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Post by isthisit on Apr 4, 2024 11:11:31 GMT -5
There you go, I rest my case. And coincidentally, I popped to Scotland over the Easter weekend as it’s not far from where I live. I had shortbread too, which was delicious. Is that messed with over there as well? OK isthisit,...i have had enough of the insults to American cuisine. Scroll down the page to the post by csl and view the response of young british males who are now open to new American foods and flavors. These are foods found in the south( my world) in particular. And this is only the beginning. There is mashed potatoes and gravy, county styled steak, the list goes on. We have even created a piece of table ware specifically for gravy...the gravy boat. Now that’s not really the case. I have simply pointed out your chocolate is lousy because it really is. I did not criticise any other aspect of US cuisine. My next trip to the US will be my 22 nd visit, I know it really well and look forward to the food very much- but definitely not the chocolate. Which, I repeat, is rubbish. I have eaten on both coasts, top and bottom and in the middle too. I agree that the food in the south was good but it is a bit greasy for me- lots of frying and oil and daft sized portions. Mashed potatoes and gravy isn’t gonna get me excited though. Everywhere does that. Our national dish is based on it. I am a bone-fide foodie and travel widely often guided by the food on offer. I go to the US specifically for the loaded baked potatoes which are outstanding, grape jelly which is heavenly and not available anywhere else. On my last trip I loaded up with it, and just in time a friend from the US came to visit me last summer with a new supply which I now refuse to share. I also really like American meat- but please- no PM’s about that, it’s not an invitation to the lonely to tell me about your dick. 😉 I especially like that smoking method of cooking which is rare to find here. I had some salmon cooked on a smoker in Denver which will live long on the memory. Summary: US food is good, but your chocolate isn’t worth the name. France, Morrocco, Vietnam and India has better food though. |
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Post by isthisit on Apr 4, 2024 11:13:51 GMT -5
Those would be biscuits. Did they have chocolate on or in them? That would explain it. Borrowing from Crocodile Dundee, "That's not a biscuit. Now THIS is a biscuit!" Viral vid of British kids encountering American biscuits and gravy: I tried your biscuits and gravy in the US. Yeah, too stodgy for me. The one I had was very salty but it might have been a duff one. I am not sure why these British kids had such a revelation, that stuff is available here. |
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Post by m76 on Apr 4, 2024 11:24:15 GMT -5
Borrowing from Crocodile Dundee, "That's not a biscuit. Now THIS is a biscuit!" Viral vid of British kids encountering American biscuits and gravy: I tried your biscuits and gravy in the US. Yeah, too stodgy for me. The one I had was very salty but it might have been a duff one. I am not sure why these British kids had such a revelation, that stuff is available here. I'd much rather have a yorkshire pudding and gravy rather then a biscuit. But I'm also canadian. Bring on the poutine and butter tarts. |
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Post by isthisit on Apr 4, 2024 11:49:17 GMT -5
I tried your biscuits and gravy in the US. Yeah, too stodgy for me. The one I had was very salty but it might have been a duff one. I am not sure why these British kids had such a revelation, that stuff is available here. I'd much rather have a yorkshire pudding and gravy rather than a biscuit. But I'm also canadian. Bring on the poutine and butter tarts. We have a Canadian restaurant in my city. The thing with gravy and chips is not too bad. And yes, British food is also fab, with Yorkshire puddings being one of the most wonderful things we offer. Our gravy is different to US gravy. Meatier and less sauce like. I liked the bacon in Canada, much better than here. And ahem, your chocolate is rubbish too. |
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Post by m76 on Apr 4, 2024 12:02:26 GMT -5
I'd much rather have a yorkshire pudding and gravy rather than a biscuit. But I'm also canadian. Bring on the poutine and butter tarts. We have a Canadian restaurant in my city. The thing with gravy and chips is not too bad. And yes, British food is also fab, with Yorkshire puddings being one of the most wonderful things we offer. Our gravy is different to US gravy. Meatier and less sauce like. I liked the bacon in Canada, much better than here. And ahem, your chocolate is rubbish too. You're not wrong. I personally like Swiss and Belgium chocolate. |
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Post by m76 on Apr 4, 2024 12:05:53 GMT -5
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Post by Missingout on Apr 4, 2024 13:26:10 GMT -5
Back in the day this place was a boatload of fun. Sharp wit and a great place to be silly which is good for us all. There were suggestions of debauchery in Berlin sex clubs, filming kinky action and chocolate (that will be Euro chocolate not that swill in the US…). Amongst it all lots of compassion and understanding about the misery that is living in a SM. Great friendships were born from the silliness which has enriched my life and continue to do so. At its best is place is outstanding. I need all of this in my life🤣 you can have your biscuits and scones and I'll take the chocolate. But sex drugs and rock and roll,,,, let's talk more about this🤨😉 |
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Post by Missingout on Apr 4, 2024 13:32:31 GMT -5
Yeahhhhhh !!! More talk about smoking meat🤣🤣that's hot!!
