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Post by hopingforachange on Jun 19, 2017 18:35:53 GMT -5
I think there isn't that many of us in the under 40 age group here and some people don't have there are displayed, so I figured I would make a roll call post.
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Post by h on Jun 19, 2017 18:55:31 GMT -5
Under 40 here. Present and accounted for sir!😜😀
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Post by baza on Jun 19, 2017 18:55:34 GMT -5
I don't think you are going to find a lot of under 30's, and probably not a lot of under 40's either.
That's because it seems to take a minimum of 5 years - and more like 10+ - for people to twig that they actually are in an ILIASM shithole and start googling *sexless marriage*.
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Post by choosinghappy on Jun 19, 2017 19:27:29 GMT -5
I'm 35. Do I win for youngest?
(Not sure if I should be proud for seeking out help this "quickly" or depressed that I already need it.)
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Post by h on Jun 19, 2017 19:44:26 GMT -5
I'm 35. Do I win for youngest? (Not sure if I should be proud for seeking out help this "quickly" or depressed that I already need it.) Sorry, you're not the youngest. |
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Post by laura on Jun 19, 2017 21:28:31 GMT -5
I'm 34. There may not be many of us realizing how bad it is before 40, but I think this forum helps in recognizing it sooner. If I hadn't found it I would have gone on thinking I'm the only one and there's just something wrong with me. Turns out this is a "thing." Who knew?
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 19, 2017 21:39:51 GMT -5
I'm 34. There may not be many of us realizing how bad it is before 40, but I think this forum helps in recognizing it sooner. If I hadn't found it I would have gone on thinking I'm the only one and there's just something wrong with me. Turns out this is a "thing." Who knew? Yes it's a thing and it's 50/50 men/women. I did not find ILIASM until my 40's but it's never too late. The key is knowing that nothing is wrong with us. |
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Post by bran127 on Jun 19, 2017 22:21:50 GMT -5
In the dirty thirties club. I was reading and researching a lot prior to joining. I randomly found this group and i am glad I did!
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Post by hopingforachange on Jun 20, 2017 6:41:06 GMT -5
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Post by Dan on Jun 20, 2017 7:23:00 GMT -5
I have the physical size and number of years that I could be two 26-year-olds. Can I join your club twice?  |
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Post by h on Jun 20, 2017 7:34:00 GMT -5
I have the physical size and number of years that I could be two 26-year-olds. Can I join your club twice? Or you could be three people just over 17. Not sure how much further you want to go. It could get creepy fast. |
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Post by Dan on Jun 20, 2017 7:43:57 GMT -5
I have the physical size and number of years that I could be two 26-year-olds. Can I join your club twice? Or you could be three people just over 17. Not sure how much further you want to go. It could get creepy fast. That made me think of this: if I didn't have to be an even split, I'd probably choose to be 35 and 18... both ages seem ideal (to me now) as ages from which to reboot my life, career, relationships... and sex life. Sorry to turn a light-hearted thread serious, but anyone in this "under 40 club" -- PLEASE take to heart the advice of us in the "over 40 club": if you are considering your own "reboot": BE REALISTIC. If your marriage has zero chance of being the intimate companionship you desperately want and definitely deserve, PULL THE PLUG SOONER RATHER THAN LATER. Yes, OK, we've heard it: kids yada yada yada. Finances yada yada yada. Family expectations yada yada yada. But -- listen -- it never really gets easier to leave your marriage. You are a giver, and are giving as much as you can bear right now. It is unlikely that you will suddenly become wealthy enough to divorce with complete financial comfort. (So waiting for that point in time is unrealistic.) Kids will take some bruises... but they are also taking bruises by you staying. (Think of how they will be nourished when you personally are in a more nourished place.) If you are going to do it, do it soon. That gives you more runway in which to launch "You 2.0". |
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Jun 20, 2017 11:20:42 GMT -5
I'm 26. Been married 8 1/2 years too... I knew it was sexless quite early, I just didn't know it wasn't my fault. That took a few more years! Am I really the youngest on here??? That would be weird. I'm almost 27. I have talked to at least two other people in their 20's and in a SM. And I'd say a healthy portion of Reddit deadbedroom groups are young couples (a lot of them are not married, but still) |
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Post by mrslowmaintenance on Jun 20, 2017 11:22:01 GMT -5
There was a young woman in here that was a new member recently... She had just finished grad school, gosh I don't remember her name. She was young though, she may not be as active though
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Post by h on Jun 20, 2017 11:25:07 GMT -5
I'm 32
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