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Post by northstarmom on Sept 5, 2017 20:01:48 GMT -5
Tire fire, when I was with my refuser, we went completely without sex our last 8 years. We also had 2 and 5 year sexless stretches. Never again.
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Post by tirefire on Sept 5, 2017 20:11:12 GMT -5
And if all a woman wants is sex, that's great. The trouble starts when we want sex AND romance AND a man with a brain. I hear you. Honestly, all the good stuff goes together. I miss passion. I miss someone looking lovingly. I miss real conversations about positive things like vacations, dreams, future. I miss long, long kisses. I have come to dislike the 'peck' with defensive body language. Anyway, I'm looking for the whole positive passionate life with someone. |
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Post by baza on Sept 5, 2017 20:12:48 GMT -5
"Counting roots" is a pretty unproductive passtime. Whereas it might *hi-lite* the problem, it won't do anything to resolve the problem - unless you are working on a benchmark where you think "when it gets to 0/365 I will do *something*". And if that is your motivation, you may as well start doing the prep work (for whatever number you select, and whatever that *something* is) now. Time is not your friend in these situations. Do you have some sort of number in mind to trigger your *something* Brother tirefire ? |
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Post by brian on Sept 5, 2017 20:17:59 GMT -5
The sad part is that most men could pull that off if they just gave a damn. The problem for me is that I have no desire for romance if there's no possible chance of sex to follow within the next month or more and my highly logical brain weighs the benefit to cost ratio and determines it to be less than worth the effort. That's basically where I am with everything except being cordial. I used to massage her back regularly... but there's no return for me. I tried to make her fantasies come true, but there was never a return for my efforts. So now I exist to shuttle the kids around and just be me. |
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107 days
Sept 5, 2017 20:24:17 GMT -5
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Post by shamwow on Sept 5, 2017 20:24:17 GMT -5
The sad part is that most men could pull that off if they just gave a damn. The problem for me is that I have no desire for romance if there's no possible chance of sex to follow within the next month or more and my highly logical brain weighs the benefit to cost ratio and determines it to be less than worth the effort. Lol I'm more talking about single guys. Sadly much more likely to get laid than those in a SM |
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Post by tirefire on Sept 5, 2017 20:30:15 GMT -5
"Counting roots" is a pretty unproductive passtime. Whereas it might *hi-lite* the problem, it won't do anything to resolve the problem I find the number is keeping me focused. I've begun some research into my options and this helps keep me moving in the right direction. |
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Post by DryCreek on Sept 5, 2017 20:32:09 GMT -5
Lol I'm more talking about single guys. Sadly much more likely to get laid than those in a SM It strikes home when you realize your college-age kids are probably seeing more action than you... |
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107 days
Sept 5, 2017 20:39:27 GMT -5
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Post by shamwow on Sept 5, 2017 20:39:27 GMT -5
Ok, I'll bite...what's with the title 107 days? I have a little counter on the homescreen of my phone. It's now been 108 days with no sex. 😨 I just keep the counter to stay focused in case I occasionally start to drift to feeling that things are normal or ok. They aren't ok as long as that counter still has a big number. I figured that was it. Mine got well over 1000 before it was done. |
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Post by h on Sept 5, 2017 20:57:13 GMT -5
Lol I'm more talking about single guys. Sadly much more likely to get laid than those in a SM It strikes home when you realize your college-age kids are probably seeing more action than you... Should I feel better that I probably won't ever experience that? By the time I get this SM either fixed or ended, I will be old enough that I may never have any kids to be jealous of. |
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Post by brian on Sept 5, 2017 21:16:55 GMT -5
Lol I'm more talking about single guys. Sadly much more likely to get laid than those in a SM It strikes home when you realize your college-age kids are probably seeing more action than you... Ummm... High School aged kids, my friend. I openly state to my roomie that I live my sexual life vicariously through our 17 yr old. Sad... very very sad. |
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Post by tirefire on Sept 5, 2017 21:44:56 GMT -5
Ummm... High School aged kids, my friend. I openly state to my roomie that I live my sexual life vicariously through our 17 yr old. Sad... very very sad. Ahhh. 17 was a great year. To go back for a few days... |
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Post by DryCreek on Sept 6, 2017 0:37:50 GMT -5
Ahhh. 17 was a great year. To go back for a few days... A few days? Heck yeah. Or even just for one specific hour... |
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Post by lifeinwoodinville on Sept 6, 2017 7:43:27 GMT -5
Love the name and the photo! There is just something about a tire on fire... it just warms the soul.
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Post by lifeinwoodinville on Sept 6, 2017 7:47:50 GMT -5
Yes those women do exist.... No doubt about it....but for ever one, there are ten men who want to get in her pants too....numbers do not favor the men..... And while searching, expect to be called a pervert a few times.... And if all a woman wants is sex, that's great. The trouble starts when we want sex AND romance AND a man with a brain. I used to have a manager at work who had a sign in her office that read "Good, cheap, fast. Pick two." Somehow it seems like you could apply that logic to your situation. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2017 9:55:35 GMT -5
And if all a woman wants is sex, that's great. The trouble starts when we want sex AND romance AND a man with a brain. I used to have a manager at work who had a sign in her office that read "Good, cheap, fast. Pick two." Somehow it seems like you could apply that logic to your situation. Just kill me now, OK? /snark |
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