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Post by angryspartan on Jun 1, 2016 13:00:40 GMT -5
That I do Z!!!!!! and tops, shorts, etc.... Don't forget the sexy undies. Oh and feel free to send pics  That, and let us know who won the pillow-turned-tickle fight. |
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Post by Dan on Jun 1, 2016 22:10:59 GMT -5
Are any other guys feeling a bit left out? Naw. I'm just planning to lurk on this thread until they decide a place and time, then I plan to go! |
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Post by dancingbear70 on Jun 1, 2016 22:33:57 GMT -5
Are any other guys feeling a bit left out? Or just me? But if it's just me, I'm sure I could keep you three ladies entertained'! Naw. I'm just planning to lurk on this thread until they decide a place and time, then I plan to go! I guess my stalking skills are in need of refinement. Brilliant strategy Dan! |
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Post by skguy on Jun 2, 2016 16:34:44 GMT -5
Since you're the one who has to travel the farthest, you let us know, ggoldAre any other guys feeling a bit left out? Or just me? But if it's just me, I'm sure I could keep you three ladies entertained'! Some of us might be feeling left out. Plus some of us with overactive imaginations are thinking all sorts of things. Not me. But maybe someone ;-) |
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Post by ggold on Jun 3, 2016 9:33:15 GMT -5
Are any other guys feeling a bit left out? Or just me? But if it's just me, I'm sure I could keep you three ladies entertained'! Some of us might be feeling left out. Plus some of us with overactive imaginations are thinking all sorts of things. Not me. But maybe someone ;-) Hmmmm. Not buying that you are not one of the guys with an overactive imagination!!! I have no idea why!!?? |
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Post by ggold on Jun 3, 2016 9:34:29 GMT -5
Are any other guys feeling a bit left out? Naw. I'm just planning to lurk on this thread until they decide a place and time, then I plan to go! Oh @dan, we will not reveal our secret meeting info. Let you boys wonder and wait!!! |
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Post by LITW on Jun 3, 2016 10:53:45 GMT -5
Today is Friday at the end of a short week. I should be excited for the weekend, but I am not. I actually feel a bit dead inside.
My wife spent yesterday and the day before researching sexual abuse statistics (as part of a volunteer position she holds.) As a survivor of abuse herself, she is hypersensitive to that issue, so I am guessing she wont be in the mood for anything at all this weekend. And I find myself not caring that she won't, as I am not all that thrilled about being intimate with someone who is just not that into being intimate with me. So once again I will be alone emotionally, but not physically, which will be hard, and sad.
In a sexless marriage, weekends are a mixed blessing.
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Post by skguy on Jun 3, 2016 11:17:24 GMT -5
Some of us might be feeling left out. Plus some of us with overactive imaginations are thinking all sorts of things. Not me. But maybe someone ;-) Hmmmm. Not buying that you are not one of the guys with an overactive imagination!!! I have no idea why!!?? My story is falling apart |
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Post by ggold on Jun 3, 2016 11:21:04 GMT -5
Hmmmm. Not buying that you are not one of the guys with an overactive imagination!!! I have no idea why!!?? My story is falling apart Yes it is my dear!!! |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jun 3, 2016 11:31:48 GMT -5
Here comes Fri. Evening and a weekend of diversions, to try and avoid my detached wife as much as possible. Part of it is avoidance,( some call it being passive I call it," don't put yourself in front of a tank!") the other is self-fulfillment, having fun, pleasurable, meaningful, productive times, without the spouse,alone or with the rest of the family.
Steps toward self-fulfillment while enduring the SM?
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Post by DryCreek on Jun 3, 2016 13:51:24 GMT -5
My wife spent yesterday and the day before researching sexual abuse statistics (as part of a volunteer position she holds.) As a survivor of abuse herself, she is hypersensitive to that issue... I wonder... it's perhaps a complex question, but for all the benefit she might bring to others through her work, do you think that she is defining her life as a sexual abuse victim? i.e., some people define themselves as parents, letting it consume them, preventing a rounded personality, and having difficulty coping when the kids are gone. Do you think her work might keep her reliving the experience and perpetually seeing herself as a victim? |
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Post by LITW on Jun 3, 2016 14:15:26 GMT -5
DryCreek I don't think its so much that she is playing a victim as it is avoiding any situation whereby she, or anyone else, can become a victim. Her hypersensitivity had become hypervigilance to the point where she is looking for signs of sexual abuse everywhere. That hypervigilance in and of itself is not bad, but she doesn't seem to be able to turn that off when she is with me. For that matter, could anybody turn it off? I don't think so. And can I tell her she is wrong to be hypervigilant? No. I don't know what the answer is.
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Post by DryCreek on Jun 3, 2016 14:29:41 GMT -5
LITW, that's kinda what I mean... it's more than something she does, she's made it who she is. She doesn't "leave her work at work", she brings it home and into the bedroom. It is possible to "see" evil and malice in many places where is simply isn't there, and that's a crappy way to live life. For some reason, the example springs to mind of a decorative pattern cast into the concrete of a bridge, where if you repainted the shapes in a very specific way (which they weren't), one could make it into a repeating "K"-like shape - which of course, must be KKK. It just shows that people who live in a negative mindset will see issues where none exist, sometimes going out of their way to be "wronged". I would be wary of this happening with your wife. As if her past experience wasn't traumatic enough, I'd think she's allowing it to control her for years afterward. Not unlike the concept that if you allow terrorism to change the way you live, they've succeeded.
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Post by Dan on Jun 3, 2016 21:44:01 GMT -5
Not unlike the concept that if you allow terrorism to change the way you live, they've succeeded. Comparing "sexual refusers" with "domestic terrorists"? Maybe hyperbole.... may have a bit of truth in it! |
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Post by unmatched on Jun 3, 2016 22:32:10 GMT -5
Not unlike the concept that if you allow terrorism to change the way you live, they've succeeded. Comparing "sexual refusers" with "domestic terrorists"? Maybe hyperbole.... may have a bit of truth in it! It is kind of hard not to allow a refuser to change the way you live! Unless you leave in which case they have brought about major change. It must be the most effective form of terrorism ever. |
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