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Post by lessingham on Aug 13, 2020 8:16:03 GMT -5
Absolutely totally agree, Saarista, I have been telling him to get out there for months. I believe it is easier to get a job when you have a job and all recruiters must be flooded with the CVs of the recently let go. He has great experience and skills. But as another out or worker he will not stand out.
He is still up for sale to any woman out there wanting a challenge. I'll sweeten the pot with my collection of 1970s lps!
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Post by northstarmom on Aug 14, 2020 1:00:12 GMT -5
Sometimes you have to give offspring the freedom to make their own mistakes without your providing them a soft landing. If he runs out of money and can’t go home he will get a job.
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Post by mirrororchid on Aug 14, 2020 10:16:11 GMT -5
Absolutely totally agree, Saarista, I have been telling him to get out there for months. I believe it is easier to get a job when you have a job and all recruiters must be flooded with the CVs of the recently let go. He has great experience and skills. But as another out or worker he will not stand out. He is still up for sale to any woman out there wanting a challenge. I'll sweeten the pot with my collection of 1970s lps! Any Barry White in there? |
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Post by lessingham on Aug 14, 2020 11:37:22 GMT -5
Sorry, all prog rock. But for the right prospective daughter in law, I will hunt down any Barry White los out there.
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Post by lessingham on Aug 29, 2020 6:04:36 GMT -5
He has a reprieve but still job seeks at the pace of a snail. He is anybodys. Barry White lps, ABBA ones, even my Monopoly game with wooden houses all thrown in!
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Post by lessingham on Sept 27, 2020 3:38:20 GMT -5
After locking himself out and having to cone here for our spare keys, I will now offer my son up with all my LPs, a load of toilet paper and a box of "edible" condoms approaching sell by date. Someone must have a daughter for him!!!!
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Post by lessingham on Dec 23, 2020 5:17:41 GMT -5
And the Christmas update! He arrivedfor Christmas, we are locked down and he brought one pair of clean underpants!!!!!! Any takers? I will throw in my entire collection of English civil war toy soldiers, the scrap value of the lead alone is significant. And my cooy of the 1969 moon landing newspaper
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Post by mirrororchid on Dec 23, 2020 7:06:54 GMT -5
And the Christmas update! He arrivedfor Christmas, we are locked down and he brought one pair of clean underpants!!!!!! Any takers? I will throw in my entire collection of English civil war toy soldiers, the scrap value of the lead alone is significant. And my cooy of the 1969 moon landing newspaper Given your wife has absurd notions about how obligated you are to fulfill her every whim, has your son noted your response and he has very unreasonable expectations of you too? Is he asking you to wash his underwear daily? If there is a theme, perhaps you have a need to expand your self-worth building strategies to a wider circle of family and loved ones. You may be a "pleaser"/enabler that is damaging people around them. You save their bacon so much they become ...well, idiots. Could it be that you're a sweetheart, but your good nature is causing damage? |
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Post by saarinista on Dec 23, 2020 10:58:47 GMT -5
After locking himself out and having to cone here for our spare keys, I will now offer my son up with all my LPs, a load of toilet paper and a box of "edible" condoms approaching sell by date. Someone must have a daughter for him!!!! Or be assertive and kick him out. |
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Post by Handy on Dec 23, 2020 11:33:46 GMT -5
One pair of underpants? Have him go to Tesco, buy a head of cabbage, peel off a leaf to line his underpants and when the cabbage leaf gets stinky, change to a new cabbage leaf. It is sort of Adam and Eve in pictures but it might help. OTH, option #2, I am certain there are stores that sell underwear in your area.
Option #3 is give me the piano John Lennon used to write "Imagine" and I might be able to find your son an alternative place to live. I promise to put the piano on display in the city museum. We need a novel item to boost the visitor numbers and ticket sales. A picture of Charles Augustus Lindbergh (February 4, 1902) living her isn't much of a draw. I think the piano would be better for the museum's revenue stream.
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Post by northstarmom on Dec 23, 2020 17:19:49 GMT -5
Lessingham: "And the Christmas update! He arrivedfor Christmas, we are locked down and he brought one pair of clean underpants!!!!!"
How on earth do you know that? Surely, you don't see that as a problem for you to solve. If you are in full lockdown, he can wash his undies each night and hang them up to dry. Not your problem unless YOU make it your problem.
FWIW, I expected and taught my sons to wash their own clothes when they turned 10. Younger son, a few months later, told me at 6:00 in the morning that he had no clean underwear to wear to school. He wanted me to take him to Walmart. He was disgusted-- but learned his lesson. -- when my response was to say he needed to either find a way to quickly wash and dry his clothes or he needed to rewear worn underwear. It wasn't my problem....
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Post by baza on Dec 23, 2020 17:30:07 GMT -5
Back on 29th July you put your cred on the line (with your decree that he could not move back in with you) Brother lessingham . So now you find out if you were just blowing smoke. |
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Post by jerri on Dec 24, 2020 4:12:39 GMT -5
Could be worse!
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Post by mirrororchid on Dec 24, 2020 5:16:24 GMT -5
..., I expected and taught my sons to wash their own clothes when they turned 10. Younger son, a few months later, told me at 6:00 in the morning that he had no clean underwear to wear to school. ... See, most parents would have taught him "the sniff test" in addition to laundry lessons. |
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Post by lessingham on Dec 24, 2020 6:55:48 GMT -5
I said he could not move in again. He is here for Christmas, then he gets to go home again.
He is using the 30/30 cycle in the washing machine and so far so good.
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