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Sept 6, 2017 10:17:15 GMT -5
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Post by shamwow on Sept 6, 2017 10:17:15 GMT -5
Ummm... High School aged kids, my friend. I openly state to my roomie that I live my sexual life vicariously through our 17 yr old. Sad... very very sad. Ahhh. 17 was a great year. To go back for a few days... Sigh...I waited for "the one". I waited until I was 22. And the one was a dud for 20 years. Even though I'm in a great relationship now, that's time I will never get back. |
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Post by h on Sept 6, 2017 10:35:04 GMT -5
Ahhh. 17 was a great year. To go back for a few days... Sigh...I waited for "the one". I waited until I was 22. And the one was a dud for 20 years. Even though I'm in a great relationship now, that's time I will never get back. Similar here. I waited until marriage and I was almost 24. |
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Post by shamwow on Sept 6, 2017 10:35:40 GMT -5
Sigh...I waited for "the one". I waited until I was 22. And the one was a dud for 20 years. Even though I'm in a great relationship now, that's time I will never get back. Similar here. I waited until marriage and I was almost 24. Yeah, thanks Jesús. |
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Post by JMX on Sept 6, 2017 16:10:00 GMT -5
Similar here. I waited until marriage and I was almost 24. Yeah, thanks Jesús. I am not religious, but i think Jesus wanted more sex for you. I read a James Frey book a long time ago - "The Holy Testament of the Bible" or something like that. I kind of liked his fictional Jesus. He spread the love. |
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Post by Frustrated1978 on Sept 24, 2017 21:19:19 GMT -5
Unfortunately you have indicated that your marriage is a lot like others here. The sexlessness is not the issue rather it is a symptom of some other underlying issues in the marriage. Keep reading and contributing here. It really helps.
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107 days
Sept 25, 2017 4:39:14 GMT -5
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Post by tirefire on Sept 25, 2017 4:39:14 GMT -5
Unfortunately you have indicated that your marriage is a lot like others here. The sexlessness is not the issue rather it is a symptom of some other underlying issues in the marriage. Keep reading and contributing here. It really helps. I see it a bit differently. I see it as a feedback loop. You won't have sex if you aren't getting along but you won't get along if you don't have sex. Sex is both a cause and a symptom of other problems. I can tell you that after those rare lightning strikes of sex, we get along so much better for a couple of days. 128 days now. 😵 |
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Post by h on Sept 25, 2017 5:53:59 GMT -5
Unfortunately you have indicated that your marriage is a lot like others here. The sexlessness is not the issue rather it is a symptom of some other underlying issues in the marriage. Keep reading and contributing here. It really helps. I see it a bit differently. I see it as a feedback loop. You won't have sex if you aren't getting along but you won't get along if you don't have sex. Sex is both a cause and a symptom of other problems. I can tell you that after those rear lightning strikes of sex, we get along so much better for a couple of days. 128 days now. 😵 That's how it works in our house too. For a long time I didn't know any better and just assumed that there was something wrong with me. We always got along well but just didn't have much sex. The sexlessness eventually ate at me until I could force myself to be happy anymore. When I started pressing the issue and search for answers, that's when the marriage really started getting rough. The sexlessness was the problem, not the symptom. Now though, it has spilled over into the rest of the relationship causing more tension and stress everywhere else. |
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Post by northstarmom on Sept 25, 2017 6:29:34 GMT -5
No, h, the sexlessness always was not just a problem
But also was a symptom. What it was a symptom of was how little your spouse cared about fulfilling her part of your marital vows. She also didn't care about hurting you. You think that things got worse when you pressed the subject. What really happened is that your attempting to get sex in your marriage, something normal, expected and enjoyed by most couples, uncovered your wife's selfishness and disinterest in your unhappiness. Things only seemed fine when you suffered in silence. But they really weren't fine.
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