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Post by isthisit on Apr 4, 2024 14:26:29 GMT -5
We have a Canadian restaurant in my city. The thing with gravy and chips is not too bad. And yes, British food is also fab, with Yorkshire puddings being one of the most wonderful things we offer. Our gravy is different to US gravy. Meatier and less sauce like. I liked the bacon in Canada, much better than here. And ahem, your chocolate is rubbish too. You're not wrong. I personally like Swiss and Belgium chocolate. You are absolutely correct. Belgian just has the edge for me but both are divine. Belgium is a very under rated nation. Great beer, moules et frites, stellar chocolate, lovely architecture, and cracking footballers for a small population. What more could anyone wish for? I could not help but notice the men are divine too. |
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Post by isthisit on Apr 4, 2024 14:29:58 GMT -5
Back in the day this place was a boatload of fun. Sharp wit and a great place to be silly which is good for us all. There were suggestions of debauchery in Berlin sex clubs, filming kinky action and chocolate (that will be Euro chocolate not that swill in the US…). Amongst it all lots of compassion and understanding about the misery that is living in a SM. Great friendships were born from the silliness which has enriched my life and continue to do so. At its best is place is outstanding. I need all of this in my life🤣 you can have your biscuits and scones and I'll take the chocolate. But sex drugs and rock and roll,,,, let's talk more about this🤨😉 Well, I can prescribe you the drugs and play you the music. |
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Post by m76 on Apr 7, 2024 22:49:51 GMT -5
I've reached my limit. The number one thing thr councilor had told my wife is that when we make plans every effort should be made to honor that plan and not push it off for another time.
After our PG rated naked shower last week we had planned tonight as the follow up. I had been thinking about it all week. Maybe we could take another step forward.
Well, I'm heading up for bed/shower and ask her if she's joining me and she said she'd be up in a bit. 2 hours later she came to bed, not a word.
So there's only 2 possibilities,
1) she just forgot about our plans, which tells me she doesn't care and doesn't look forward to this time together.
2) she purposely ignored the plan solidifying that nothing will ever happen
Both options tell me I'm wasting time and energy here. So my next steps: cancel the next counciling appointment and then I'm going to be making some plans with my work "friend" and take her up on her offer "check out her game collection".
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Post by mirrororchid on Apr 9, 2024 20:22:12 GMT -5
I've reached my limit. The number one thing the councilor had told my wife is that when we make plans every effort should be made to honor that plan and not push it off for another time. After our PG rated naked shower last week we had planned tonight as the follow up. I had been thinking about it all week. Maybe we could take another step forward. Well, I'm heading up for bed/shower and ask her if she's joining me and she said she'd be up in a bit. 2 hours later she came to bed, not a word. So there's only 2 possibilities, 1) she just forgot about our plans, which tells me she doesn't care and doesn't look forward to this time together. 2) she purposely ignored the plan solidifying that nothing will ever happen Both options tell me I'm wasting time and energy here. So my next steps: cancel the next counseling appointment and then I'm going to be making some plans with my work "friend" and take her up on her offer "check out her game collection". Are you preparing for potential fallout? Obeyed the Baza? |
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Post by m76 on Apr 23, 2024 18:54:26 GMT -5
I had a long talk today alone with our couples therapist. She asked me to consider a couple of questions.
What are my long term physical intimacy expectations and beyond that what would I accept from my wife as the bare minimum on an ongoing basis?
These are tough questions as its been so long with any physical intimacy at all, that even a kiss or a hug feels like a little bit of food to someone who is starving.
We also talked about the fact that many people say the only thing missing from their marriage is the sex but when probing deeper there's usually more but in my case it's true, we actually have a good friendship and emotional bond. I complain about her lack of housework, but I find that a relatively minor issue in the grand scheme and it's certainly not effecting my desire for her.
The barrier is that she declared herself asexual and has shut down any desire or arousal. My therapist said to me that this isn't much different then if one person had said they're not attracted to the other and that they're actually gay (in a straight relationship).
Beyond that, without my wife present she even suggested i could be meeting those physical needs outside of the relationship which was a bit of a shock.
So with all this said. I'm going to suggest a separation while co-habitating while my son finishes high school. Which ironically was something I had considered very early in this process.
I realize there's no future in this relationship beyond platonic friendship. Which will also be hard to walk away from. We've been married for 25 years and we were friends for 10 years before that.
The therapist mentioned how hard this will be for me since neither of us have been with anyone else and it's the only life I know.
Although there is risk with any change, I think chance at happiness is worth the risk.
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 24, 2024 6:30:32 GMT -5
The therapist mentioned how hard this will be for me since neither of us have been with anyone else and it's the only life I know.
Although there is risk with any change, I think chance at happiness is worth the risk.
Your therapist told you what you have been politely told ( informed ) on this site from the beginning
. These things do take time to sink in and take hold.
The next stage is action - what do you plan to do about it- you've read it before- an escape plan.
Yes, it's very difficult in the beginning when you've lived a sheltered, isolated life. Marriage, job, family, does that to a person.
All it takes is one other woman to show you there's an entire alternative to the life you've been living!
I want to offer you HOPE
( you're 46 yrs old? - don't wait till your 60's or 70's like others have) With risk comes worry. Worry about failure. Think and remember your own life experiences when you've worried about something? 9 out of 10 times those worries didn't happen and they don't come true! There's the HOPE to take the risk, and reap the benefits.
To the bold go the prizes!
Here's to new beginnings!
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Post by worksforme2 on Apr 24, 2024 7:24:13 GMT -5
m76,...Sometimes we have to be dragged, kicking and screaming to the acknowledgement that it is time to set a new coarse for our lives. That was the case for me in me ending my SM. Yes, leaving the marriage will be a challenge for the both of you. But staying presents challenges as well. And staying incures the added element of a frustrating and unhappy existance for you. And who would choose existing when you could take the chance of living. good luck and keep us in the loop.
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