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Post by Deleted on Apr 13, 2016 11:00:26 GMT -5
All I can say is that you will know when the time is right. For me, some things all happened at once. My youngest was off to college and adjusted well. I moved back to my hometown. I did not own a house. My refusing cheater told me that i should be happy with never having sex again. When all those occurred at once, I knew it was time.
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 17, 2016 7:35:53 GMT -5
Well as for hobbies- I feel part of the fun is not only exploring someones body (CURVES! Can't say it enough!) but their mind as well. I want a partner to share her hobbies and at least try to show a little interest in mine! Why can't "together" be a hobby? I think my trepidation in hobbies - well, my husband spends every moment not working playing video games and reading books. This is a very frustrating thing for me. I am not even sure I have hobbies of my own to share anymore. Another part of getting out and doing my own thing. Will be figuring this out again! Im not sure that video games are a hobby. More of an escape. |
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Post by bballgirl on Apr 17, 2016 9:58:27 GMT -5
All I can say is that you will know when the time is right. For me, some things all happened at once. My youngest was off to college and adjusted well. I moved back to my hometown. I did not own a house. My refusing cheater told me that i should be happy with never having sex again. When all those occurred at once, I knew it was time. I agree with the "you just know". Originally I planned to stay 4 more years. Something snapped and I will have to use an analogy but, I felt like I was on an airplane spiraling down to the ground and the parachute was on my back. This is the key part about jumping out of a plane: their is an optimal time to jump in order to have a successful jump. If you wait to long to jump you won't make it, as well you can't just jump out you have to have your parachute (exit strategy). So it's like the lightbulb went on in that plane and I just knew it was the right time. That time is different for everyone. |
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Post by bballgirl on Apr 17, 2016 10:04:38 GMT -5
I don't think you can quantify "enough". That is going to be different for everybody because everyone's situation is different. I think what you have to do is decide if you will be more comfortable in your situation or out of it. In my own situation, my wife also refuses to initiate, is rarely in the mood, but will go along with it on occasion so long as I give her an orgasm. If my marriage were all about sex, I would be gone, but there is so much more to the equation. Outside of sex, my wife is a fun person, and everyone I know loves her. Plus, I am her sole means of support since she has a chronic condition that prevents her from working. The cost (both emotional and financial) for me makes it better for me to just shut up and suffer, and dream of outsourcing .... but I digress. Point is ... those in sexless marriages need to decide if they are more comfortable in their situation or alone ... that should be your guide. Of course, I could be wrong, but that's how I see it  Well said! I totally agree. Everyone's situation is different. For some it's smarter to stay. If my marriage was everything's great bar the sex then I probably would have but sex was the least of our problems. It's easier to leave when you're married to an asshole. |
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