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Post by Apocrypha on Feb 2, 2018 12:16:17 GMT -5
Apocrypha A little anecdote: a guy and I hit it off crazy the other night having drinks. But he was married and catching a plane in an hour. He asked to friend me on Facebook, and when I gave him my real name and he clicked on my profile, he said, "Oh god. You are much HOTTER in real life." Kind of backwards to my point, but I have ZERO trouble meeting men and having them fawn on me and stalk me. So I suppose the ones who gloss over just helps me with my volume. I can only handle a dozen at a time. Not being cheeky. I'm just saying that ALL women have the upper hand numbers-wise. Yes, I believe I said that point as well. Numbers-wise. And if you put a shitty picture up, you will be objectively hotter in real life. Also not in dispute. Another anecdote - my sister is an ok looking woman with a mood disorder than puts her life in chaos and treats people terribly, and is now well over 200 pounds. Her pictures on her dating profile show this clearly. She even had on her profile that she has "an Irish temper" (that's a kind way of saying it). She also has no problem getting matches - one after another, and men complimenting her. All she has to do is really say "yes" and snap her finger, and guys will show up, take her to dinner. I watched her scrolling through her phone for a while one day - it was like a machine gun of Yes matches from guys who right swiped. She was getting really cocky about it too, about how much she could handle at once. But the stories though - the quality of guys she meets - the lechery. One after another. Guys who stink. Guys who insist on buying dinner but who demand physical attention as "payment". Guys who are not gentlemen. You won't have trouble meeting men - not likely even if you weren't as physically attractive as you are in real life. That part really isn't going to be the trouble. |
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Post by surfergirl on Feb 2, 2018 12:32:11 GMT -5
Apocrypha On that point, we agree. The trouble is how to find the gentlemen. Therein is where we are in dispute. I don't think posting a cleavage pic helps my case or a photoshopped headshot. Just keeping it real.
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Post by worksforme2 on Feb 2, 2018 13:44:36 GMT -5
To all the gentlemen in the forum. Can you tell me how Cialis works? ie: When do you need to take it, what sort of erection does it achieve? My friend didn't use anything yesterday and the erection was about 70% I would say. He's a very fit, healthy 70 year old. Cialis can be taken a variety of ways. In small doses (5mg) it is usually taken daily. Larger doses, up to 20mg. are taken on the day a man expects to be active. The medication is taken at least an hour before PIV is initiated. Daily doses are taken at the same time each day. Larger doses (20mg) are supposed to be good for a 36 hour time frame. 20mg. is the maximum dose to take in a 24hr. period. If his erection is 70% that's pretty good for age 70. Cialis may or may not improve the quality. He should discuss this with his doctor to see if he's a good candidate for the medication. |
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Post by Apocrypha on Feb 2, 2018 14:17:59 GMT -5
Apocrypha On that point, we agree. The trouble is how to find the gentlemen. Therein is where we are in dispute. I don't think posting a cleavage pic helps my case or a photoshopped headshot. Just keeping it real. I'm just going by your cue, describing a shitty picture - I don't equate a good picture with photoshop or cleavage. I define that as a picture that fails to represent what that person looks like. So it might be a pic with sunglasses, or of the back of their head, or of just their face and nothing else, or of their face in a snapchat dogfilter, or wearing heavy costume makeup or a mask, or of them so far in the distance they look like a grain of rice, or of a pic that looks like the least possible effort was taken. That tells me this is a person who really doesn't give a shit, and who is looking for guys who likely don't give a shit either. That's not me. I want a partner who has enough humility to give a shit. |
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Post by surfergirl on Feb 2, 2018 14:20:08 GMT -5
Ah, my friend Apocrypha, it seems we are just talking past one another then. I post a real pic. It's just not a photoshopped one or a glam shot. The one I used when I first joined is an example. Not a great pic of me. But real. |
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Post by nancyb on Feb 2, 2018 15:04:50 GMT -5
To all the gentlemen in the forum. Can you tell me how Cialis works? ie: When do you need to take it, what sort of erection does it achieve? My friend didn't use anything yesterday and the erection was about 70% I would say. He's a very fit, healthy 70 year old. Cialis can be taken a variety of ways. In small doses (5mg) it is usually taken daily. Larger doses, up to 20mg. are taken on the day a man expects to be active. The medication is taken at least an hour before PIV is initiated. Daily doses are taken at the same time each day. Larger doses (20mg) are supposed to be good for a 36 hour time frame. 20mg. is the maximum dose to take in a 24hr. period. If his erection is 70% that's pretty good for age 70. Cialis may or may not improve the quality. He should discuss this with his doctor to see if he's a good candidate for the medication. Thankyou for the info worksforme2. I hope to see if that 70% can't be improved with some vigorous coaching. So far I haven't had to try very hard. It's early days and I'm a hot old lady. We laughed yesterday about the learning curve for each other's body. Heady days and I'm trying to keep me feet on the ground. ( when they're not up in the air)  |
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Post by northstarmom on Feb 2, 2018 15:51:35 GMT -5
“Thank-you for the info worksforme2. I hope to see if that 70% can't be improved with some vigorous coaching. “
The older men get the more they need manual or oral stimulation to get really hard. That’s why imo older men are better lovers: they are more into foreplay.
