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Post by unmatched on Apr 11, 2016 20:02:34 GMT -5
My dad stayed, and it sucked. We were not a good match as a parent and child. He didn't like me, and it showed. Oh, he "loved" me. The man never shirked a duty in his life. He didn't abuse me, and he provided for me well. But most of our interactions consisted of him barking orders at me and criticizing me. I tried to stay out of his way as much as I could. If there had been a divorce, he would have said he wanted to see me, but I'm not sure why. Why would he want to spend time with such an unsatisfactory child as I apparently was? Unless he got some unholy pleasure out of hassling me. If he hadn't stayed he would still have done his duty and you would have had to go and see him every other weekend and that really would have sucked too. Some people just aren't cut out to be parents. |
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Post by JMX on Apr 11, 2016 20:38:16 GMT -5
Stuff like this is why men need to be allowed to have mistresses - like they did in the past (and still do in countries that are less puritanical about sex.) So, Mrs. Frigid Bitch wants the wedding and the house and the kids and the social approval, but she doesn't want sex? Fine. Since she's getting all the goodies in this relationship, the husband should be allowed to have a FWB. There are women who have been married and divorced, who are not going to demand that he leave Mrs. Frigid Bitch and the kids. I hate these women who have EVERYTHING, but who withhold sex from their husbands and are generally bitches to them. It's not fair, and I hate these women enough that if I had a male friend in my life who was being refused, I might very well consider being his mistress - if he approached me. I don't see why the frigid bitches, who are spoiled rotten, get all the good men. You know damn well a lot of them only have kids so they can trap a man into getting and staying married. If they have more than one kid, they may even be able to get out of holding down a paying job. Well done, bitches! **** ah, but SmartKat - the fervor in which you speak - I suspect, after a period of time being the mistress, you would want more. Because, in the end, most of us want it all and being second choice to Frigid Bitch is only fun in the beginning. And Frigid Bitch getting more time and energy would also be disheartening, no? My point - I don't think you would be a good mistress. You're too passionate to sit idly by waiting for "him". Respectfully. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2016 22:19:52 GMT -5
Stuff like this is why men need to be allowed to have mistresses - like they did in the past (and still do in countries that are less puritanical about sex.) So, Mrs. Frigid Bitch wants the wedding and the house and the kids and the social approval, but she doesn't want sex? Fine. Since she's getting all the goodies in this relationship, the husband should be allowed to have a FWB. There are women who have been married and divorced, who are not going to demand that he leave Mrs. Frigid Bitch and the kids. I hate these women who have EVERYTHING, but who withhold sex from their husbands and are generally bitches to them. It's not fair, and I hate these women enough that if I had a male friend in my life who was being refused, I might very well consider being his mistress - if he approached me. I don't see why the frigid bitches, who are spoiled rotten, get all the good men. You know damn well a lot of them only have kids so they can trap a man into getting and staying married. If they have more than one kid, they may even be able to get out of holding down a paying job. Well done, bitches! **** ah, but SmartKat - the fervor in which you speak - I suspect, after a period of time being the mistress, you would want more. Because, in the end, most of us want it all and being second choice to Frigid Bitch is only fun in the beginning. And Frigid Bitch getting more time and energy would also be disheartening, no? My point - I don't think you would be a good mistress. You're too passionate to sit idly by waiting for "him". Respectfully. Well, all the attractive men I know who are age-appropriate are already married. I'm not going to settle for some 400 pound loser who's addicted to World of Warcraft just because he happens to be single. Neither am I going to passively accept celibate old maidhood without a fight. Want me to stop being willing to consider being a married man's girlfriend? Then make an *attractive* unmarried man take me seriously. Otherwise....why should I obey rules that don't benefit me in any way? |
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Post by JMX on Apr 11, 2016 22:25:23 GMT -5
Ha! Somehow, I don't see you only attracting single 400 lb losers who play video games  . It's not that I am against breaking rules - it just seems not enough. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2016 22:31:10 GMT -5
Ha! Somehow, I don't see you only attracting single 400 lb losers who play video games . It's not that I am against breaking rules - it just seems not enough. Well, sure. I'd rather have a man who *wasn't* already married. I'm not stupid or crazy. Who wants to deal with the hassles? I guess I'm a realist, though. By the time people are our age, most of the ones who are in any way attractive are already married. So, if nobody single turns up within a reasonable period of time, yes, I would be willing to consider being a married man's girlfriend. I would consider it stealing from the rich and giving to the poor. |
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Post by JMX on Apr 11, 2016 22:31:48 GMT -5
Ha! Okay.
