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Post by nancyb on Jan 25, 2018 16:49:55 GMT -5
So I'm meeting a man for coffee tomorrow who is 12 years older than I am. Its here any different sort of approach I should take other than being my usual charming self?  This is the first really successful man I've met and I'm anxious for it to go well. There may be no chemistry but I won't know till I have coffee with him. |
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Post by misssunnybunny on Jan 25, 2018 16:56:01 GMT -5
Just be your usual charming self  I hope you have a great meet up and all goes well! |
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Post by bballgirl on Jan 25, 2018 17:21:40 GMT -5
Have fun!! Very excited for you!!
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Post by baza on Jan 25, 2018 17:29:46 GMT -5
Remember your last time at bat Sister nancyb ? A bit of pre-date googling might be a good investment of your time. Just to see if there is any evidence to confirm that he is - "a really successful man" |
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Post by surfergirl on Jan 25, 2018 21:29:30 GMT -5
My gig is to use a bad picture of myself online, so when they meet me in person, it's an upgrade and happy shock (because usually it's the other way around). That's all I've got. But you don't want game tips from me. GAH!  |
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Post by northstarmom on Jan 25, 2018 22:24:30 GMT -5
Just be you. The point of a date is to see if you like each other and are compatible. The point of a date isn’t to see if you can contort yourself so a superior being likes you.
I’m curious: when you say he is successful, what do you mean? How his he different from other men you’ve been involved with? Do you normally get involved with unsuccessful men?
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Post by Dan on Jan 26, 2018 0:17:09 GMT -5
So I'm meeting a man for coffee tomorrow who is 12 years older than I am. Its here any different sort of approach I should take other than being my usual charming self? This is the first really successful man I've met and I'm anxious for it to go well. There may be no chemistry but I won't know till I have coffee with him. An "older gentlemen" will probably recall one or more different famous people named "Marx". To make conversation -- and get a hint as to his character -- ask him who is favorite Marx is: If he says " Richard", he will be a generous lover. If he says "Groucho" or "Chico", he'll keep you laughing, but the sex will only be so-so. If he says "Harpo", he's a goofball, probably won't be reliable. If he says "Karl", don't expect him to pay for lunch! |
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Post by baza on Jan 26, 2018 0:35:17 GMT -5
So I'm meeting a man for coffee tomorrow who is 12 years older than I am. Its here any different sort of approach I should take other than being my usual charming self? This is the first really successful man I've met and I'm anxious for it to go well. There may be no chemistry but I won't know till I have coffee with him. Ask him who is favorite Marx is. If he says " Richard", he will be a generous lover. If he says "Groucho" or "Chico", he'll keep you laughing, but the sex will only be so-so. If he says "Harpo", he's a goofball, probably won't be reliable. If he says "Karl", don't expect him to pay for lunch! --- and if he says "Zeppo" the chances are that he'll only make irregular appearances |
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Post by brian on Jan 26, 2018 7:20:20 GMT -5
Definitely be yourself. As northstarmom stated, the entire point of this date is to determine if the two of you like each other enough to have a second. It's not a conquest. It's not supposed to be a challenge to get someone to like you -- some people will, some won't. I think many/most/all of us made the mistake of putting only our best foot forward with our first marriage while hiding some of who we really are, and none of us want to make that mistake again. Be confident in who you are and what you are looking for. If there isn't any chemistry, there might still be room for friendship. |
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Post by Dan on Jan 26, 2018 7:28:09 GMT -5
This is the first really successful man I've met and I'm anxious for it to go well. As others said: "just be you". If you want to up your game just a tad, consider yourself as a "really successful person" yourself. Think of your successes, and think of them as part of you. If nothing else: you are the most successful person AT BEING YOU that the world has ever known! |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 26, 2018 8:14:47 GMT -5
Ask him if the Soviet Sputnik launch still pisses him off. Of course you should be yourself. Who else could you be? Ask him about his success. And ask yourself what your criteria for success are.... |
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Post by shamwow on Jan 26, 2018 9:22:10 GMT -5
Ask him if the Soviet Sputnik launch still pisses him off. Of course you should be yourself. Who else could you be? Ask him about his success. And ask yourself what your criteria for success are.... Sputnik? What but the crash of '29 or those damn kids on his lawn? Seriously. Just be yourself. I've learned that the best relationships come from a position of no bullshit. If it's meant to be it will be. If not? Then best to find out early as you be the only person you can be. Yourself. |
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Post by WindSister on Jan 26, 2018 10:01:17 GMT -5
Yes to what the others said. All you are doing is meeting someone who appears to be decent enough to meet. I learned during my dating years that meeting in person makes alllll the difference. I remember being excited about one or two, based on our texts, emails and phone calls only to be like, "oh" upon being face to face. Sometimes we project what we want on someone, which is way too easy to do via texts.
Have fun!
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Post by nancyb on Jan 26, 2018 22:51:53 GMT -5
I have a history of picking and being with some really great men. Unfortunately the last one turned sexless but he was a good man nevertheless. I have very high standards. Josef is a financially well off gentleman. He's an optician and owns a chain of stores. ( verified baza) We had some good laughs and he has a twinkle in his blue eyes. He's cultured and a little bit wacked ( like me) We talked about everything from a brief history of our marriages and then bam into some talk about quantum physics. It was fun. He called me tonight and we chatted on the phone for an hour. I know I sound dense but whats the next step? Dinner? He said he would call me tomorrow. Is there any reason why a healthy 70 year old couldnt have vigorous sex? ...not yet but maybe someday. |
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Post by baza on Jan 26, 2018 23:06:46 GMT -5
"Josef" sounds like a better prospect than that "Alfrik" prick.
Anyway, more on point, a healthy 70 yo ought not have too much trouble in rooting you if it gets down to it.
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This is the first really successful man I've met and I'm anxious for it to go well. There may be no chemistry but I won't know till I have coffee with him.
I hope you have a great meet up and all goes well!
