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Post by tamara68 on Mar 31, 2016 6:37:21 GMT -5
I am the first born and only child. Regardless of the first born or only child, did you find yourself, as a child, left alone? More of a "She can take care of herself" home? Just curious. I may be looking for common traits that aren't there. Yes I was alone a lot. |
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Post by wewbwb on Mar 31, 2016 7:23:55 GMT -5
Regardless of the first born or only child, did you find yourself, as a child, left alone? More of a "She can take care of herself" home? Just curious. I may be looking for common traits that aren't there. Yes I was alone a lot. Hmm. Interesting.... (he said while rubbing his chin. Trying desperately to look smarter then he is. He failed miserably.) (I often wonder if someone somewhere narrates my life. I feel sorry for them.) |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2016 20:19:29 GMT -5
First born.
My wife has told me I'm starved for love.
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Post by unmatched on Apr 3, 2016 18:44:58 GMT -5
First born. My wife has told me I'm starved for love. That is funny. Did she ever consider that might have something to do with her??? |
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 4, 2016 11:53:19 GMT -5
My wife has told me I'm starved for love. I've heard that also. Also "needy". As in I need sex more then once a decade.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2016 11:59:38 GMT -5
My wife has told me I'm starved for love. I've heard that also. Also "needy". As in I need sex more then once a decade.
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 4, 2016 12:02:56 GMT -5
I can't agree with that. She's not (usually  ) about most things - but we are worlds apart on intimacy and sex. |
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Post by misssunnybunny on Apr 4, 2016 14:23:52 GMT -5
First born, more on the independent/take care of myself side, but with super supportive parents. My ex was the youngest, super helicopter mom. He was clingy, needy, wanted a new mommy, I think....
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Post by wewbwb on Apr 5, 2016 12:34:31 GMT -5
First born, more on the independent/take care of myself side, but with super supportive parents. My ex was the youngest, super helicopter mom. He was clingy, needy, wanted a new mommy, I think.... Some men need to lead around and desire that |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 7, 2016 23:53:24 GMT -5
first born, 2 sisters. I grew up early. Was dads slave. He had me working at age 10. He was abusive to all of us. I have never felt loved and act very loving a nd giving to my wife.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 31, 2016 16:59:18 GMT -5
Hi, new member Bob here. I am the oldest son of the 3 children total, aged 3 years apart. I was a Navy brat and our father was gone a lot, and I feel the responsibility thrust upon me to take care of my younger brother and sister does shape my personalty (as I feel it does with many first-born) to accept obligation for situations that you do not like and are not fair because more is expected of you. In my family my younger brother and sister got away with murder and I got blamed many times for not being there to watch out for them and keep them out of trouble if something bad happened. I do feel this helps (hurts) and makes it easier for me to accept the consequences of a marriage without intimacy, because I am obligated to do what is right for the family. And yes I am also a good Catholic boy. I am going to find a thread about dealing with guilt.
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Post by unmatched on Jul 31, 2016 17:16:11 GMT -5
Hi, new member Bob here. I am the oldest son of the children total, aged 3 years apart. I was a Navy brat and our father was gone a lot, and I feel the responsibility thrust upon me to take care of my younger brother and sister does shape my personalty (as I feel it does with many first-born) to accept obligation for situations that you do not like and are not fair because more is expected of you. In my family my younger brother and sister got away with murder and I got blamed many times for not being there to watch out for them and keep them out of trouble if something bad happened. I do feel this helps (hurts) and makes it easier for me to accept the consequences of a marriage without intimacy, because I am obligated to do what is right for the family. And yes I am also a good Catholic boy. I am going to find a thread about dealing with guilt. Obviously I don't know much about your situation yet. But it seems to me that taking care of young kids is one thing. Taking care of a grown up who is supposed to be your equal partner in life is something completely different. You are not doing your wife any favours by trying to take responsibility for her choices in life, and you certainly shouldn't feel guilty for having your own needs. You have a life too, and it is equally as important as anyone else's. |
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Post by cagedtiger on Jul 31, 2016 17:23:44 GMT -5
Oldest of four, and my wife is the youngest of two. She actually thinks that birth order and our respective experiences as a result of that has a part to play in our communication issues, and I think she may be onto something there.
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 31, 2016 17:50:31 GMT -5
Oldest of four, and my wife is the youngest of two. She actually thinks that birth order and our respective experiences as a result of that has a part to play in our communication issues, and I think she may be onto something there. Birth order definitely affects personality and the way we deal with things in life. |
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Post by baza on Jul 31, 2016 17:56:04 GMT -5
I am #3 of 3.
My ex missus was #3 of 4.
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Birth order may have something to do with ending up in an ILIASM shithole, but I'd suggest it has very little to do with getting out of one.
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) about most things - but we are worlds apart on intimacy and sex. 
