m76
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Post by m76 on Feb 11, 2024 15:05:44 GMT -5
Just had a lecture from some Woman on You Tube comments - she is happily married with 3 kids - and sex is NEVER a need, it's a want and expecting sex in marriage as a need is toddler level thinking. I hate people somedays. I thanked her for proving my point about invalidation of others needs regarding sex. Asked her to not hug her children when they "need" it also - would she do that. Of course I am selfish because I want sex and touch in my relationship. I really, truly despise people who are so dismissive of others needs. Sure, let's go with that argument that it's a want. If your significant other wants it and you're not providing it, then they'll either leave, find it somewhere else, or live depressed. Expecting your SO to just accept it and be depressed doesn't sound like love to me. |
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Post by DryCreek on Feb 11, 2024 22:19:23 GMT -5
Just had a lecture from some Woman on You Tube comments - she is happily married with 3 kids - and sex is NEVER a need, it's a want and expecting sex in marriage as a need is toddler level thinking. Ah, but is her husband also happily married? I’d bet not, with that attitude. To be fair, she only expects him to provide what she NEEDS to survive, right? No? Just maybe… thriving relationships come from partners doing more than the bare minimum. DC |
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Post by week5of35years on Feb 12, 2024 6:16:13 GMT -5
Hi,
I have not seen this YT but I do speculate that the lady may have rationalised her approach to sex so much, she just has a very one sided/blinkered view of her own justification for (probably) not having sex in her relationship.... she cannot see (or is willing to see or hear) other points of view as that would put a BIG hole in her world view and justification for her actions, this could lead to aggressive/dismissive riposte's to even YT comments....... maybe
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Post by mirrororchid on Feb 12, 2024 7:15:19 GMT -5
Hi, I have not seen this YT but I do speculate that the lady may have rationalised her approach to sex so much, she just has a very one sided/blinkered view of her own justification for (probably) not having sex in her relationship.... she cannot see (or is willing to see or hear) other points of view as that would put a BIG hole in her world view and justification for her actions, this could lead to aggressive/dismissive riposte's to even YT comments... maybe Going to give her an unhappy benefit of the doubt. She may have been in an abusive relationship and looks at describing sex as a need as coercive and frightening. Her current marriage is one in which she is a willing participant and doesn't avoid sex at all. She figures we are incels and wishes to demean us with epithets, hoping to shame us into tolerating celibacy. She's right, in a way. Sex isn't a need, but no one needs more than four hours sleep or 500 calories each day. If you're deprived, daily, of these wants, you'll be acting strangely and willing to do irresponsible things to improve your life. A spouse forcing you to sleep or eat only as much as they want and not a bit more would strike us as psychotic. Somehow, sex gets a pass just because the minimum number of intimate encounters happens to be zero. Yes, You're right ma'am. Congratulations. I hope you're not right for the worst reason; for your husband's sake. |
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Post by csl on Feb 12, 2024 7:56:42 GMT -5
Just had a lecture from some Woman on You Tube comments - she is happily married with 3 kids - and sex is NEVER a need, it's a want and expecting sex in marriage as a need is toddler level thinking. Ah, but is her husband also happily married? I’d bet not, with that attitude. To be fair, she only expects him to provide what she NEEDS to survive, right? No? Just maybe… thriving relationships come from partners doing more than the bare minimum. DC Ah, you hit upon one of my aphorisms on my blog, namely, A happy marriage is not decided by one vote. |
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Post by lonelyhubby on Feb 12, 2024 9:06:57 GMT -5
This crazy ass woman replied back that her husband is independent and isn't a child, and is very happy. I just thanked her for proving my point.
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Post by jim44444 on Feb 12, 2024 9:15:12 GMT -5
A happy marriage is not decided by one vote. True but an unhappy marriage can be decided by one vote. |
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Post by Missingout on Feb 12, 2024 10:14:48 GMT -5
Toxic Misandry at its finest Great comeback by the way. |
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Post by mirrororchid on Feb 12, 2024 20:09:51 GMT -5
Overlooked another response.
No one needs to be celibate. It's a want.
No one needs to be married. It's a want.
No one needs to be monogamous it's a want.
I want to be monogamous. You want to be celibate. Both of us can get what we want. Will that work for you?
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Post by deadzone75 on Feb 17, 2024 22:52:45 GMT -5
Just had a lecture from some Woman on You Tube comments - she is happily married with 3 kids - and sex is NEVER a need, it's a want and expecting sex in marriage as a need is toddler level thinking. I hate people somedays. I thanked her for proving my point about invalidation of others needs regarding sex. Asked her to not hug her children when they "need" it also - would she do that. Of course I am selfish because I want sex and touch in my relationship. I really, truly despise people who are so dismissive of others needs. And her husband is probably happily banging her best friend. |
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Post by toughtiger on Mar 16, 2024 7:09:31 GMT -5
I was just told seriously to "mentor a Happy couple you know".... "do the same type things" .... LMAO I think having sex might be one of those things
I thought long and hard about all the couples we know and it is all fake .....
they act happy in public but whoa you get these women out and they tell you all sorts of things.
I know zero happy couples just ones that are playing a part and talking shit behind each others back....
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m76
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Post by m76 on Mar 16, 2024 7:42:28 GMT -5
I was just told seriously to "mentor a Happy couple you know".... "do the same type things" .... LMAO I think having sex might be one of those things I thought long and hard about all the couples we know and it is all fake ..... they act happy in public but whoa you get these women out and they tell you all sorts of things. I know zero happy couples just ones that are playing a part and talking shit behind each others back.... I hope it's not the normal state. I have to believe that there are couples out there with normal happy fulfilling relationships. What I have noticed though, it sounds like refusers generally seem to take their partner for granted among other flaws. You can't change someone that doesn't think they're doing anything wrong. |
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