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Post by JMX on Apr 11, 2016 22:32:50 GMT -5
I am entirely too positive for my own good today maybe |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2016 22:34:13 GMT -5
I am entirely too positive for my own good today maybe That's cool. Since I'm having trouble believing in my own wishes today, maybe you can believe and be positive for both of us. ;-) |
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Post by JMX on Apr 11, 2016 22:34:40 GMT -5
I am entirely too positive for my own good today maybe That's cool. Since I'm having trouble believing in my own wishes today, maybe you can believe and be positive for both of us. ;-) Done! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2016 23:08:09 GMT -5
I'm sure it isn't fair. I just wish there were an example of a well divorced couple with kids that benefited from having Dad move out that I could draw an exception from. My wife's sister and her husband divorced several years ago when their kids were in Junior High. I'm sure it was because my sister-in-law is a frigid bitch. Her husband -- my BIL -- was a good guy, and stayed close to the kids. But their daughter suffered from all of it, was in therapy, and I would consider her a bit of a mess now. BIL remarried within a few years, and I don't know much about his situation other than he's happy. So my best example is a disaster. So are you thinking College Plan? Or just looking at what is the best thing you can do right now and let the future fall where it will? I'm hoping to get them out of the nest as successfully as I can. Once that happens, I'll see how I feel. That is if I last that long. There are probably transgressions even I can't abide. Not sure what those would be, but I suspect they have something to do with my wife no longer being able to deal with the kids and me. I guess if I lose my ability to be civil, I'll have to go. Something tells me that my wife would lose it with the kids pretty quickly if I weren't around. That may be wishful thinking on my part. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 11, 2016 23:13:48 GMT -5
Ha! Somehow, I don't see you only attracting single 400 lb losers who play video games . It's not that I am against breaking rules - it just seems not enough. Well, sure. I'd rather have a man who *wasn't* already married. I'm not stupid or crazy. Who wants to deal with the hassles? I guess I'm a realist, though. By the time people are our age, most of the ones who are in any way attractive are already married. So, if nobody single turns up within a reasonable period of time, yes, I would be willing to consider being a married man's girlfriend. I would consider it stealing from the rich and giving to the poor. Wow, you have a way of making this sound quite noble! Please promise when you find this guy, you'll post a Post SM Dating thread. I'm kind of with JMX on this one. I'm not sure how long you'd tolerate the BS. |
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Post by unmatched on Apr 12, 2016 0:46:47 GMT -5
Ha! Somehow, I don't see you only attracting single 400 lb losers who play video games . It's not that I am against breaking rules - it just seems not enough. Well, sure. I'd rather have a man who *wasn't* already married. I'm not stupid or crazy. Who wants to deal with the hassles? I guess I'm a realist, though. By the time people are our age, most of the ones who are in any way attractive are already married. So, if nobody single turns up within a reasonable period of time, yes, I would be willing to consider being a married man's girlfriend. I would consider it stealing from the rich and giving to the poor. From a man's point of view I could easily say the same thing - all the non-psychotic women are already taken. But looking at a small and not very representative sample of two, you and JMX were taken until very recently and have now freed yourselves up and dropped (or are dropping, I guess, for JMX) their deadweight husbands. So there must be good men coming back onto the market all the time too. Maybe if you hang around the divorce courts and look for mean shrew-like woman who are glaring at decent looking men, that could be a pointer for who to look at first. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 12, 2016 1:57:23 GMT -5
Well, sure. I'd rather have a man who *wasn't* already married. I'm not stupid or crazy. Who wants to deal with the hassles? I guess I'm a realist, though. By the time people are our age, most of the ones who are in any way attractive are already married. So, if nobody single turns up within a reasonable period of time, yes, I would be willing to consider being a married man's girlfriend. I would consider it stealing from the rich and giving to the poor. Wow, you have a way of making this sound quite noble! Please promise when you find this guy, you'll post a Post SM Dating thread. I'm kind of with JMX on this one. I'm not sure how long you'd tolerate the BS. Well, YOU are tolerating BS from your refuser wife. What's worse: tolerating BS from a refuser who is only using you so she won't have to work? Or a woman being pragmatic enough to lower her sights if what she really wants just isn't possible? AFAIC, being alone and celibate for the rest of my life is BS. That's the BS that I'm not willing to tolerate. |
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Post by JMX on Apr 12, 2016 6:09:55 GMT -5
Well, sure. I'd rather have a man who *wasn't* already married. I'm not stupid or crazy. Who wants to deal with the hassles? I guess I'm a realist, though. By the time people are our age, most of the ones who are in any way attractive are already married. So, if nobody single turns up within a reasonable period of time, yes, I would be willing to consider being a married man's girlfriend. I would consider it stealing from the rich and giving to the poor. From a man's point of view I could easily say the same thing - all the non-psychotic women are already taken. But looking at a small and not very representative sample of two, you and JMX were taken until very recently and have now freed yourselves up and dropped (or are dropping, I guess, for JMX) their deadweight husbands. So there must be good men coming back onto the market all the time too. Maybe if you hang around the divorce courts and look for mean shrew-like woman who are glaring at decent looking men, that could be a pointer for who to look at first. Don't get me wrong - I can be a psycho You know - I was about to say - there are more of us (divorced or divorcing women) and it makes it harder to find a man, but, that's simple not true. There are more of us here. I guess the one thing that is sad and frustrating is that the women and men here would probably get along famously were they to meet and couple up. But most of the men here will stay (according to Baz stats - and I believe it to be true from the stories I have read) and never the two shall meet. We do have to wander a pool of single or "probably divorced by their wife" selections. Each time I go on a date I am sure in the back of my mind I will wonder: why did your ex divorce you? And it may take me a bit to figure it out. I just hope I run into one of you wonderful men. I fear you all are few and far between. I am holding out for the Holy Grail: A widower (whose wife died of natural causes) that was in a SM. I imagine he grieves (capacity for human emotions) but gets over it quickly. Oh, and, he likes to have sex with me. I am easy to please |
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Post by JMX on Apr 12, 2016 6:11:38 GMT -5
Maybe I should consider hanging out at funeral homes |
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