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Post by nancyb on Feb 4, 2018 8:53:50 GMT -5
I was a little fearful about sharing information re: my sexless marriage but it came out okay and Josef was empathetic. He doesn't understand the why but neither do I really. I have left that for my former spouse and refuser to figure out on his own. Turns out Josef is a very health conscious guy and sees sex as a form of exercise. We shared a laugh about an erection that apparently sometimes doesn't show up and I introduced him to my old faithful dildo.  Question for the forum: I have a younger lover. Its a pure physical thing but its been going on for a while and I feel quite tender towards him. I was thinking about telling Josef about him when we have the discussion about exclusivity. When should this occur? I haven't seen young man since I started being intimate with Josef. |
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Post by northstarmom on Feb 4, 2018 9:06:08 GMT -5
"Question for the forum: I have a younger lover. Its a pure physical thing but its been going on for a while and I feel quite tender towards him. I was thinking about telling Josef about him when we have the discussion about exclusivity. When should this occur? I haven't seen young man since I started being intimate with Josef."
Seems now would be the time to mention exclusivity and that you're not into monogamy. That would ensure both of you are on the same page. I don't suggest providing details No need, for instance, to mention your lover is younger, just that you have other lovers.
I also hope you're using condoms. Always important when one is in a new relationship or a nonmonogamous one. Incidentally, seniors are among the age groups with the highest STD levels. That's because many seniors think that because they have been snipped or are in menopause there is no need for condoms.
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Post by nancyb on Feb 4, 2018 9:21:25 GMT -5
I'm a safe sex advocate thanks. |
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Post by hopingforachange on Feb 4, 2018 10:05:18 GMT -5
You could start with the basic, where are we and where do you see this going, over a cup of coffee. And tell him you just want to have the conversation so you both on the same page and not to force a particular status.
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Post by nancyb on Feb 4, 2018 10:15:09 GMT -5
We taked yesterday about wanting to have fun together but liking our own space. I like living alone for now and want a dating relationship where we have good sex and fun. I see this as a healthy stage coming out of the SM. I had my year of 'fucking for sport' and now Im ready to settle down NancyB style which may or may not include monogamy.
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Post by boudinMan on Feb 4, 2018 11:17:39 GMT -5
Ah, my friend Apocrypha , it seems we are just talking past one another then. I post a real pic. It's just not a photoshopped one or a glam shot. The one I used when I first joined is an example. Not a great pic of me. But real. and it was one helluva pic, lemme tell you... good-ness! |
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Post by wewbwb on Feb 5, 2018 8:48:34 GMT -5
We taked yesterday about wanting to have fun together but liking our own space. I like living alone for now and want a dating relationship where we have good sex and fun. I see this as a healthy stage coming out of the SM. I had my year of 'fucking for sport' and now Im ready to settle down NancyB style which may or may not include monogamy. Well, I have to say that I think you should decide if it does include monogamy or not. It may come in the relationship. Anyway. Have fun and don't over think it. |
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Post by northstarmom on Feb 5, 2018 8:54:56 GMT -5
I agree with Nancy: from what you have posted here, it seems you don’t want monogamy. Tell him. Don’t assume or let him assume.
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