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Post by lonelyhubby on Dec 21, 2023 10:26:03 GMT -5
I'll start. I swear to God, if one more f*cking person suggests:
1. Do more housework
2. Be more sensitive to her needs
3. Act like a Woman and chit-chat and collaborate like one of her girlfriends
4. Simply go without having sex, it's not that important anyway if you love them
... Please feel free to add your own list or other really stupid items as you see fit.
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Post by greatcoastal on Dec 21, 2023 10:39:28 GMT -5
5. Please pay the female receptionist for the female therapist on your way out! ( and book your weekly appointment for the next full year) LOL!!
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Post by patrick on Dec 21, 2023 11:23:18 GMT -5
6. Keep your brainwashed vaccinated viral-shedding ass away from me!
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Post by worksforme2 on Dec 21, 2023 15:03:35 GMT -5
6. Keep your brainwashed vaccinated viral-shedding ass away from me! Anger is the path to the dark side. I sense much anger in you patrick........YODA |
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Post by patrick on Dec 21, 2023 16:23:23 GMT -5
6. Keep your brainwashed vaccinated viral-shedding ass away from me! Anger is the path to the dark side. I sense much anger in you patrick........YODA Well add a dash of resentment as well! Our differences re Covid is a main factor in our SM which remains unresolved…at first I avoided contact with her because she refused the vax…and now she avoids me because I am!🤷♂️ FWIW we are both “high risk” due to our age…and she is a smoker with diabetes… |
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Post by toughtiger on Dec 22, 2023 8:55:40 GMT -5
I'll start. I swear to God, if one more f*cking person suggests: 1. Do more housework 2. Be more sensitive to her needs 3. Act like a Woman and chit-chat and collaborate like one of her girlfriends 4. Simply go without having sex, it's not that important anyway if you love them ... Please feel free to add your own list or other really stupid items as you see fit. I almost slapped a person offering these type "suggestions" to me.... my hope is they get a taste of a zero sex life ..........because some one else decides sex life is over......... and see IF they keep their fake happy attitudes through that |
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Post by aquacat on Dec 23, 2023 8:14:22 GMT -5
I’ll add these:
“Stop being a nice guy.”
“Buy this pheramone cologne and it will drive her wild.”
I’ve tried not being the “nice” guy and it did me no good other than cause more arguments.
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Post by jim44444 on Dec 23, 2023 12:41:45 GMT -5
Every one of these solutions is bullshit.
And every one of them is correct within their context.
Each of our stories is unique but similar. Only a few of our refusers are truly evil. And every one of them is also living in a sexless marriage.
They have made their choices based on their experience as have we. Maybe their traumas, or their hormones, or life stress, or whatever has killed their libido. Or maybe their libido is fine but they do not desire us.
Unless they can accurately identify the why then it does not matter. The only "why" that matters is why do we stay. Determine that why and our paths, stay or leave, are clear.
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Post by patrick on Dec 23, 2023 18:26:59 GMT -5
Every one of these solutions is bullshit. And every one of them is correct within their context. Each of our stories is unique but similar. Only a few of our refusers are truly evil. And every one of them is also living in a sexless marriage. They have made their choices based on their experience as have we. Maybe their traumas, or their hormones, or life stress, or whatever has killed their libido. Or maybe their libido is fine but they do not desire us. Unless they can accurately identify the why then it does not matter. The only "why" that matters is why do we stay. Determine that why and our paths, stay or leave, are clear. A quite perceptive observation, Jim! As they say, it takes two to Tango, so all of us here are at least half of the problem! |
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Post by sweetplumeria on Dec 25, 2023 2:41:14 GMT -5
7. Sex is for making babies.
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Post by worksforme2 on Dec 25, 2023 7:56:26 GMT -5
7. Sex is for making babies. This may be part and parcel of why it is sometimes difficult to find a woman over age 65 that is still interested in having sex. |
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Post by mirrororchid on Dec 26, 2023 7:08:01 GMT -5
8. "Why chase" to find the "problem", then fix it; sex will follow.
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Post by aquacat on Dec 26, 2023 10:24:25 GMT -5
9. Do a 180 and she will start to desire you.
I wanted to like the advice from the Dead Bedroom Fix but I tried this and her desire for me didn’t change at all.
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Post by week5of35years on Jan 2, 2024 6:35:57 GMT -5
10. I am so tired at work, maybe if you said it was ok for me to stop working things would get better
11. I hate this house maybe if you agreed to move things would get better
12. I hate the cold weather maybe if you took us on holiday somewhere sunny, things would get better
sigh..........
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Post by mirrororchid on Jan 2, 2024 6:53:17 GMT -5
10. I am so tired at work, maybe if you said it was ok for me to stop working things would get better 11. I hate this house maybe if you agreed to move things would get better 12. I hate the cold weather maybe if you took us on holiday somewhere sunny, things would get better These three had been the bulk of my "why chasing" campaign. |
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