5
Oh, there is plenty to trip one up. Refueling your car (or getting a ticket) in an implausible locale. "Find my phone" if spouse has your iTunes password. Ooooh, especially when they mail one of those photo radar tickets to your house, and the person in the car with you isn't your spouse. When I was outsourcing I created a secret bank account. So when I flew out to meet her, every time I bought something I had to remind myself, "Use the orange card, not the green one...use the orange card, not the green one!" Check your pockets too. I almost went home with a receipt from a Memphis taxi service in my pants pocket. Have a better alibi than I did up your sleeve. I decided not to tell my ex where I was going, just that I was going away for five days. But if she had found out I was in Memphis, I'd have told her I was on a blues pilgrimage. Please do better than that. Good tip with the pants pocket!! I once left the hotel with a cup of coffee from the hotel lobby and a block from my neighborhood I realized it said Hampton Inn on it. Lol |
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